Foot in mouth disease | ADHD Information

[QUOTE=sabina](also works in reverse for men too, just not as prevalant)[/QUOTE] That's queer, isn't it?

Yep, I love Dori!  I can remember various statements of hers.  What great fun!  Remember when they met the sharks?  ROFL  "I don't think I've ever ate a fish..."

You'll love this - I have a woman friend who's name is Lu.  She's a weight lifter.  She's not really big or manly looking (though she does have great muscle tone).  Her favorite thing in the world to do is to go into the gym and start lifting more weight than the other guys around her! 

I've seen her curl 60 lb dumbbells!  She loves it when the guys take off until she leaves the weight area.  LOL 

HHAHA, thats great  That eqactly the kind of thing i would do, if i weight lifted.

Lol that was so funny wen they met the sharks, the shark club thing, brillent. Hmm I wish I could remember phases, my memory just aint that gud. Hmm, *puts finding nemo on rental list*  LOL

I must have watched that movie a dozen times - we have it at home.  I haven't seen it in a while.  I need to get it back out.  I haven't seen it since I've been diagnosed.

I love when the fish tell her to go THRU the trench not over it but when she tries to tell Marlin he distracts her to convince her do what he wants her to do.  What does he say...  Is that where he says "Oh, Look!  Something Shiny!" ?!?

[QUOTE=Davidornado][QUOTE=sabina](also works in reverse for men too, just not as prevalant)[/QUOTE] That's queer, isn't it?[/QUOTE]

tut tut tut

I think its unfair that woman are allowed to do things which are "manly" by societies standards and its "atterting themselves" but if men do things which are "womenly" by societies standard then they're queer.  

 

I cry when I'm in an argument, its really frustrating, esp when I was having a stern talk with a leturer as they were being mean to the students then my voice gets all quaky and i cry. But i dont feel like crying, I just want to present the way I feel but it all goes wrong.

Autumstar,

I work in techy stuff so it can get very frustating when people think techy stuff is a guy thing. Comments like "Is it right for a girl to do AV" and "Us men will carry the heavy things you take the light things" or "I'm looking for a man to help me with my computer" winds me up no end. If I couldn't carry anything I wouldn't be in a job where you have to rigg cameras, lighting, audio equipment. Grr.

Parhaps it is a ADD thing, *goes to google.*

P.S, I LOVE your, and the word goes, *thinks for a while* bottom writey thingy. "Keep on swimming, keep on swimming." I forgot that, hehe, its goin to be going around my head for a while now and verbalised to the annoiyence of my family members.  Sigh, Dori is just so great.

I only cry if I get extremely angry.  heh heh

I grew up down in Alabama.  I had to work 3 times harder than any guy just to be respected as much as guy.  I know your pain.

I also try to avoid confrontations if at all possible. 

Is this an ADD thing?  Just wondering.

Autumnstar

Oh the crying thing - I do that too. I hate it when I'm in the middle of an argument or even just a discussion and i really think I have a valid point to make, but then I end up crying and my point is lost!

I have heard some women say they use crying as a tactic, almost as a weapon - I never feel like crying achieves anything positive when I'm talking to a man. I think men have a hard time seeing women cry - they don't understand it or like it and it makes them think we are weak. Or it just makes them feel bad that they've "made" us cry but that doesn't really help either.

I have always been considered a crier. I can barely get through some Maxwell House commercials! Over time I have trained myself not to cry as often, but being frustrated or really tired times when I almost always end up crying. I've heard that if you feel tears forming, if you look up at the ceiling it can sometimes stop them. Doesn't seem to work for me and then whoever I'm talking to thinks I'm not paying attention.

(I'm mostly a lurker, but thought I'd share this from today, as I'm hoping some of you will relate)

I stuff from this dangerous malady. Let me give you an example.

I was complaining about a sexist foreman. Well, making fun of him is a better statement. I refuse to work with this man because he's one of the most sexist men I've ever met. And I was in the military

So as I was venting, guess who was in the group listening? His brother. So I covered it nicely and said, "feel free to say this to Luke, because I make no secret over the reason I don't like him." His brother, of course, defended his baby brother by saying that he's used to looking after women and has nothing but the highest respect for women. He doesn't let women work on his teams because he's trying to protect them. My response was "I don't need his protection. I'm here to work, not get knocked up in his car during breaks." (He knocked up his lead assistance ).

Then the brother said, "you should tell him that you can work as good as a man and he'll back off." I said, "that's the problem. I shouldn't have to say that. It should be assumed that my work is equal until otherwise discovered or annouced."

