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We might as well "keep swimming" 'cause our brains are going to whether we like it or not!Moonmaiden, Give Youself time to get used to your New situation. You are doing Great to have gotten thus far. We, the driven ones have developed a self-whip habit! B/S, as Floofthegoof says, develop a Chill time. Start small and when it becomes part of YOUR routine look at other options that suit the person You are. It does'nt happen in a moment but with practice... Hemm!Thanks, Ryan - You're right, it's all so new.  In a way I'm trying to seperate out what parts of my behavior are my personality and what parts are adhd and maybe what parts started out as adhd and have become so ingrained that they're part of who I am now....  It's a process and they call it "life" I guess!

Gosh am I having a crash today!  I've been doing pretty well on meds since diagnosis in May (I'm a 48 yo woman).  Maybe the honeymoon is over - lately, I feel more "taken" with adhd symptoms than ever.  I've been so good lately, checking things off my lists, making phone calls, balancing checkbook, etc.   Today it's like "ENOUGH" - I can't keep it up any more.  I spent the entire day (and I mean entire) today on the internet.  In my pajamas, no less.  I feel like an idiot. 

I manage to keep myself so busy day after day and yet I never make a real, effective move toward my goals.  This, despite the fact that each day when I get up, I tell myself that that's exactly what I'm gonna do today. 

I know it's not laziness, I don't stop going all day usually (although half the time I can't even remember what I did).  Is this some kind of self sabatoge or is this just part of the adhd?  I seem to fill my time up with a million things but never the any steps toward my "big" goals.  I don't think it's depression (well, maybe today it is) - usually I'm in a pretty good, positive mood...

Any ideas?  Can somebody relate to this frustration?  Thanks, Pat

menopause??? 
i don't know, hormone changes do contribute to this..
You're right, Lori and I am getting right back on.  I read somewhere (I think in Delivered from Distraction) that one thing ADHD people are is - resilient - we keep on trying!!!  and as Martha would say ..."that's a good thing"...!!

Resilient is right! How else could we have made it this far?

Or, my personal favorite is from Dory ("Nemo"), "Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming"!

And don't forget...part of learning to ride is learning to fall, safely. Then get right back on with some new knowledge!Thanks guys for your good thoughts.  I do feel better today - sometimes I drive myself like a pack-mule!  I forget that I even have a body!  It's push push push - with never a thought to a little rest.  I've been battling a cold all week too - so I'm sure that explains it.  What makes me panicky is that I see the "symptoms" start to crop up immediately when I'm not feeling good -- "isolating" - "getting spacey" - "no sense of time passage" - and this horrible sense that "no matter what I'm doing - I should be doing something else.  This of course turns into a negative mood about myself.  Forgive me but I'm new at all this - it's like learning to ride a different horse!Take a lazy internet day once in a while in your PJ's. It's ok! You have to reward yourself sometime.

Hi Pat,

I don't want to sound redundant, but...it is important to remind ourselves that the medication which we take will not be a pancea. We all still need to work at maintaining wellness. It still takes work on a daily basis, but not as much and the work is not as draining, the chemistry of our brains remains more stable so that we do not become as overwhelmed and then plummet into a depression as a result, or we do not panic when there is so much stimulation around us that our brains cannot priorities which things deserves our attention first.

We are all still human and will have great days, good days, and lousy days, too. Sometimes we can also forget to slow down and breathe. The meds help us to focus which makes us feel like we have so many years to catch up on then we forget to stop and take it all in; pat ourselves on the back.

Give it a day or so and see what happens. Slow down and maybe catch up on some rest. Then take a breath and refocus on small goals with rewards!

Good Luck!

LoriT