can i delete? | ADHD Information

I'm not an administrator, and not in California.

Does that make me an administrator?

Hey, 'Lele, don't two negatives make a positive?

Or do they just subtract each other?

I'm not repelling you, am I?

If I Only Had A Administrator.

I could help my friend cj.

Chjones,

I respect what you are doing -deleting some posts you don't want your Mom to see.  I know there are some I certainly wouldn't want my Mom to see. Don't let the others make you feel bad for protecting your Mom from things that may make her uncomfortable or you uncomfortable.  I mean there are just some things you don't talk about in front of your parents...at least I don't and one of them is sex.

chjones -- IMHO this site is probably too much information for your
mom. There is so much info out there -- why stress out about your
posts on this site? Hand her Driven to Distraction and be done with it. It
sounds like you are giving her the power to define you. Surely you don't
have to erase all traces of yourself in order to point your mother to
resources on ADHD. hello bepatient

i don't know??? have you made your point sometimes i am too slow
to get things.... (i am being honest here not deliberately stupid to be
sarcastic etc.)

i understand that i need to become my own person and i think i am
trying. i have moved at least 5000 miles away as a start???? but of course
there is still the internet and phone to haunt me!

no really, i love my family. i am 34 - therefore technically have been an
adult for at least half of my life, however i am very immature on many
levels --- i think this is what you are trying to say in your post, right?

i have no idea what i am afraid of --- if i knew that more clearly perhaps i
could tackle it. but it all seems a bit of a fog, various phantasms
appearing and then disapparating before i have a chance to get a handle
on what they were.

two things are guaranteed to make me cry. talking to my mother on the
phone (when all the guilt and sense of failure and feeling of being bullied
unintentionally and through love - come to the fore) and when people try
to persuade me to take the meds.

this seems to me an important factor - an indication that there is a fear?/
something that needs to be addressed? with these two issues.

in both of them i feel bullied. feel pressured. feel inadequate/stubborn/
useless/intractible/selfish/guilty/illogical etc. etc.

or is all this simply a consequence of having ADD and it's symptoms?
everyone has a trouble of some sort don't they?

i wish i did not get so affected. i often wonder why i do --- but it seems
to me in this situation that it is more than imperative that i stick to my
guns (for once in my life) and DO NOT give in to what others want of me.
which is EXACTLY the course of my life previous to this moment. then
again i wonder whether that is not just my mental sickness talking????
that if i were more sane - i would do as others want not just for them but
because i AGREED with them?

as with many of us, i have previously bounced from menial job to menial
job with no goal/passion to guide in any particular direction - nothing to
give my life a sense of purpose. i have no sense of control of my life - i
often feel powerless, buffeted by the caprices of fortune (although i have
much to be thankful for) from pillar to post in a senseless whirl.

is any of this important even. i think not, it is probably (scuse my french
what they call intellectual masturbation or self-absorption to the point of
disappearing up ones own backside!!!!!!)

but i suppose if i refuse to step up and take control of the direction of my
life, if i abstain from responsibility for it then is it not surprising that
others will step into the void??? so i think that is what i am currently
trying to do. simply take back the reins of my life..... and i am not sure
that i am succeeding. this is an issue that most children go through in
their teens --- for some reason that never quite happened with me.

i wish in many ways it never had had to come to this either. it
makes me feel hard instead of loving but perhaps that is just the
consequence of becoming an adult? it seems like a lesson i didn't want to
learn but who knows perhaps it is for the best. i am confused.

and er yeah (boy that was yet another long-winded rant about nothing
but it is 3am so who makes sense at this hour - i am going to bed
now!)....

but make your point again! don't hesitate to be obvious. you
can never be too obvious for me and i welcome any advice coming my
way. if you feel like spelling it out more?   
it can only help right? other people can often see more clearly.   
cjchjones38625.1361226852

chjones,

How old are you?

bepatient38624.8747106481I mean, what are you afraid of?  Just be real.  Why do you care so much about what your mother thinks?  Just be who you are; around everyone!  Life is just way too short to cover up who you are.  (have I made my point yet?)i received a lovely email from my mother this morning: in fact i have
decided not to include the email but my mom was asking about
information re. ADD ----



the thing is I would like to direct her to this site but I do not want all
my posts to be readable. do i have to go through each one and delete
---- is there another site that someone could recommend for me to show
instead? or is there a quick-style delete.... can i do a retro-active name
change and then i could just delete the posts which have detailed,
personal info....

any thoughts?

i don't think i am going to keep this post up forever either --- ! so any
quick answers would be great. chjones38622.4311574074Ping Cindy the administrator and ask her advice.  She's a canadian. The Admin is a he and he's from CaliforniaLOL Fallen!If you wait all your posts will disappear under the weight of David's.

Dude, you know it's become obsessive when people assume that you must be the admin.