Still, I don't really want it to get back to Luke (which really, it's going directly to him b/c come on it's his brother). I don't want to have "that" conversation with him, as I'll end up losing my temper or (worse) getting frustrated. I cry when I'm frustrated, which is something I don't don't don't want to do in an argument with him of all people.

Tomorrow is my last day for 4 days. Perhaps it will be all forgotten by then.

Why oh why can't I learn to keep my mouth shut? I bring this totally upon myself.

I can see why you wouldn't want to cry, he would just jump on that wouldn't he. I think your attitude re "pass this on" is the best. Because as woman, or young woman we all get the ongoing sexist stuff (also works in reverse for men too, just not as prevalant in certain situations) we learn one thig. Most men don't like woman. (in North American society)Who usually raises them? Their mothers.  And what is it all about, FEAR.
And who's fault is it they don't like woman?
1. The powers that be because "divide and conquer" is tried and true for gaining control and big time power (see Ireland, India...)
2. Their mothers (or female guardian)
3. All the bitches they run across in their lives who empty thier pockets and generally behave in a highly non-accountable manner.
Of course, they have to take respons when they are choosing these woman but hey, people can be sneaky.
So, I see men as those who like woman and those who don't and try to get by that way. Let's just keep it black and white okay! Good luck and hopefully he won't want to deal with it either and just let it fadddeeee awayyyy...

[QUOTE=kristadb]His brother, of course, defended his baby brother by saying that he's used to looking after women and has nothing but the highest respect for women. He doesn't let women work on his teams because he's trying to protect them.

Then the brother said, "you should tell him that you can work as good as a man and he'll back off." I said, "that's the problem. I shouldn't have to say that. It should be assumed that my work is equal until otherwise discovered or annouced."

 I cry when I'm frustrated, which is something I don't don't don't want to do in an argument with him of all people.[/QUOTE]

You have 4 days to get angry in. Get mad enough to inform him that you are working there because of your ability, and obviously a person's sex has nothing to do with that or you wouldn't have been hired in the first place.

You can also let him know that there are people over his head whom you can go to if he makes it too hard for you to do your job. Point out to him that he should spend his time worrying about his job. That is what he is being paid to do, he is not being paid to hit on other employees!

I once worked for a guy who hit on my constantly. I liked the guy as a person but he was married, and I wouldn't have gone out with him even if they had split up. I would not knowingly get involved with a cheater.

The way I dealt with him was, I finally told him point blank that I liked his wife and would have no part in hurting her. I also told him that if he continued to hit on me, I was going to report him and he would be in big trouble. I meant that I would report him to his superior but he thought I was going to tell his wife! He apologized all over the place and begged me not to tell her! 

I bumped into him quite a while after I had left that job. We got to talking and he told me that I was the only woman he ever respected at work because I was the only one who put him in his place. The rest either responded, hoping for advancement or ran scared when they saw him coming.

My point to this whole post is that you need to get angry enough to confront him when he confronts you. If you let him make you feel vulnerable, you are letting him win. Let him see that in your eyes, he is little more than a gnat.

"I am strong! I am invincible! I am woman! "  Helen Reddy Well, that dates me! She recorded that back in the 70s.

man i love that 'bottom-writey thing'.... that always happens to me. the
dmn word just GOES.

yeah, i cry it's frustrating - i can almost control the tears now by blinking
them back but the quakey voice gives it away every time... and that seems
to be 100% uncontrollable. you can cough or try to hide it but it just
won't be hid ----- and even on the phone, when they can't even see you
they can HEAR you're crying. so frustrating. aah well.

the thing that makes me cry though isn't anger or confrontation but
sympathy or pity - if someone keeps up the level of hostility i'm fine but
the moment they soften or show any consideration, pity or compassion -
it's all over....

You might need to buy you a copy of it.  :)

Seen those t-shirts that say "They say I have ADD, but they just don't understand  Oh, Look!  A Chicken!"

I'd want one that says "Oh, Look!  A Cow!"  Cows crack me up - I have no idea why.  LOL

Don't remember at what point that is but was great. Maybe people should do that to me when they want me to do something, "Look mel, somthing shiney!" hehe.

Only seen it once, sooo gotta see it again now. I lack paitents though, I want to watch it and i want to watch it NOW. lol.

hehe, aint seen those.

I think it should be:-

"They say I have ADD, but they just don't understand. Oh look! Somthing shiney!"