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Trock25
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Wow! Hopefull_mother,your daughter is doing good,i hope it continues to be good for her and you too.  Awesome!
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Luvmykids02
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Hi everyone.....thank you for being so supportive of each other I would just like to remind everyone that this fourm is for telling your ADHD story or basically an introduction. Any other issues you have with yourself or your child please post in the proper fourms. It makes it much easier for parents to navigate when they are loooking for specific information......eg.....school problems, medication issues, co existing conditions or just general support. If there are any questions please feel free to pm me and you can also review message board rules at the top of each forum as well. Thanks!
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Robots!
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Last month I discovered I have ADD. I'm 44. I had many of the classic symptoms as a kid but never knew ADD was at the root of the things I've struggled with for so long as an adult.
I came across the ADD documentary ADD & Loving It?! and that got things started. It's a few weeks later and I've read a bunch on the topic and met several times with a psychologist for several hours of testing. I have the combined type of ADD.
It's a relief to finally have a name for the thing that's been undermining my life for so long. I've always felt something was off - that there was something I just didn't get. It seemed like most of the people around me were just having an easier time of it than I was.
It's funny - when I told my wife I thought I had ADD she said she didn't think that was the case. I explained that that might be the reason I bought so many self help books over the years. Always trying to find the "fix" so I can get things done, try harder, buckle down - blah, blah, blah. She said she didn't think I read a lot of self help books until she helped me re-arrange my office (part of my ADD treatment) and she took stack after stack of books out of the room. She said it freaked her out a bit as she had no idea I bought so many books looking for answers. I never knew to ask the right question so I was always looking.
Right now I'm just learning what I can about ADD (more books but on the right topic - finally) and how I can change and adjust my activities to minimize the stuff I'm not so good at and get better at the things I am good at. I meet with a doctor in a couple of weeks to explore medication options which has me hopeful yet apprehensive. In the past I've abused drugs, alcohol and cigarettes and I still wrestle with caffeine and junk food to "medicate" and change how I feel. I'm concerned I may abuse medication as well.
One thing I have noticed recently is a small spark of optimism. I've begun to feel hope that there is a way to act on all those great ideas I have and to stop thinking I was less then other people. For so long I thought I was broken in some way. I'm a pretty smart guy but I how smart could I be if I wasn't able to act on the ideas I was always having? Why was I sitting on the couch when there were a million things I had imagined doing? What was wrong with me? It was never an issue of morals or some deep character flaw. I don't quite have a name for "it" but I'm done with beating myself up and labeling myself with some kind of defect.
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Paper Boy
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Hello!
I was told by a teacher in high school that I was probably Adhd.
So I told my parents about it. They said they don't believe in ADD.
About ten years later I was told by a friend whose kids are Adhd that I act just like her kids and I should go get myself checked out.
I did and I was given a perscription for strattera. This helped, but I still feel overburdened. I don't have as many friends as I did in hgh school. I didn't go to college. I just wanted to say Hi.
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BETHANN
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Hello!
There are many new friends for you here. I am happy to welcome you!
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MamaMelanie
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Hi, my name is Melanie, and I am the mother of three boys. My eldest son was diagnosed 2 years ago with ADHD combined. He was 6 and struggling through first grade.
Against the advice of teachers and doctors he is not medicated. We have gone through parenting classes for ADHD and a soccer study for fathers and sons with ADHD. We limit processed and artificial food and try positive reinforcement. TRY is the big word since I feel I fail him daily with limited patience.
I am here because this year in third grade I feel we are right back in first again with the struggles and everyday frustrations.
