rules

 

I've heard the use of posted, written rules can be helpful to both the child and the parents.  Any thoughts on that?  (Including how to, if it's a good idea).I wrote down some rules and printed them and framed them in my boys room, as well as in the main room of the house. We read them and went over there. There simple rules, no toys on the floor, etc.. It reminds them, plus i have the daily agenda up there as well, and the behavior chart too.It really helps if you sit down with the child and ask them for their input. They feel more like it is something they are a part of and are contributing to rather than a new way for Mom to nag.

I get alot of tips from SuperNanny.

I wish she could come to my house, but I am embarressed some one will recognize me. But she has some good points and suggestions.

Posted rules are wonderful. If a rule is broken, you have the written words to back you up.our kids pay no attention to written rules on their doors.My son does. He knows if he breaks them, consequences will follow. You can try.

I have the 1,2,3 Magic rules on my sons wall.........let me tell you If I say"thats one" and hold up my finger./........often I get to thats 2, but its all in a low tone not yelling so its a good tool for if your out.  I like it because its pretty simple.  If you want more info on it let me know and I will look it up for you, I found it in a book.

I do the 1,2,3 things works great on him. Advice for one with a 12 year old who has little outside family life. We have so many rules it would take forever to write them all down.  But my grandchildren know what the rules are and also the rewards or consequences are.
The most important thing with them was making it a daily deal and not taking it as the original sin and sacrificing them on the alter  (intended to stop the behavior  forever -- good luck).  That never worked for the  ADHD child.

what is the 123 magic program

 

actually the 1,2,3 rule is usually what i end up resorting to w/ my 6 yr old first i tell him what the consequence is going to be if he doesn't stop (which usually he doesn't) the i start the 1 ----when i get to 2 he stops ---then usually slams his feet as he leaves the situation...i made it to 3 once and thats all it took because while he slept i acted on the consequence which was to remove every toy and video out of the house into the garage...(lots of work but worth never getting to 3 again) he had to earn everything back w/ good behaviour.
 


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