WHAT GOAL IS ADD KEEPING U FROM? | ADHD Information

I think my frustration is simular to yours. At work I feel that I would have advanced much further than where I currently am. I seem to be career surfing and need to settle in and get ahead. That is my next goal. Career advancement. Lets see if these ADHD meds will help me along!i would have a life. i suppose. i imagine. i think. who knows.

i have never been very good with goals - i did that once with a friend of mine when i was about eighteen. and we sat on the boat to Ireland and wrote down all our goals.

so he had a HUGE list: get this job/become record producer/get this girl etc. etc.

and i couldn't think of anything so i just put:

Live (arrow) Die.

and when he saw my list he laughed and wrote. "as if you'd get that far!"

I'd take more action to make my business succeed instead of sitting on my laurels hoping that business comes to me while getting thousands and thousands of dollars into debt.

I'd be a voice over artist.

I'd be a published author (writing the book but am afraid either I will never finish it as usual or I'll never take it to the next level for fear of failure).

I'd be a college professor.

I'd have put more effort into my current day job so that I got the experience I needed to move to another company and make a crap load more money.

I'd be a millionairre.

I'd ........do lots of things if only I had the cahones to finish what I started.

I know ADD is not an excuse, though it certainly can make achieving a GOAL or reaching a dream that much harder...

That said, WHAT GOAL/DREAM is ADD making harder for U to realize?

Another way of asking is WHAT WOULD U DO IF ADD WASN'T HOLDING U BACK?

For me, I'd be a Writer/Director(& I WILL be, will just have to work my ADD into the equation...)

WHAT ABOUT U?

I am a VERY goal oriented person...

YES, I want to be rich...Not necessarily Bill Gates rich, but at least 10-20 million will do Fine...

YES, I want the FREEDOM to travel the world as I please...

YES, I want do everything The Divine & Infinite God has put within me to do...I DECREE IT TO BE SO IN WRITING & IT IS...Praise God!

Keep sharing those goals & they will be yours...ADD will lose it's grip, and you will be FLOODED with prosperity...CLAIM IT!

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[QUOTE=HeidiMarie]I don't have any high goals, per se. I've never been a very ambitious person. The one thing that my ADHD is really holding me back from is being a good mother to my son. When my head is whirling, it's hard to manage outside interferences, especially loud and grating ones (my son screaming at me). He's only 21 months old and I have quite a few years to establish a good relationship with him, but these first years are so important developmentally for his little brain, and I'm scared that my short temper and little patience are making wrinkles on his brain that shouldn't be there. That's my biggest thing, and the second is being a wife. Just all that comes with taking care of a family, that's what it keeps me from. [/QUOTE]

umm, I would say those were high goals. Being a great mommy to me is the highest goal of all.

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Eh, I make myself misunderstood! I meant in the sense of achieving lots of money or power or skills or whatever . . . My family is everything and the only thing I've got, I don't have aspirations outside of them, really, just to make them happy and to be happy in who they are and the love we share.

Somebody get me a tissue.... ;)

Topic: WHAT GOAL IS ADD KEEPING U FROM?

1. A successful marriage.

2. A happy marriage.

3. A good marriage.

4. A marriage.

5. Marriage.

I'm so ADHDed I don't know!?!?!?

from being an evil capitalistic exploiter concerned more with money than people. looking out only for myself, spitting on the homeless as LOSERS as i walk to my 0,000 aston martin, from my Goldmann Sachs job and driving to my expensive shrink to say 'why do i feel so sh*t?' and him not having the balls to tell me "i feel sh*t because i AM a sh*t - and to stop spitting on the homeless as losers would be a start!"

woo-hoo i am glad to be an ADD loser............

long live the revolution. let's change the world.

(oops feeling a little over-cynical today it seems....)

chjones38634.7730092593What the heck is a goal? I don't dwell on the past nor think about the future.
I live in the moment.

Glen you made me laugh.... what an acomplishment!

here is your

I would be fluent in Spanish.

I have been studying off and on for the past 5 years, been going to college to realize my dream.. but even with a possible Spanish degree I will not be fluent.

I would love to travel and spend time in a Spanish Speaking country.

If not for my ADD, I may have figured out what it was I actually wanted to do in life instead drifting through college and changing majors so often. I might have had the opportunity to study in another country and had clear set goals for myself much sooner.

I love Spanish, I love how it sounds and feels as the language is uttered, I love the culture, the people, and their plight. I love being able to communicate with more than just the people that speak my language.. it opens doors to a whole new, colorful, challenging world!

sherry

Hola Kibbles - It takes an average of 7 years to learn a foreign langurage

No preocupado!
I don't have any high goals, per se. I've never been a very ambitious person. The one thing that my ADHD is really holding me back from is being a good mother to my son. When my head is whirling, it's hard to manage outside interferences, especially loud and grating ones (my son screaming at me). He's only 21 months old and I have quite a few years to establish a good relationship with him, but these first years are so important developmentally for his little brain, and I'm scared that my short temper and little patience are making wrinkles on his brain that shouldn't be there. That's my biggest thing, and the second is being a wife. Just all that comes with taking care of a family, that's what it keeps me from.

umm, I would say those were high goals. Being a great mommy to me is the highest goal of all.

