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Is there any way you can get the neuropsych to testify on your behalf that the lock on the door was for your son's safety and that the chaos of his room is normal for an ADHDer?
I don't know what to suggest and haven't been through it. It sounds to me like the case worker doesn't believe in or know much about ADHD.
You will be in my prayers.
I have a three year old (will be four in a few weeks). I knew he was extremely hyper active and impulisve (among other things) and have been wathcing his symptoms for months. I had to use every childproofing item out there to keep him from getting hurt. He figured out how to dismantle every item we used. Per doctors advice we had to lock him in his bedroom at night with an eye hook to keep him inside the house. It's been a very hard year for us. We have five children age ranges of 1-12yrs. I am a licensed daycare provider. If that doesn't keep me busy enough add a husband who has been ill off and on with serious problems for the past five years (including a stroke and seizures) and then a 3 yr old child who has now been diagnosed with ADHD. Yikes! Back in May I had a daycare family that I had a conflict with and to get back at me they called child protective services. When they showed up at my door I was sure they would leave without finding anything. My three year old hadn't been diagnosed yet (with ADHD) but we were working on it. They mistook the ADHD symptoms as signs of maltreatment especially since he had a hook on his door he was aggressive and his room was "decorated" with scribbles, drawings, paintings, small holes etc.... A week after their visit I had my son into a neuropsych eval. They concluded he indeed has ADHD and all of his "behaviors" are secondary to his disorder. Now I find myself in a fight to keep my daycare business and my good reputation because child protective services is convinced that their was neglect/maltreatment. I am so heartbroken by this whole ordeal. I am working very hard on getting the help my son needs but all this child protection stuff is taking away my much needed energy and time. Has anyone here had their child's symptoms mistaken as child abuse? I am feeling so alone right now and I'm hoping to find someone to talk with. Anyone have any feedback or advice? You need to get proof that the door lock was recommended. We had to lock my son in his bedroom at night (we thought he had ADD at the time, but, as time progressed, his diagnosis morphed into PDD-NOS). He would walk out the door at 3am if we didn't lock him in. He was hyper off the walls. We did not get into trouble. He was a foster child and DCFS allowed us to lock him in as long as we had a baby monitor in his room so he could call us. You may want to get a baby monitor. At 3, diagnoses are fluid and subject to change so it may not just be ADHD, but for now that's all you have. Get a report from the NeuroPsych. That's all you can do. And never sound defensive or snotty. Don't tick off the social worker who comes to your door. Many tend to dig in their heels if they feel disrespected. IMO, from what I've seen, many social workers have ego problems and you don't want to mess with them in a negative way. Good luck!I hope things settle down for you! The child
protection thing can really be trying!!!!!! I would definitely
get documentation that the lock on the bedroom door was recommended by
the doctor, and bring the paperwork from the neuropsych to your next
meeting with Child Protection. Make some extra copies and I would
mail a set to the worker you have, with confirmation delivery, at a
minimum - that way they can't say they didn't get it.Good luck to you!
I agree totally with barb and hopper.
like you dont have enough to worry about with uneducated people sticking their noses in where it dont belong.
what one of those people couldnt call you? they didnt have the backbone and thought they needed more people? people like that piss me off.
get all the info you can on adhd and make copies, sent it receipt requested and tell them they need to educate themselves.
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