kjl2691
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Hi. This is not the first time I have introduced this idea in my mind and I'm sure it won't be the last. I am positive ADHD - have been all my life but just got rediagnosed a year ago. My daughter has always had problems. From a sloppy bedroom (we did the star charts when she was little), to getting poor grades in school. Her school was still in the dark ages and must have believed that only kids who act out are ADD. They said she wasn't but I sincerely have my doubts to this day. She's always been a bit socially immature. I wanted her held back in grade school but they wouldn't do it. I regret not pushing harder for that. It could have helped. She's always been a bit introverted and quite reserved except for a few close friends which didn't even begin developing until middle school. in high school, she failed chemistry three times (partly because she didn't do the work, partly because she's always been a poor test taker, and partly because of attendance and partly because of lousy school). She ended up graduating a year later which didn't seem to bother her. I graduated a year late too and had similar problems. After we moved, she took a year off from school. She worked at Starbucks for about 8 months but now is at Home Depot for just over a year. She always seems to make it to work on time and never calls off but she has had problems with money there and certain other tasks. she doesn't share with me. she got her drivers license late because she failed the test 7 times. she totalled my car in december 2006. bad decision making. she has gotten all sorts of holes in her ears and face and now has a large orange star tattoo on her right bicep. she is very unorganized with important papers and has an i don't care attitude most of the time. i am so worried about her future even though she successfully finished 6 classes at the community college last year. she was dating this boy who was no good for her (evidence of her obvious low self-esteem) and he finally moved away a couple of months ago. then she started dating this boy who was so good for her but i think he broke up with her because of her attitude and non-conventional ways. she procrastinates like it's nobody's business and needs reminding of important matters consistently. and then yesterday, we got a speeding ticket in the mail. it has MY name on it because it's my car but it's obvious in the picture, she's the one driving. So now she has to straighten that out and pay the $200 fine because there's no way i'm having that on MY record. I am totally stressed out. And the thing that is so frustrating is that she's officially an adult. I can't "make" her do anything. she has no insurance at the moment. the insurance offered by home depot was way too expensive. i just don't know what to do. and if she wasn't paying half the rent, i couldn't live here. i'd have to move to the "bad" side of town and who knows what kind of living I'd find. i just don't know what to do. i suspect she is ADD - inattentive but because she's an adult, i can't do anything except suggest to her that maybe she might want to think about it all. i just don't want to see her life go down the same paths that mine has. i see it happening in subtle ways like with the car and the acting out behavior and the irresponsibility. sigh, big, big, sigh.
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Topic: could 21 year old daughter be ADD?