Well, I didn't make my goals, but the day's not over, yet. I'll just recreate them.

Hola Poppy Chulo
Working on that 3rd goal rignt now
Actually made goals today.
1) Take up Brig's suggestion about vodka
2) Kiss my horse
3) Finish the pitcher of Lemonaide & vodka
I would focus more time on my business.. i started a belt business last
year and was really into it for so long, and was doing really well and then
of course i just lost interest in it this month and now im actually losing
money.. this happesn with all my projects im OBSESSED and then all of a
sudden after putting all that time and money into it someting else
captures my attention.. but if I had a goal it would be somehow getting
myself back into that.. and going to all my classes at school but thats
impossibleStorm - I am the same way. Only I've been losing money since I started so now I'm so embarrassed and disgusted with myself it makes me shy away from doing anything to help myself. I got some good news today tho that I'm hoping has rejuvanated me. Maybe I'll get back on track now.

My goal is to have a clean house. With all of the laundry done, and put away! My dresser is the dryer and the floor! Everyroom cleaned not just 1 or 2 clean and the rest messy.To finish the painting that I started in august. That would be great!

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Hey Shanna - How do you fit your dresser in the dryer?
And what's a clean house?

Quiero mas gasolina.

Haven't you noticed... the "goals" of many "normal" people revolve around possessions and prestige? And only if they can articulate them at all. Bah!

After a lifetime of ADHD, who knows who I would have been without it? I don't know about goals, but I have many dreams. I've achieved a few. Many still elude me (and many have changed and shifted and morphed into new ones). I'd rather be me than be a "happy idiot and struggle for the legal tender." Most days, anyway.

Actually, I think once you get a grip on controlling your ADD (with meds)
then you have a massive advantage over most people. ADDers tend to be
more creative and are able to think about 5 times more and faster then
most people. Once you learn to harness that thinking, you will go far.

Thanks for bumping this one up shock - I just thought of something.

The only "goal" I can think of ADHD actually preventing me from achieving is one I've secretly had for ages and will share with you all. That's how special you all are to me.

I'm shy about admitting it - but I always wanted to be a "human mannequin". The ability to stay still for hours is required but dammit - the ADHD won't let me even now! Not like they'd pay me to sit, fidget as my ass falls asleep, scratch my nose, follow the kids' bright balloons. Sob, the sadness I feel at this! It hurts so much - won't someone hold me?!?

A human mannequin? - No wonder they tell us we have mental disorders

DO IT GLENW! Here is how, just because you brain goes a million miles a
second doesn't mean your body has to. Focus your mind on something
like trying to write a story in your head or something. Get your mind on
something so you can get in a zone and ignore everythign else. You can
do it. [QUOTE=shock] Actually, I think once you get a grip on controlling your
ADD (with meds)
then you have a massive advantage over most people. ADDers tend to be
more creative and are able to think about 5 times more and faster then
most people. Once you learn to harness that thinking, you will go far.[/
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Sorry I'm almost always negative...I feel that I 'm 5 times slower
than most people.That's because you are probably use to being "wrong" or failing because
of the ADD you didn't know you had. That causes negativity and for you
to second guess everything, right? I was in the same boat. Now I know
that what I'm thinking isn't "wrong" just different and now I voice those
different ideas and people love it! I do graphic design and my ADD has
really become a great benefit instead of hindering me.

Thanks to ADD, I've got too many degrees, too many unfinished novels and a cluttered house in desperate need of a good dusting.

On the plus side, I can write, I can draw, I can see humor and irony in anything, I love music deeply, my kids' friends love to be at our house, and I have a wonderful husband who has managed to live through the last 13 years of my life and we've somehow come through it. Now, 2 months into my ADD diagnosis, we finally have something specific to work with. Maybe in ten years, I'll have one of my books done, I'll be something more than a filing fiasco at work and I'll have a maid. :)

Actually I was being facetious! That would drive me nuts!!

I know I couldn't hold still that long. Remember in school being asked to sit quiet? I would have gladly traded having my hand chewed on by rabid beavers during that time if I could have only shuffled around!

I try to sit quiet sometimes. It's ok for minutes, then I notice the itchy nose, and the tag in my shirt, and my "boys" need reshuffling. Then it's hot and I need to take off my shirt. Then it's cold and it goes back on. Legs crossed and numb. Legs straight and cramping. AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!

No thanks - I'd rather be a wal-mart greeter than ever try that job. Ewww.

But thanks for the nice words - it's nice to know you support me!