Am I the only one who does this | ADHD Information

yup.

  Does anyone else here ever decide to do something like not talk to your wife, and then 5 min. later you have the phone in hand,  and say to yourself what in the hell am I doing? 

 or go to bed with motivation and an idea and it races in your head as you lay there trying to fall  to sleep, when morning comes it's as if the thought's were never there?

Daveloyd38645.5693055556

Yes to both. The first when I was first seperated from my now ex and the second, all the time.

Welcome!

Impulse is one of the wonders of the 'gift.' The mind can be filled with so
many new thoughts as to push that which you wish to remember, right out
of your head. Best keep a paper and pencils handy . . . as do I.Sometimes the thoughts fly through so fast I think HMMM WHAT was
THAT?????

 Chic

You could never give to much info, just knowing someone is taking the time to inform me and build   my spirit's means the world to me!

 These med's are making it easier every day,

                                                            Dave  

 I'm always saying "Argh, it was just on the tip of my brain!"
 I've learned to keep a notepad with me (when I remember to use it, lol) to jot down notes.

 On the other... I can't count how many times I picked up the phone or made an extra comment I said I wouldn't!  Especially with highly emotional things like relationships, they can be so mind consuming.  It's hard for anyone, and it takes a lot of self-control. 
 I try to do anything to keep my mind on other things.  It's not easy at first, but it gets better.
  I've used things like writing a letter (to that person, but don't send it) or in a journal, talking outloud to myself (in private, lol), therapy, called another person who'd listen as venting tools. (Er, and I have made the mistake of sending the "letter"...that always came back to bite me!)
  And things like excerising, working, coloring, cooking, cleaning, etc to get my mind onto more productive things. 


 (Dave, I have a habit of giving advice when it's not asked for, so I apologize if you weren't looking for all of that!)

-C

  Master Glen

you have really helped out, more then you will ever realize! not ready to take pepple, but the Adderall will do for now

 

                                           Dave 

 

I started much like that.  I took back me - and it gave me a feeling of great strength and confidence.  The dexedrine didn't hurt there either - it even says "gives false sense of well-being".  Well - that's a damn cry better than a real sense of feeling crappy!  Started to stride to work with a new vigor.  Said hi to people at work I was sure hated me - just to see what would occur.  They began to like me - turned out they thought I was snobby!!

First you - and to paraphrase a little known Austrian "Tomorrow - ze world!".  One day at a time grasshopper.  One day at a time.

Most certainly.. i keep a voice recorder next to my bed as i ALWAYS wake up with great ideas and forget em just as quickly.. so, after trying to write em down (and not being able to read my writing in the morning), i put a small voice recorder on the nightstand... never forget ideas anymore (ideas are important in my line of work..)

Hemmie

Oh My God I'm not alone, I have tried to explain this to my wife and family and they act as if I'm nut's, it's so wonderful knowing that I'm not alone!

Now the million dollar quiestion. how do I control this?

 

                                                          Dave

Hmmmm - how do I not sound like a rerun of "kung fu" little grasshopper?

Control is an illusion.  You will learn to flow with your ADHD - become the master instead of slave.  It comes - wait and learn with us.

Now - take the pebble from my hand.

I drive my hubby nuts with this.

"I'm not making tacos tonight, cos it's getting too late and Jerry won't let me cook so close to his bedtime."

5 minutes later:  "Honey do you want tacos?"

It's a feedback loop thing.  We concentrate on the thing we don't want to do.  We fight hard and keep it in mind.  "don't talk to wife".  "don't talk to wife".  "why not talk to wife?".  "why not? - talk to wife!" . "why - talk to wife?!?".  "talk to wife".  "talk to wife!". "TALK TO WIFE!".  "YOU MUST TALK TO WIFE!".  "WHAT THE FLAMMER JAMMER ARE YOU WAITING FOR - TALK TO YOUR WIFE!!!".

Agh.  Been there a million times.

With us - every thought becomes either so stressful our coping mechanism wipes it from our memory until after it's too late - or if we put effort in then it loops around until it's so messed up we're not sure of the intent originally.

Now with meds I tell the loop to shut up and let me think.  I can keep secrets, keep promises and not allow myself to make the same mistake twice.  Once yes - but always a new mistake thank you very much!

 

Lordy, all the time.  I love my husband to death, but here I am upstairs on the board when i was supposed to go to bed (that is I told him I was going to bed).  He and I usually only see eachother for an hour or so before I'm so tired or wired that I have to go to bed or play on the internet or read.