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hey chjones,i read somewhere that basically following your own bliss is unselfish because chances are that whatever you are interested in is something that you are good at, and that ultimately this will benefit people more than if you force yourself to do something that others value but that you resent or are incompetent at.
i see this all the time at work. people hate their jobs, so they end up creating a toxic environment for the rest of us. one woman, in particular, constantly says "i should have become a <insert career>." she happens to be one of the most negative people i've ever met, and most of us think, "PLEASE! PLEASE! go and do something you like, b/c you make the rest of us miserable."
consider robin williams--i'd rather see him on stage than moving into the cubicle next to me. if artists were forced into the normal mode, we might not have our best pieces that 'normal' people pay so much money for, etc.
cj,
I completely understand where you're coming from. I also am very spiritual versus religious. Which cracks my husband up because I know more about many religions than most people he's ever met - due to my intense curiousity in these types of things.
Talking about not being a supermom - I'm reading a great book right now that you should check out - Moms with ADD by Christine Adamec. It's very good in helping you come to grips with not trying to be 'all that'.
And another one I'm getting great tips from Survival Tips from Women with AD/HD by Terry Matlen. I found so many great tips in that book last night, I'm not sure how I can mark them all. 
Autumn
jones:
I think alot of our problem with being so frustrated having ADD is that it isn't a "respected" problem/whatever you want to call it.Like for instance, diabetes. People are understanding about things like that, its a "concrete" problem, a blood test proved it! I am sooooooo reluctant to tell anyone I have ADD........and usually dont'. Because they furrow their brows, usually, and just go "hmmm, really?". People hear so much that it is just an excuse for docs to give drugs and it doesn't really exist. I think if we had something other people see as "legitamate" (sp?) we would likely feel differently about "how we are".
Even my husband, who knows how I am, wonders why I can't "just blow it off and get on with it". He's not mean about it, just confused. Which makes me feel like I have to defend myself all the time. I don't want him to think I'm "using ADD" as an excuse. I want him to understand that it IS alot like a diabete needing insulin, they cant' help it and neither can I. But as I said, our society in general doesn't put alot of weight in the ADD/ADHD diagnosis. Only the ones who have it know how real the weight is.
I'm having a hard time understanding why so many people have issues with a brain being "off". Is science not a subject of interest these days?
People who have had head injuries have exhibited extremely different behaviours or talked about things they were seeing, science has come far (in some ways), you can see pictures of our frontal lobes for Pete's sake! If a brain is not working correctly and our toxic modern society is making it worse cleanup as much as possible and as most of you are saying..and then accept and get on with it...if you can.
Jones, since everything is relative I can't help thinking that at least your family believes there is something different about your brain. I hope you continue to communicate w/people who will support what you want...it's hard to non conform...like a constant skirmish