Is anyone aware of a forum for non-ADD spouses or significant others?
If not, is there a way to start one?
There is one over at the addforums.com. Here is a direct link to that forum:
http://www.addforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=68
For future reference, this forum is a subform of the forum section titled "Adults with ADD" then under that is "Relationships issues" and then under that as the top line of that forum is this specific sub forum.
The main entry to this forum us: http://www.addforums.com/forums
That is great, I wish I could pull my dear husband in on the boards, but usually by time I find an interest in researching something - I talk so much that it is over kill for him. lol I know he loves me anyway.
I'm in on this, too. I don't have ADD at all, but I am married 4 years to my ADD-affected wife. I sure could use some advice; she acknowledges her ADD, but doesn't do anything about it (unfortunately, this is a "circular symptom", I guess).
It's really starting to negatively affect our marriage; we want to have kids, but she is so completely disorganized, upset, angry and disappointed in herself that we keep putting off starting a family. Which upsets her even more. It's bad to say, but she can't take care of herself; adding another human being to the mix may not be the best idea right now -- on that we agree.
Not a day goes by that I don't have her calling me while I'm at work about her missing cell phone, PDA, car keys, office paperwork, purse, etc. When we are at home, she basically can't accomplish anything; just doing the dishes takes her 4 hours because she starts 10 other tasks in between 'wash' and 'dry'. I'm in the position of having to care for her, the house, the bills, the cars, etc.
I love her dearly and I want to "help her help herself", but I am totally clueless about ADD and how to get your spouse to "help herself".
danny hughes
That is just great to see you in here,
Have you looked for the test charts that they have here or other places...
what I did was printed it out, then asked my husband to check everything he thought described me. And he hit on a lot of them...
I think he acknowledges, just that he is not supportive as I would like, or I have just been talking about it too much to really keep his interest.
I just become a member over at http://www.addforums.com and so far the support for Non-ADD people seems pretty good. < =""> addwife200138265.8265509259