I´m being divorced, can anyone shed some light; Please Help.
I wish I could avoid it.
I´m 40, she´s 28, and we´ve been married 5.9 years, and have been separated 9 months now. They´ve been tough years, but full of wonderfully rewards, like my two children, Mayte and Iker (5.5 and 3 yrs old each).
When we got married, I started out 1991 working at my Fathers Business which went bankrupt on Jan, 2000; (At which I lasted 9 years, only because it was a family owned business according to my therapists). After that, I´ve had about 5 different jobs, ranging from a Trim and Tassels salesman, to Audio & Video promoter, Real State Broker, Audiovisual assistant, Wine & Liquor Warehouse Manager, etc... ....I should add that I dropped out of Architecture back in 1991 when my Dad opened the business, to come back home to Mexico because I had broken up with the love of my life "Katharina", 3 yrs before that.
I do not want to on work on something that I do not truly like, anymore. I´m profoundly unhappy that way. As u can see I´m to old to go to college again, etc... and to tell you the truth, I love my family, and I want to be able to pay for their education 10 yrs from now, and still have a life of my own. So I need to enjoy what I do. ...and in that search, I was diagnosed as ADHD, 4 weeks ago, and I´m 5 days into medication.
Back in December, she told me that she didn´t love me anymore, and I believe her. She´s opened her own business, bought herself a new car, and is doing real well financially. She has been the provider for my children since I do not make enough.
Now I´m debating between letting her now about this so as to give owe family a hope, or not to let her know, to avoid worse legal action, and even face loosing my children.
PS: Last 23 of June, was the 1 yr anniversary of the purchase of our very own apartment, so we were rent free. I´m about to drop all in Mexico, and go back to the USA to work, since I have dual citizenship status.
Francisco
blancisco38170.721099537My wife has started to metion the "D" word to me now (we've been married 20 years). I was recentlt diagnosed and I think she realizes that I am never going to "get it together". This is the way I will always be and she just can't deal with it.
Is your divorce due to your ADD?
But that ain't right, mean there are many people here that talk about the improvement of using medications to manage,
Have you thought about marriage counseling, to help educate spouse on this condition and answer questions they may have?
Sorry, just wanted to pop in to offer support, and wish the best.
I got divorced 7 years ago. what do you want to know, it may be different here in England. Can I ask for what reasons. If you don't want to answer PM me. I'll try to help.
Adele
I went through the whole ugly, messy, painful process and am willing to help you with whatever I can. PM me or E-mail me with your concerns and I will get back to you.
I don't think there is an easy or painless way but I can share the things that helped me and tell you about some of the mistakes I made. Barb