Shoes too tight only in morning
Go to a large shoe store in a major city where there would be a lot of choices. If you can't find anything there, possibly the person in charge of ordering would check with their sources to see if any manufacturer makes some you think would work. Once you know of a maufacturer who makes them, you could have your regular shoe store order them.
Have you considered having shoes custom made? There are places which make them for people with foot or orthopedic problems. You don't have to have a problem to have a pair made though. I had a pair made once and they were so nice. They were very lightweight and had been made to conform to the shape of my feet. They are quite pricey, but when you consider what you are paying in a shoe store for quality shoes she won't wear, it may save money in the long run.
I'm going shoe shopping with DD, age 4, today. But I don't think this will fix the problem.DD has an enormous selection of shoes and I'm losing my mind. Yesterday, I had her feet measured just to be sure I'm not cramming her little toes into something too small or narrow.
On preschool mornings, her shoes don't fit. Obviously, the shoe fitting is stress related. Today, the elastic around her leggings was too tight (a size too large) as well. I sent her to school in a loose-fitting knit dress, luckily tights (it's cold and wet) and eventually her shoes.
I know there are some sensory issues going on here. DD reacts like a trapped cat when she feels squeezed.
She's a tiny little thing- 33 pounds- so everything is easily big on her.
Are there super-soft shoes out there suitable for school? She likes school and it's a huge part of her life.
How did you handle this?
Sensory issues can cause kids to think ALL shoes (or socks or both) don't feel right. Has she ever been tested for them? My son, who is on the autism spectrum (these kids are notorious for having sensory issues) only wears shoes when he has to, only likes a certain feel to his shoes, and goes shoeless all summer long unless he goes somewhere where you HAVE to have shoes on. He claims everything from "they squeeze my feet" to "they make my feet itch." He is 12 and still dealing with sensory stuff, but it's gotten a lot better.The size needed will vary cause they all run different like adult shoes do. Also look for dagless clothes work great. She probebly needs the slim sizes like our kids do.
Nordstrom's Elefanten shoes are known to be super soft, comfy, quality shoes. Heres a link to thier online catalogue.
http://store.nordstrom.com/category/cat_custom.asp?category= 2376778~2372809&origin=leftnav
Friartub,
A few thoughts for you. First, sometimes it's not the shoes that are the problem, but the seams on the socks and how they feel in the shoes. Kids with sensory issues frequently can't find socks that are comfortable. You may need to shop around to find seamless socks or turn the socks inside out to put the bumpy part on the outside.
Second, you might have your daughter try on Jungle Mocs by Merrell. They are pull-on shoes with a sturdy bottom that my kids have always liked (I wear them, too). Or any kind of moccasins might do.
Third, my 7-year-old daughter also has sensory issues (and, BTW, she's also a tiny little thing who weighs in at 34 pounds now!). When she was in preschool, she never liked to get dressed because I think she preferred the non-confining feeling of an au naturel state. I just packed up her clothes in a bag and took her to school naked. When she entered the classroom either naked or just in underwear, her teacher would say, "As soon as you're dressed, you can play." And my daughter would get dressed in the classroom. Power struggle completely defused. I'm sure if you just brought your daughter to school shoeless, she would feel obliged to put her shoes on there.
Hope you find a solution soon.
OMG .. I had no idea that this was so common a problem!!!! I used to dread taking Matt shopping for shoes! Even at three we had to go to every store and try on every pair and even, after hours of shopping, we could come home empty handed!
He is currently wearing a pair of Keens. They are a closed toe sandal we found at Nordstroms.
I buy him seamless ankls socks also from Nordstroms.
I found a small kids shoe store near our home and I am taking him there next week to see if we can find another pair of shoes that he will wear!
And Matt is usually in nothing but underwear by the time dinner is over at our house as well.
Wow .. the things you learn on this board!
btdt too! my son hates all things that squeeze him and he is not little by any means (7 and 63lbs)
We found some great underwear by jockey that has a covered elastic band, we do short socks that are seamless (hard to find but worth it) and we always try to have him wear mocs or flip flops - he likes to feel the air on his feet. If the school allows it you might try it - i know my ds slips his shoes off under the desk (every once in awhile he has to be reminded to put them back on) I agree about the morells - they are awesome for him too. I allow him to wear losse fitting clothes as much as possible. Funny thing what smallmom did - i did it too and he started dressing for school after that!
Best wishes while you sort thru all of this with dd!
We are now the owners of a new pair of Dora the Explorer shoes. Cute. Soft. Utterly not to my taste. They light up. DD jumped for joy in the shoe store. They fit perfectly. We get home. They don't fit. She wore them on her hands to show Daddy her new shoes. Argh!
I'm really cheap about clothing. My girls have an enormous wardrobe- since yard sales are my great escape. But when you add up all the unworn shoes, one pair of wearable shoes at any cost would be well worth it. I am certain that the socks and seams really are an issue. Today she pulled the seams of her brand new Gymboree tights apart at the toe.
She had a really tough time with a turtleneck shirt this morning- tore it right off. DD often strips down to just underwear at home.
Thank you for sharing everyone.
Very funny about going to school naked!
:)Hi I'm new and am so relieved to discover that others have had to endure the clothing issues. I thought I was crazy. Before my daughter ,now 9, was diagnosed last year, I remember thinking to myself There is something seriously wrong with my girl. The fits we went through every morning before school were enough to drive a woman crazy! The shoes were NEVER "right". To this day we still have issues with the shoes ans socks.For some reason, she also had a problem with sleeve length. She couldn't stand the sleeves around her wrists. We had to go out and buy all 1/4 length sleeved shirts...it was winter!Since meds its quieted down a bit. We are even embarking on the shoelace adventure. She refused to wear shoes that tie until this year (4th grade) because of the fine motor difficulty of tieing . It was embarrassing to her to have to take so much time to tie in front of her peers. Poor girl, if I had only known sooner that she had ADHD, things would have been a lot different. Also, I thank God every day that medication is working for her.
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