This makes it all worth it! | ADHD Information
Great going Sherry! Woo-hoo! Kibbles - not trying to down play your precious moment. But 'clean house' is not in my vocabulary. What exactly does that mean? You mean the whole house at the same time?
ok, to an 11 year old, a clean house means he isnt stepping over everything! LOL
dont ya'll go thinking it was perfect! There was still dusting to be done and 2 rooms did not get vacuumed.. there is also laundry on the couch and a big mess around my chair where I am still working on a term paper for school.
This is the definition of "clean" to my baby... that's ok! Because it is so much better than it has ever been!
Brooklea, I understand what you are going through!! it took me 20 years to figure out what works in the cleaning dept.. I'm truley not there yet.. but Im taking baby steps, and thrilling in all the little victories along the way!
thank you so much for all the encouragement guys!!
Sherry
babysteps?? a miracle is needed here!!!
my 10 yr old checks for dust, grime and everything else...
she has stopped being critical since i told her to clean the rest though!!
Congrats, that is definetely a major milestone. When I do things that I'm supposed to do on a regular basis, like wash my hubby's favorite fleece sweater, he gets excited and is very thankful. On the one hand, this feels very good, on the other hand, it's like "Wow, he gets excited when I wash his fleece sweater, but really, should he?" It should be something commonplace you don't get excited about!! :P i turned on the air conditioning this morning because it was such a humid night and the air was all stale....
while you are in a cleaning mood, please clean my place...
i try but i never succeed!!
its just so overwhelming
I am green with envy.
I sat around all day watching tv, getting up and eating and back to tv. Hubby was at a football game all day (tailgaiting) so I just tend to withdraw into myself.
On a good note - I was able to do some "organizing" of my gym financial papers. That is, I put them into envelopes. I've been meaning to do this for months. Of course, I was supposed to continue with that and actually start figuring out and recording my expenses, profit and loss, etc, etc, but I figure a little bit is better than nothing.
Now we'll see how long it takes me to file the files and do the rest of the work!
Can't wait to be like you, Kibbles (and Glen).
Awesome Kibbles!!
It gets better too - I got started like that - one compliment (the fact I noticed even that was a plus - usually ended up not seeing that), then two, then work was better, people smiling and not at some goofup I did.
Every step foreward from now on and you'll be building on the last one. It truly is a wonderful life now!!
Glad you're on the upswing. Tell us more as it happens!
Today was the first day of really cold weather this season. We turned on the fire place and turned into a family of hermits because of how cold it was outside. THen I heard the best thing from my 11 yr old:
Wow!! mom this is just like Christmas! It's cold outside, its warm inside, and the house is clean!!
To have a child notice a difference ( a boy even!) makes all the fussing with meds, all the waiting for change and frustrations so WORTH IT!!
My self esteem just took a mighty leap
Sherry
Why upwings? It's actually a simple reason. We don't get the "action reaction" thoughts that others' do. We look to alleve anxiety and stress NOW. Not worried about what comes next - just "fix" it for the now and worry later.
Making payments is boring. Mind says "hey- I don't want to do something boring - lets go read that magazine you wanted to earlier!". We don't get that other voice telling us we'll regret it - it gets drowned out in the mix of sounds in our minds.
Once therapy and meds kick in - it's much easier (though not perfect). The cause and effect comes in - however we have to work at it and it does get easier.
I still have to put in the effort to listen when my mind says "you'lllll be sorrryyyyy!!" every now and then. But when I do - wow is it worth it!
Excellent Sherry!
I'm looking forward to getting to that point where my kids notice, my kids are older 23/21/18,
Excellent Job keep it up and we are all behind you!
Why do we put things off? It does not help a thing. It only makes thingsworse, yet. There are some 'tasks' that just seem to be out side of what I am
able to do. I sometimes would rather pay a late fee than send the payment. I
have the money to pay the bills . . . just can't at times get to it. Some things
I just forget altogether, only to find out too late.
If you were able to do one of these 'hard' things, then good for you.i hate that --- putting off thing.
i was sitting the other day and i KNEW i had to go to put more money in the meter but by the time i realised that it would have run out - it had already run out half an hour ago, so then i rationalised and said well, no point in bothering to go to put money in the meter now... i probably already have a ticket (the meter is all of half a block up the street from where i am right now, no distance). so, of course, i don't move at all.
later i get up to go and as i walk out onto the street (a good twenty minutes after having thought about putting money in the meter) i see the parking warden just driving off after having given me a ticket. - for 25c and laziness. and of course i won't pay now anyway, i will wait until i get some threatening letters.... and it goes up. urgh!
so stupid. but so typical.
how loathesome it all is - personally i think we should have free parking. that's my defence
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