Is he on meds? I have no personal experience with them but there have been posts about the tremendous difference meds can make in his ability to control himself. I have also heard of kids who are so happy to be able to function normally that they remind their parents that its time for them!
Ask your pdoc or psych about them. I would bet he is just as miserable as you are because of his inability to control his behavior.
Yes he is taking adderol and clonadine. He takes the clonadine twice a day. Once a day didn't help, but doubling the dosage seems to calm him down. The adderol helped to improve his schoolwork. He's only been taking these for about 2 months.My 10 year old son was recently diagnosed with both ADHD and ODD. I cannot control him. He's living with his father now, and I was having him here every other weekend, but even that didn't work. He is ok until I have to say 'no' to something, and he loses control damaging things, yelling horrible things at me, and the emotion seems to feed on itself - the longer he goes on the worse he gets. Now I'm at the point where I will pick him up from his Dad's (we are separated, and soon to be divorced), and I'll take him to a movie or someplace neutral where we can have some fun or relaxation together. If I try to talk about anything serious while driving he loses control and begins to damage the inside of my van. Now I'm reduced to picking him up from his Dads, taking him for a quick trip and not speaking of anything important. This doesn't feel like parenting! I began taking him to a therapist, but so far he refuses to talk.
He just left for a month to his grandparent's home. I hope this will give him the chance to relax, and come back home calm and ready to work on being a family again.
Sometimes it feels like I've lost my child. How do people cope with this in a healthy way?
SCMom