what to tell or not to tell | ADHD Information

Judith - that IS a toughie!

Believe me - I mulled over that for a while when I figured out I have ADHD.  Took me a while - but I decided that this is an illness like any other.  I don't often hear someone be embarassed about having diabetes or heart disease.  This is no more your fault than if you had MS.

If it's someone totally new - maybe just say "gee - having a mush mouth day!" and laugh it off.  Or - perhaps say nothing.  I found after starting medication that most of the time I though people noticed my scattered thinking they actually didn't!  Social anxiety is often a part of ADHD and it makes us think we are way more awkward than we actually are.  My memory is back to full strength and I know for sure that although I was clumsy at times it was nowhere as bad as I'd imagined it all these years.

If it's someone you know - don't be ashamed of yourself or your ADHD!  Shout it out loud and proud!  Which would you like your closest friends and family to think - you are just unfocused and scatterbrained, or you have ADHD and it's not your fault - and you're getting help for it?

I hear a lot online who are frightened of letting people know.  I find that getting it in the open I get about 80 percent support - very big support most times.  The twenty percent who are critical or make fun would just make fun of you with no reason anyway.  That's life I'm afraid.

Just be proud of who you are!!! You're a good person with a manageable illness - and that's nothing to feel shame over!

Good luck to you my friend.

 

- Glen

That was soooo heartbreaking sweet and i will take that to heart, Glen.

 

I notice lots of times that when I really feel my ADD is very obviously coming into play while communicating with people, I almost have the urge to tell them why it is that they must be thinking: " wow! she must be stupid!" or "well, i think she is shy, or confused or..what is it with her.."

I've never told them..That is..people i hardly know/people i start to call friends(maybe), or just anyone i happen to speak.

I don't know what, how and if.

What should I do???

Please, let me know how you react on these situations.