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I feel for you. I am in a situation where I know I have this and I am hiding it and hoping I can keep it up for me to find a med that works right.  I don't want to loose my job then go to another place and loose that one because the meds were not working right. SO I just go day by day, I get lots of sleep and I take an extra shower. for some reason being cleaner helps me ; sleep better and when I want to stay awake and focus as I am not icky feeling.. your mileage may vary...

 This is not funny - I know what it is like to just start work after school & grad school, but you have to look at it like a learning experience because some jobs just don't work out whether you have ADhD or OCD.

Legally, your boss can't force you to resign & your boss cannot fire you (in most states) without good cause. It depends on whether you are in a right to work state (think Florida) or a labor state (think Massachusetts). Everyone is bored now.

Anyway: It's hard to prove good cause if your employer never evaluated you. That's probably why they didn't fire you. I don't know how long you worked in the first job, but you should ask yourself if it was the people or the type of work that wasn't a good fit. Even with the ADD, you could have probably stuck with it. Why didn't you?

I'm not being critical - I just don't want you to end up like a lot of people with these problems, who skip around from job to job & career to career. In 6 months, you don't want to realize "oh, I'd hate any auditing job" & quit & start over completely in a new field.

To those of you who said you are awesome at an interview & lose it over time, I feel the same way. I actually love interviews. I love being in court. However, 90% of the time it would be better if I felt so excited by sitting at a desk.

Let me know if any of you figure this one out.

dj

 

Well i've had jobs in college that i've kept for years.  But they were part time.  The think is is that I is very hard for me to loose a job.  Makes me feel bad and derpressed. yeah - the getting of the job is the easy part. 

the keeping of it, and the consequent guilt when you knew you probably weren't going to be up to it anyway and were just excellent at faking it in interviews rather than at any form of work.... 

and as you slowly start to fail, start to come in late, not get through those emails, miss deadlines, screw something else up, get overwhelmed, hate your job, feel pinned down by an invisible pressure making it impossible to get out of bed.....  then the quitting before you get fired, or the quitting because a promotion came up and they didn't even put you forward for it, or not being able to bear the humiliation of buggering up something else - a convention that never received its consignment of books because you 'forgot'.... costing the firm millions in overnight Fedex deliveries, or the resigned voice of your boss asking if you had 'managed' to get that done yet...

oh how i recognise that. 

the wonderful world of an square-peg ADDer forced into a round-hole job.  disaster.

that's not to say you won't be excellent with the meds btw - don't let me put you off.  and don't let your last experience put you off either.  as long as you think it is what you want to do --- that's the main thing and will get you through.  no problem.  i'm sure.

good luck.

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What sucks is I lost my insurance from my old job and my strattera is running out.  Its like over 200 a month to.  But if i get the job I will have the insurance again but it takes a month for strattera to work.
[/QUOTE] Do a search on a bill called COBRA, it has something to do with insurance transportability and may reduce the cost until you have a chance to find a better work enviroment

    

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What sucks is I lost my insurance from my old job and my strattera is running out.  Its like over 200 a month to.  But if i get the job I will have the insurance again but it takes a month for strattera to work.
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Well I dont squirm alot because I dont have the hyper part.  In interviews  I would stop listenting sometimes.  It seems like I listened the whole time today at my interview without drifiting off.  LIke I said. I feel that my add is controllable because its not as extreme as most of you people.  Its just the type of work that brings it out.  Im pretty much taking a gamble hoping that the meds will work and/or that I will know to controll it better or enjoy this job more.  At 23 im at a major cross road in my life.  I gotta take the jobs that I can get and hope for the best.  I was thinking of joining the union to be an electrition but it is hard to get in the union.  Not having a job right now makes it harder for me to know if the meds are working.  But when I read and study this book now it seems like I can get through it easier.  I used to haft  to stop and re read sections alot to comprehend it but now I can usually just read it the first time.  Hopefully its not placebo or anything.

What sucks is I lost my insurance from my old job and my strattera is running out.  Its like over 200 a month to.  But if i get the job I will have the insurance again but it takes a month for strattera to work.
Here's my story:  I just graduated last may from college and got a job as an auditor and then got forced to resign because of poor performance and I believe caused by my believed to be gone add.  I was diagnosed with it as a child and thought it mostly went away and managed to make it through college with it pretty much just by doing all my studying at home.  ON my last review they said that I had trouble listening and focusing.  I would miss things right in front of me and make stupid mistakes.  These are the only symptoms of add that I still have but this job really brought them out. 

However, I was never told how I was doing the whole time so I thought I was doing fine.  I also hated my work enviroment, the people I was around, and I might not have tried as hard to focus because I knew it wasnt a great job and advancment and raises rarely happened.  I also seemed to focus better when people werent around me or looking over my shoulder.

Now im thinking of giving it another shot at a different auditing job.  I started taking omegas and straterra and I think have noticed a little difference.  I also know that there is a problem now and can make a concious effort on my own to focus.  Also these new auditing jobs are different so i think I will be able to focus better.  I will be working in places I will like to be and around people that I have more in common with.  Hopefully I will just like to be there which is what I didnt have in my last job and I will know that there was a problem before.

The thing is I am extremely scared that the same thing might happen again.  I dont want to waste the employeers time or mine again.  I really don't know what to do.  I have tried to look into other jobs but there are literally about 5-10 times more jobs in auditing and its the only places I can get interviews.  I really dont know what to do.  Im sure I can do it again and I know I am competent enought to do it right this time.
jman0538649.7343518519jman - It does sound like a better  situation for you on your new job.  You might consider talking to your dr. @ different meds/higher dose.   I interview really well!  Interviews are novel situations.  I have no problem with those... it's sustained effort over time that I have trouble with.  I find your posts interesting, and have requested the book from the library.  But this piece of the theory doesn't match my experience.

Check out the book called Stopping ADHD.  This book claims that there is a reflex that our bodies never matured that is bothering most of us that have been dx as ADD or ADHD.  It claims that no matter how hard we try, we will be so uncomfortable sitting with arms and legs bent (that is how you sit for an interview, by the way) that we will be distracted by the discomfort.  The book claims that we don't notice it because it has always been this way for us.  We just can't get comfortable, and so we squirm around, our minds wander, etc.

I've been trying the exercises that are supposed to mature the reflex and after only a week or so, there is a major difference!  I can remember things.  I plan ahead (I've never done that!!!)  and I can sit still in a chair without crossing my legs a thousand different ways.

I think it is worth looking into.  It really has helped me.  I feel like a different person.

I think that most people just don't pay attention to my posts about this book, but I found it to be the most interesting thing I've ever read about ADD and ADHD. 

Wow, auditing... sounds like the most detailed of detail work.  You have my admiration.

If this is really the work you want to do, by all means try again.  Sounds like you are relatively new to the work world.  If so, you may not have enough experience to know how much of this is about you, and how much is about them.  The fact that the only feedback they ever gave you was to get rid of you indicates a problem with their corporate culture.  Personally, I've had jobs where they thought I walked on water, and jobs where I've been fired.  So much depends on the employer's perception.  Hopefully your next job will be one where they appreciate your strengths.