HELP
hello everyone... most of you know what i have been going thru with dillon well yesterday was my worse day of all.... last week i talked to the doctor about dillon's behavior and he told me to stop giving dillon the abilify in the morning... so i lowered the dose and he was little better so on sunday i didn't give it to him at all...on monday he was a little devil... he cried uncontrollable,very violent punching me in the face,throwing balls at me.but the worse was he was banging his head on the driveway.. 
... during his outburst"s his eyes looked so weird. it was like he wasn't there... i love my son with all my heart..and i want the best for him... i just don't know what to do any more... my god he is only 3 1/2 what the heck is he going to be like when he is older?
Shari, this child sounds off the charts for ADHD. At his age you probably will not get what his final diagnosis will be nor will you be able to know what he will be like at, say, 16. I can tell you that my son was much like yours at 3, and is very placid and calm at 12. It's almost like it's not the same child. He went through a variety of dx. and meds, and finally got diagnosed right with PDD-NOS, and has been doing great since off meds and with intensive therapy for higher functioning autism. This may not be the road your son takes, but there is no "black cloud" for any child so young. Chances are you will visit many dx. and medications and doctors before you get the whole thing sorted out. If there are mood disorders and/or substance abuse in the family, those are red flags for early onst bipolar and, yes, a three year old can have it. You can be born with it. If there are autistic people in your family tree, it could be that. I'm sure it can be other things too. It sounds like more than ADHD and ADHD/ODD is a common diagnosis when a doctor just doesn't know what's going on. I suspect you'll visit THAT diagnosis next. I have a few other sites you may want to visit to see if they can help you out too. Never hurts to get more opinions. I also recommend that, for the meantime, you read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It's awesome!
Good luck and calm down. Remember, it can and will get better as he gets older and it becomes more clear to the professionals what kind of treatment he needs. At three it's a crapshoot.
Maybe he'll out grow this behavior when he's older. Right now he's 3 1/2, he's young and doesn't know how to express his feelings, so the best thing for him right now is to act the way he feels, frustrated, scared, and throws these temper tantrums in a way he knows how to get through to you. Be patient right now, and maybe help him with these feelings, maybe get down to his level eye to eye and ask him what's going on.....or say to him, i know you are mad but when you feel like throwing somehting or hitting something you need to talk about it, type thing,,,,you know what i mean, maybe he won't feel scared and more secure. Good Luck..... I'm sure once he gets to age 5 and up it'll get better.Sheri, Hang in there! You are going through a hard time right now but you ARE on top of things. You are seeking the answers now while he is still little. You have such a good chance of finding ways to help him before he becomes too big to handle. You have more control over him than you realize. Think about what he would be like without you being there for him and doing what you can.
You are a good, loving mother and you have what it takes to see this through! When was the last time you got away from him for a few hours so you could relax and recharge? Don't neglect yourself and your needs! You really need to do something enjoyable and relaxing just for Sheri!
barb, hubby and i got away from the kids this sunday... for 3 hours
it was real nice....thanks for your kind words...
redhead, i truly hope your right.... i hope he outgrows his behavior.. i have been thru so much with him..
psm....i am reading the explosive child now.... i know he probably isn't adhd..... i truly feel that he is bipolar and so does his doctor...
I am so sorry Sheri for your horrible day!!!!!! Do something for yourself today. If you can. Sheri..... I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this.... I am glad you got some adult time with the hubby..... I don't know what to suggest for you since as you know andrew is very similar and we are still trying to get a diagnosis that works and meds that work.... you are in my thoughts and I wish that there was something I could do to help you more...Sheri,
I, too, am sorry you had such a bad day. I forget -- was Dillon evaluated for seizures? When you said his eyes looked weird, like he wasn't there, it made me think of seizures. I also think manic episodes associated with bipolar can also make a child not seem all there. I just wish your doc could find a combination of meds that would help Dillon -- I'm sure you wish that, too. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
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Sheri,
I, too, am sorry you had such a bad day. I forget -- was Dillon evaluated for seizures? When you said his eyes looked weird, like he wasn't there, it made me think of seizures. I also think manic episodes associated with bipolar can also make a child not seem all there. I just wish your doc could find a combination of meds that would help Dillon -- I'm sure you wish that, too. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
[/QUOTE] the 1st doctor i took dillon to did an eeg and said he was having seizures.... so i went for a 2nd and then a 3rd opinion to find out he isn't having seizure... in a way i wish he was.. i could handle the fact that he is having a seizure instead of just flipping out on me for no reason,...
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