School issues please help!!

Maybe when he gets done with his work. 

He could tutor and help other kids in the classroom.  Maybe, you should suggest a little table by her desk, that the kids could bring the work up to him for some help.  Of course, ONE at a time. 

So this child could feel like he is helping others....etc....It just might work....then he would still be thinking and not being bored with spit wads and acting out for attention. 

I think your son sounds like a little genius.  He's bored, to smart, and I think if she starts to treat him that he is helping out in the classroom, this stuff would stop. 

Pa,

You should not feel bad for hugging your son at school--who do those teachers think they are yelling at you for showing your son affection?!  That is the best thing you can do for you child...show him that you are there for him and love him no matter what he does.  Has your son been tested for Gifted?  My son finally was tested this year (he is in fifth grade) and placed in a program that meets an hour each day--and he loves it.  If your son finishes his work early and is getting bored he may need more of a challenge. 

It does not sound to me like your son is acting that way because he is spoiled. That may play a little bit in it but then, any child NEEDS to be spoiled a little.

Your child sounds like he is BORED! If he is on high honor roll and finishing ahead of the others enough to be "on a roll", he needs to be put into a gifted program or at least given some work which challenges him.

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Hi everyone,

I am having the hardest time with my son at School He won't keep his hands to himself"not in mean way" he is a very touches kid and loves attention. he won't stay in his seat and when he does he throws spit balls or whatever he can to get the kids attention. his teachers have had it with him he gets 3 good days then a week of horrible phone calls home. his teacher called today and said he was tripping kids on the steps and is disrupting the classroom. my biggest problem is he is high honor roll and has been since 1st grade. they tell me he finishes all his work and then is on a roll. i am scared he will get kicked out and have to go to a school for bad kids. he is a tough kid and my mistake is i spoiled him and i feel bad  when i have to yell at him. and the teachers are yelling at me cause i hug him when i get to school but they say if he is bad he doesn't deserve it. my son had liver cancer at 6 months and i'm just happy he made it though that. i try to be hard on him and show him right from wrong but sometimes it just don't sink in, it's all fun and games with him. i'm sorry if i am venting to much.

Holly

Yeah i am going above there heads it's just a 90 day waiting  so i guess it won't happen to after Christmas sometime. and tomorrow i'll be starting the new meds. I did sit my son down and told him it's not to right to hit anyone but he turns and says "Mommy see counting doesn't always help" I have always taught him to count when he gets mad and he saw me doing it. i'm just glad he wasn't in the room when it happened. he nows hitting is always wrong.  but i feel it was well deserved. thanks everyone for the advice.

Holly

Go and fight for your son, PAMOMMY!

PaMommy, you did what I have only dreamed about.  I know it's wrong to hit a teacher (or anyone)  but I understand why you did it and I don't blame you.  I've been there,too.  I think sometimes you have to do or say something drastic just to get their attention.  I was so mad at my son's principal because she kept promising to notify us before schedules were made out so we could have some input and then one day we get his schedule in the mail, no meeting, no nothing.  I told my husband that I'd go in and pee on her carpet to get her attention. 

My suggestion is for you to contact the central office and find ou what you have to do to get him moved to another school.  Also talk to the Spec Ed coordinator for you system.  Just go over their heads.  Don't feel too bad about it (but you may want to explain to your son that you did something you shouldn't have done and just because you're an adult doesn't make it right).  I hope this makes you feel better.  Take it easy on yourself, good luck and God bless.

Oh PAMommy,

I am not even going to correct you on hitting the teacher.  I can only imagin how you feel about the whole situation.  You do not need to be scolded, from me or anyone else on this issue. 

So your son has been on Adderall before, sorry I can not remember reading it.  Maybe you should try Concerta, its a slower releasing medicine....maybe that would be easier on your boy.

I am so sorry to hear this.  Where do you live that this is happening? 

If I were you I would get your son a Advocate, and maybe even send him to another school.  This is just awful, please except my apologies for the way the principle and teacher act. 

Every child has a right to a education, and no child deserves a principle or teacher that is like this.  I would call the school district, and higher if needed.

That school district works for you. You just remember that.

Your child is gifted.....If he does all his work, and has time to play.  They should be encouraging your boy to have harder work or like I said before, helping others!!!!!!!!Botton line!

Hang in there.

Thanks everyone i have started the paper work to get his testing done, but i was told why bother they only meet 3 times a week for an hr and he doesn't seem to be gifted to them. i hate going to the school it always ends up in a screaming match and today when the school called and i went up their she called my son a brat  said he didn't deserve to be here and i hit her i was so mad. i am so tired of ppl at schools dignosing my son an they don't have a clue what adhd is to begin with i started the token system at home and he sems to enjoy it so i spoke to his teacher and she was ok with it but soon as the principal heard he yelled and said keep that mess at home. i don't get the teachers i am their all the time doing and taking him to everything they wanted but soon as he gets a good doctor who wants testing and such done they flip.i now i was in the wrong for hitting her but i can't stand for someone to talk down on my son especially in his face and makes him feel worse. he doesn't hurt his friends when he touches anyone but like myself as a kid i hated other ppl touching me so i can understand that. we talk everynight about his day and why some kids just don't like it but he says he just can't help it. well sat i am starting his Adderal again on sat so i hope we can get a better reaction than the last time. thanks for listening .

Holly

I am too sorry for all you have had to go through at school.  No child should ever be told the things that he has been told.

I too think he needs to be challenged more.  If they are bored, they will find other behaviors to interest them.  It is a shame that the teachers didn't see that.

Let us know how the testing goes.