NEver and silence in my head... | ADHD Information

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I was in the kitchen before I came in here and totally forgot within the time I walked to the computer what I was going to check. I know that happens to most people but it happens to me ALL the time. Anyway, so now I came here since I cant remember where I was supposed to go.[/QUOTE]

I just wander from room to room wondering why I walked in there.

One other amusing thing about adhd speed... at work, people are always commenting on me and the computer. the IT guy came by and needed me to demonstrate how i would encounter a very specific problem. so i'm clicking around and running these programs and just doing what i do every day. he stops, looks up at my supervisor who happened to be walking by, and said, "boss... i can't tell what she's doing. she moves so fast i'm lost." he laughed and it didn't matter but i've had people say that before. it is impossible to slow down to show people things on the computer because i'm always clicking away so incredibly fast. it's like i already know what i'm going to do next before i even get the other thing done. and i'm always closing unnessary windows, etc, because i can't stand the clutter. the computer and my desk at work are the two places i have total control and total organization. at home it's a totally different story... chaos.[QUOTE=GypsyWomyn] [QUOTE=ragurl]

Question: Hubby will say "how are you feeling?" and before I can finish my answer, he is blabbing about HIS ache or pain. Or he will ask how I slept--then drone on about how HE slept or didn't sleep without listening to my answer. Is this an ADD thing or does he just not care??

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Ragurl, I find that I have that problem more when asking non-adhders a question (I'm the one ADHD. Does wonders for the self-esteem, doesn't it? I, personally, believe it's just being rude...and inconsiderate! [/QUOTE]

I so totally agree. I feel like that alot when my hubby starts off in some long explanation about how his day went at work when I didn't even ask. He really wants me to care enough to ask how it went but if I don't, he thinks I'm selfish. It's not that, I just don't have to know that every freaking day. He also wants a full-on explanation of my day and what I did and how it went. I hate that just as much. I don't want to have to rehash all my days. I will tell him if there is something salient enough for me to think of it but mostly I don't think of it and don't want to be forced to run though it.

And I also know exactly what it is to have conversations in my head. I liked Lostinthestatic's statement in a post that he has usually had the entire conversation in his head BEFORE he actually has it. I do this constantly. My brain is never not thinking something or imagining conversations not yet had or anything at all. TV doesn't even distract me enough. I've found music to be the key. I'm great at work and I'm effecient and I'm organized and I'm on-the-ball. The thing is, though, that I NEVER have the music off at my desk. I'm always listening to something. What I find interesting is that it has a focusing effect on me. I love to sing and play drums and whatever and so music has a way of giving my brian that little something it needs and thus allowing for good, focused work. The moment the music is off, the conversations or rehashings in my head begin again.

ragurl

he has immature things that will never develop and it is common with adhd..

add and adhd are both the same thing,,, he may have adhd if you can relate like you have known us your whole life.

get him to a neuro and get examined,,
Gypsy, I have never pointed out that he does it. I feel like he is so overwhelmed by working on his other MORE obnoxious behaviors, that I shouldn't nit-pick. But every time he does it--nearly every day--it grates on my nerves! Don't ask if you don't want to know--and no, I am not prone to giving long-winded answers which might p[rovoke such athing. I am all of the above , and 900 things more. Life day to day for me is a huge puzzle. Some pieces fit, most don't. kinda like me... I guess we do project ourselves onto everything. go to a neuro and have a session. adhd is a fairly common dx. makes me wonder why parkinsons isn't until later on in life.

also your immature in some areas of development, that is why you do what you do, get a pro to dx. and enjoy life.
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I have all of the problems mentioned above. I frequently am walking around by myself or sometimes with someone else, and I will burst out in laughter for no apparent reason. Of course I have a reason: my brain has drifted off and landed in some place that makes me laugh. I don't have enough emotional control to keep the laugh to myself. The people I'm with have no idea what I'm laughing about because they are on a completely different conversation, and I've frequently been called crazy because of this.

My brain races ahead and off-track from other people's, but then sometimes I'll have trouble following like GypsyWoman mentioned, especially when listening to instructions. Simple instructions sometimes completely confuse me. I sit there befuddled, as if the person is speaking a foreign language. I'll have to ask them to repeat themselves in order to get it (or just sort of get it). I think my attention may drift off and when I need it to be in the present, I can't quite get it together quick enough. It takes a lot of effort to come back to reality.

