Posted: 26 September 2009 at 9:00am | IP Logged

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I use several different kinds of software o keep me focussed on my own goals and on expectations of others.

I cant keep a calendar up to date and i lose track of past entries.

So for 9 years now I've been on a quest to find  a software that I can use to navigate my goals and tasks.

One I'm using now  is freeware but the upgrade has more features.

Differences in software makes me use some featuress just as a tool  .

one brand has an excellent plannar view  -- good for plotting on a calendar

another brand is a fast entry  mind map  type

while another is strictly a hierarchy of check boxes.

differently still    mobile  software is transportable  for those on the go.

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personally  having adhd myself  i have touble  sticking to my own goals.

mentally  i mean  . if i dont write it down i forget my minor goals  or some of the steps .  i get so distracted that i just go with the flow  more often than  completeing my own tasks.

 a few years ago  I started giving myself 1-2 hours a day to work on my own goals.  It has help to put that in my routine .  but its when i have the checklist w/steps  that i am more focussed  on completeing tasks and making new habits.

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from time to time  i would put waaaayyy to much information in them.

they would become  large clouds full of many aspectss  . this became confusing and difficult to prioritize.

so Ive found that keeping lists rather small  offers more chances to complete goals.

i try to limit a goal to 50 tasks or less

i also try to prioritize them with time  

1.  under  thirty minutes
2. under 4 hours
3. all day

also by cost

also wether i need help

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what i found was that i would sometime get to an impass.

half way through  and then i would stop  .

it took a long time for me to realize that i should have asked someone else  to help or to just do it for me  pay them or just as a favor.

it took me twenty years to just ask for help. 

ill explain 

things you can do yourself    well   its easier to ask someone else to  do a step  for you

and move on.

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so making a deadline for goals helps with plotting out  if you need help .

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lets take chores for instance.

theres daily chores like: dishes, laundry, and tidying up.

then theres weekly chores   that get out of control if not done every weeklike: trash, clear out the fridge, sweeping floors, dusting  , windows, bills. micro wave

but there are other things that are seldom done

like:  oven , cobwebs, vehicle cleaning , vehicle maintenance, sanitizing toys, archiving paper, drains, home repairs, fragrances , smoke alarm batteries and tests, purging unused stuff, wiping down furniture , under the cushions,  behind dressers and under the beds, seasonal decorations, updating disaster kit. throwing out old medications.

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i just through periods of depression or low self esteem  and mant days go by where i only do the daily things.  then i just get around to weekly things.  the other thing to neglected for long periods of time. 

this hurts my self esteem also . i get down on myself about things i know i should be doing but havent  and sometime the feeling become overwhelming i start but dont finish.

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so over time i started to seek alternative to what can motivate me to get it all done .

mental notes  rarley do it

paper lists get lost.

friends only help sometimes.

a routine is huge  but doesnt focus on total conpletion.

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so i went on a quest for software .

i found many hundreds and tried them out.

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 i came up with a formula hat works for me.

when i try to get others to adhere to my list and routine it fails.

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so i keep my list to my self  but i keep it on my phone where it never gets lost.

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but i keep a mutiple list  on a computer wher i can make other lists  about many other goals and projects .  so the lists become tools   . not like a calender but like a goals to do list.

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by giving myself 1-2 hours a day    i can review the check boxes  wether they are ticked or not  -   thats where  the benifits  are
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1. routine  invites progress
2. plotting the steps of a goal defines completion
3. no mental skills are needed to stay focussed  on recall of steps
4. review of check boxes  is equal to seeing the status of a goal
5. prioritizing the steps affords  support and/or scheduling 

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so  routine  and  software  make the difference.

they compensate for my feelings of being under-motivated < routine

and under-focussed < checkboxes to goal

example to follow

OK OK

I JUST MADE THS ONE UP SO SOME THINGS ARE MISSING. BUT IT ONLY TOOK ME  10 MINUTES AND I CAN UP DATE IT FOREVER   TO BECOME MORE SEQUENTIAL

BUT THAT IS THE POINT.

1. I DONT LOOSE THIS LIST
2. I CAN PRINT IT  OR JUST UPDATE IT ON A SCREEN
3. OVER TIME I CAN SEE WHATS BEEN CHECKED OFF OR NOT CHECKED OFF  SO I CAN COMPLETE EVERYTHING EVENTUALLY
4. I CAN CONTINUE TO ADD CHORES
5.  

Posted: 26 September 2009 at 9:40pm | IP Logged

ty

very encouraging.