Just crushed~~~
I don't know what to say. My son's friend next door always exchanges gifts with him for holidays and birthdays. I totally overlooked her birthday this year. It wasn't on purpose, but it is hurtful.
Try to help him understand that sometimes people mess up, but that it doesn't mean they don't care. Sometimes it just means they messed up because they are human.
If the girls aren't sending out signals that indicate they no longer want to be friends, I would suggest that you encourage him to forgive them and go on. That's a hard lesson to learn but a very important one to live by.
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Barb, your so smart! What good advise. I read her post and couldn't think of anything to say.
Are these the girls whose mother flipped over your son eating their snacks?
YES!
I thought so.....that mother sucks!
I think she's still pi$$ed over the snack incident.
When their birthday comes, do not buy them anything! If they mention it say that you figured ya'll weren't buying gifts for each other since your son didn't receive one.
That would be hurtful for both of you. I just can't think of anything that could make it better. That just stinks.
It won't be the same but it'll cheer him up. Tell him how "silly" girls are and that they are getting older and have other things on their mind.
Coincidently, my son is 9 (next month) and we have twin girls nextdoor, too.
They are a year older but have been close with my son since he was a toddler. They tolerate him better than anyone else. They seem to understand him better than the other kids.
how sad... girls are rotten...did you have a party for your son? this is to funny i have twin neice's and there best friend is a boy who lives next door.. the twins are 10 yrs old... if you didn't have a party maybe you could have a small one this weekend and invite the girls and some other friends
I don't know what to say. My son's friend next door always exchanges gifts with him for holidays and birthdays. I totally overlooked her birthday this year. It wasn't on purpose, but it is hurtful.
Try to help him understand that sometimes people mess up, but that it doesn't mean they don't care. Sometimes it just means they messed up because they are human.
If the girls aren't sending out signals that indicate they no longer want to be friends, I would suggest that you encourage him to forgive them and go on. That's a hard lesson to learn but a very important one to live by.
I wouldn't buy them anything either. I would put the blame on the parents, at that age they need to be taken to the store and told to pick something out for their friend. Some parents leave it up to the child/ren, and if they don't say anything about needing a gift then oh well. As a parent, I have never sent my kid to a party without a gift. To me that's embarrasing. It doesn't cost much to put a smile on a kids face!Here kids are allowed to give out invitations even if it means leaving someone else out. Today some parents are just so Mean and no wonder their kids are also. Today you can't say anything or they have some excuse for that behavior what ever it might be. It ashame some lack feelings of others.| Well, tonight the twins next door gave ds a tool box from Lowe's for his birthday on the 24th. Ya know, it just isn't the same two days later, but they did come through. Now I wish I'd not wasted so many tears over it. Maybe I'm toooo touchy. It still didn't have the happy effect it should have had. I guess I forgive them half way. Isn't this teaching poor etiquette to those two little girls? Oh well........at least it made ds happier and that's what it's supposed to do. | ||
Its teaching them that when you mess up, you should try to make amends. It also shows your son that they do care but are only human. Its an opportunity to teach forgiveness and graciousness.
I can't judge someone for making a stupid careless mistake, because I am not perfect and make mistakes. It must be nice to be one of the people who responded so angrily, because obviously, they figured out how to be perfect.
My son plays with these twins ALL the time, they are truly his best friends. He also plays with another little girl in the neighborhood. This afternoon, ds came into the house crying, but didn't want to talk about it. The doorbell rang and I wouldn't let him answer it, so I did. It was the three little girls (they often ring the doorbell to tattle {you know how girls are}) wanting to talk to ds. SO, I called him but stood right there with him. ALL three of the girls told him they were sorry they had treated him so badly a short time earlier!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG...I almost fainted! I told them it was very, very nice to apologize to him for whatever it was that happened and I told them that they have to understand that he can get his feelings hurt the same as a girl can. They acted like they understood, so I told them, "OK, GROUP hug"!! They laughed, but the four of them hugged all at once. Devoted to you-Could it be something as simple as the mom simply screwed up and lost track of the dates? I've done that before with my own nieces and nephews and have delivered more than one gift with an apology attached. At this age, it is totally up to the parent to finance and produce the gift.
I am so sorry your little guy has had a rough go of it. I have fraternal twin girls (one with ADHD) who are much younger, but they often team up as a unit in their games and unknowingly isolate or even (to my horror) accidentally torment a child with "you're a monster" games. In our house a monster is a high complement, but to cute little girls at the playground, it can bring them to tears.
Girls at your son's age are so catty, and three together is a pretty lethal combination.
I'm really glad they brought the gift. Some families are incredibly casual about gift giving, my sister gave my girls their gift eight months' late.
Your son sounds like such a wonderful kid. (Hugs) to you both.
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