Posted: 30 October 2009 at 11:17pm | IP Logged

be consistent.

make sure that homework time is always the same.

im gonna insert something from another post .it wasnt meant for your situation so if it sounds critical please dont take it as critical  because thats not my intent.

its my understanding that 3rd and 4th grade is when students NEED to become independant learners.

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when my DD was in preschool she had melt downs constantly.

we tried everything .

so  ihad thought.

i was listening to

Parents Journal  a radio program that comes  that i find insightful.

one morning i heard a child psyc talking about a similar situation.

he said though not verbatim

" picking up a kid at exactly the same time  eliminated the end of the day melt down a parent was having.

my situatin was sometime i would pick up my DD between 2 and 6 pm

thats when she was terrorizing her class mates.

so i tried that

3pm on the dot  and my problem child vanished  in about a month.

i still cant hardly believe thats all it took .

but when i heard the radio interview its very logical about  the anxiety   of wether i was coming or not. so i tried it  - being consistent  and giving reward for good behavior.

try also  the marble system  .

  http://www.adhdnews.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19898& KW=ommas

and this post about the marble system

vickie Senior Member Joined: 24 May 2006 Location: United States Posts: 2260

Posted: 22 June 2006 at 4:35pm | IP Logged Do not give up if at first things don't seem to work well or even get worse. When first using the token system with my daughter, we had some initial bumps. We kept it up because the psychologist had warned us that there might be initial resistance as she was really held accountable. The psychologist was right . Things are getting better all the time now.

kids often have some reaction to new things in thier environment. so with consistentcy and patience   and time .

a new system  will become a part of thier routine .

sorry if this isnt worded well  . i cant sleep.

Posted: 18 November 2009 at 12:59pm | IP Logged

Homework battles - been there, done that!  My son is now 15.  This summer we were seriously considering a military boarding school as the homework/school work had become such an issue at our home.  He was frequently academically ineligible to play sports which fed into his already existing anger.  Home had become a battle field.

This year we hired an aide who works at the school to tutor our son for 2 hours a night, 5 nights a week.  The fact that this aide also has ADHD, has had experience working with ADHD kids, and is currently pursuing a degree in special ed. in addition to the ag journalism degree he already holds, is a big plus! 

I cannot begin to tell you how much better our lives have become.  We do very little if any homework here at home.  The aide also is able to keep him organized, has access to his grades, knows first hand what assignments are due and helps make sure assignments are turned in.  He has been a God send!!!

It is also a big plus my son can get the tutoring after ball practice right there at the school.  It makes for very long evenings.  It is often 8:30 or later before he gets home.  Surprisingly, my son has not objected.  I think he quickly saw how much better his grades are, and the boost to his self esteem has been wonderful.  I honestly think he was scared and was beginning to believe he just couldn't do it.  What a relief for all.    

It does not come free, but it is worth every penny.  We pay a flat per hour fee with bonuses at the end of each 9 weeks for eligibility, and also a graduated bonus for Cs, Bs, & As in the core subjects.  My only fear is how we would replace the tutor should he decide to "move on".

 Hope you are able to find something that works for you too!    

Posted: 18 November 2009 at 1:20pm | IP Logged

< =text/>_popupControl(); My only suggestion, and it worked for us and continues to work, is to break those big projects down into REALLY small chunks. I mean SMALL. After each small chunk, give a reward and a break. He writes his name and does a few problems or writes down what order he's going to write paragraphs in, he gets a pack of gum (or whatever...15 minutes of a favorite show, etc.) and a break. When we started doing this kind of homework patrol, it could take until bedtime to finish his work, but it didn't happen all at once, so he didn't feel it too badly.  He did begin to complain about not having a lot of time to do one thing (computer, video games, etc.) so I told him that if he did more work at once, he'd get a longer break. We can usually do two subjects' worth of worksheets or three book pages worth of assignments at a time now. He likes the longer period of uninterrupted play. You may have to start out at half a worksheet or 5 math problems. 

Also, ask the teachers if they can let you know about time-intensive projects well in advance. If your purpose is to use more time at home rather than push the issue for more time at school, they may cooperate.

My son is 11 and a half, so I know how they can whine!  Good luck!