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mama of 5
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Hi! I am a mom of 5 kids. My youngest son had been telling me he was ADD since he was in Jr. High. My thought was, "yeah right, you're just looking for an excuse for why you're not studying". My middle daughter started telling me the same thing when she hit Jr. High. My thoughts were the same, with the exception that I told her she was spending to much time socializing, rather than studying. She was always extremely smart, and I thought she just never learned how to study, and that's why Jr. High was tougher. You have to be a bit more responsible for your own studying in JH, rather than having the teachers remind you of everything, everyday. Every so often I'd hear one of my son's friends call him ADD or my daughter would cry and tell me she had a reading disability. I didn't do anything but tell them to study more. It wasn't until she was in high school, and failed a dual credit class, that I finally paid attention. This brilliant child failed? No way! She cried and cried, and begged me to take her to a psychologist. I took her, but (in my mind) it was only to prove to her that she just needed to learn better study habits. I even talked to the psychologist first, and explained to him that she was using this as a crutch, and if he just told her that she wasn't dyslexic, or ADD, or whatever she THOUGHT she was, then she'd no longer have an excuse, and would have to learn better study habits. The sent us home with a questionaire to be filled by us parents, and her teachers. Well, after reading that, I determined that my son might have some kind of problem after all, especially since he failed three semesters of college by this time. Any way, it turned out that he has ADHD, she has ADD. I felt STRONGLY that putting them on medication was wrong, but the psychologist convinced me to sent him to an MD to put him on medication. He was put on adderall xr, but lost so much weight from not being hungry that they put him on two a day adderall, and now he gets hungry and eats. The difference has been DRAMATIC! I went from being So against and not believing in ADD, to an advocate. I'm proud to say that he's passed all of his classes since adderall, and we no longer get that "blank stare" anymore. What a difference! And my daughter! She is back to making straight "A's in dual credit classes, and is graduating a semester early! We haven't had a single teary eyed night from homework since being on adderall. I thought I would be turning my children into addicts from this medicine, but their prescriptions always last longer than the month, because neither one of them care to take it on days off. I feel so bad for not being able to recognize this earlier. My son could be finished with school by now, and we could have saved our daughter from so much stress.
In hopes of saving our youngest from this agony, we have taken her to the same psychologist, and he says she is also ADD, but he doesn't want to put her on medication. She makes straight A's in school, and is g/t classes just like her older sister was. I was hoping to avoid the failing grades for this child, but it seems that that has to happen before they consider medication. I would rather her not be on medication, but some days, when we're up till midnight doing homework or studying, then getting up at 5:15 a.m. for practice the next day, I'm not so sure. But I have to believe that he knows what's best. She sees him every three weeks, which is getting expensive, but I sure hope it helps. So that's my long winded story. And by reading it, I'll bet you can guess where my kids get their ADD from! :)
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amicrazy
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Ok, so I am new to this topic as well as everyone else I have read. I am so scared and confused. My son is 9. When he was seven, he was difficult to say the lest. He was physically abusive to me, kicking and hitting me; telling fairy-tale stories in school about his dad being killed in desert storm and all around throwing things, temper fits..... We took him to the doctor, who referred us to a child psychologist for *** defient disorder. After multiple sessions, we decided to go, because she was spending more time visiting with us and not our child. The second half of the school year, his behavior changed, no more violent outbursts, improved grades. Last year, he was straight a's at school, behavior at home was stressful. I read all about ADHD without the hyperactivity. The inability to focus, forgetfullness, up and down grades... Can ADHD contribute to his disrespectful attitude towards me and his told disregard for anything I say or do? I have an appt to meet with a psychologist in a few weeks as a result of my parent-teacher conference. I am scared, scared that he will tell me my son is ADHD, which I believe he is, scared that I will have to medicate him. Most days, I don't even want to pick him up from school, because I don't want the backtalking and hurtful looks. I have no one to talk to. I am a mess:(
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missya
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Please do not feel alone - We are all here for you. My son is 8 & he displays the same types of behavior. He is ADHD & he is taking Concerta 36 mg. When we first tried this medication it was like a miracle, now I think he needs a bigger dose, I just hate giving him the medicine but it does help him in school & that's where he really needs it. He can't stay focused. At home he is wild. I feel the same way sometimes like I don't want to go home after work because I just know that he will be disrepectful & defiant. I am here for you if you need someone. Don't give up there is hope. Our children are worth it.
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amicrazy
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Missya,
thanks for the encouragement. How long has your son been on meds? Doesn't the meds help with the defiant behavior or only on the attention (or lack there of) and focusing. Have you tried any other meds? How bad were/are the side effects?
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