And like Annisims, I often prefer to live in a fantasy world (sometimes sexual ). I like to make up stories. They are often melodramatic, tragic, and I am always thin and sexy!! I tend to fantasize when my life sucks for some reason or other, but mostly when I feel lonely or like a failure. It's a great way to get my mind off my problems, especially when I'm trying to sleep and my mind is racing with problems.

anniesims - you're TOTALLY normal - at least in our books!

The things you're experiencing - very common thread in our lives.

Don't let the talk about bees and things in the head confuse your concept of the ADHD mind. They are essentially talking about what you are going through - just in different terminology. The "bees" are your inner voice - talking about everything that yours does - the smell in the air, why does he do that?, that sound is annoying! Do I have something I need to do? - all this going at once is our "bees". They fly around in our head - and its no wonder we get not much done!

Conversations are hard - so hard sometimes. Just like they say we can talk 20 times faster than we can write - our minds work 20 times faster than our mouths. So when in a conversation - your mind is already at mid-discussion when your friend is just starting to say "hi". When you get where the words coming out of them aren't fast enough - you can become impatient, you can fill in their words or just become engrossed with a pattern on the tablecloth. All so common.

Other non-adhd people can move faster than the conversation - but they have built-in safeguards against butting in or changing channels to themselves. They are "social norms" - those things that the non-ADHD get from growing up, observing peers and being disciplined by teachers, parents. Our memory is selective so a lot of that gets lost for our use.

Once you get diagnosed for ADHD (seems like it very well could be!) - you can either get on meds if the MD/psych recommends them - or get therapy to train new ways of behavior and learning in yourself. Meds don't heal all - but they give you the ability to hear ONE voice in your head - and it usually talks sense! The meds also give you the ability to be very aware of what's around you , and what context things are to each other.

I know that before meds I could be in a room with a broom for years in the corner - but my mother would tell me to get it - and I'd be "where is it?". She'd point - but it was not visible to me! Some kind of ADHD blind spot I guess. Now - I can see it, and even feel the urge to USE it!LOL!

Even just this self-discovery you are doing is going to help you. In the future - you will find yourself in situations where you can feel the ADHD behavior coming up - and in your mind you'll be more likely to go "whoa - slow down - this is where you are going to have trouble!". It does help a lot.

Hope your appointment goes well!

This is common and I know I suffer from it as well. It is really annoying because we can't seem to control it. You are far from alone. Hi Annie! Welcome!

I believe, at least for me, the reason for having difficulty following someone else's conversation ... or their side of a conversation ... is because of the need to process what they have already said. And while I'm still back trying to process something they said earlier, they are already on another topic.

We AD/HDers are also known for visualizing most things -- either said to us or in our own thoughts...another thing to just slow us down in following conversations, or instructions that are given too quickly. So you are not alone, Anne.

Nor are you alone having conversations (with yourself) in your head. Not at all! I can't even following my OWN converations.

And memory, oy! I had to keep going back to read what you posted just to remind myself what I was replying to and with what.

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Thanks for your quick responses. I have not been diagnosed with ADD as of yet. My sons prek teacher thinks he may have it.. ADD not ADHD which started me thinking about it with myself. It has crossed my mind before but I am at the point where I want to see a psychiatrist about it.

I just wasnt sure if the things I described were normal for the "average non ADD person" or common with ADD. I am 35 and at a point where i am tired of it and I always thought I just have to deal with it its just the way I am.

Everyone also tells me I am the most random person they know.. I have no rhyme or reason for what I do or how I do things.

I was also wondering if tis a comon thing to "get lost" in fantasy. I fantasize about things... (no not sexual however sometimes romance) but I find I really like to stay in my fantasy world. Kind of embarrassing to admit but oh well.

thanks again.

Anne...as for what's common for non-AD/HDers...couldn't tell you, since I've been this way all my life and I'm 56!

GypsyWomyn38652.6918055556 [QUOTE=ragurl]

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Ragurl, I find that I have that problem more when asking non-adhders a question (I'm the one ADHD. Does wonders for the self-esteem, doesn't it?

I, personally, believe it's just being rude...and inconsiderate!

Ok, I dont hear voices or anything, other than my own holding a conversation in my head. I was reading the post by Lostinthestatic and it made me think about my own issues. Its never quiet in my head unless I am wataching TV. Something is always "going on" the whole having conversations in my head and then saying something to someone and they are like "huh?? where on earth did that come from??" Well start off talking about Potatoes and I end up mentioning how I sprained my ankle in the fourth grade.... then I have to go back and wonder how the heck I actually got there.

I also usually have the hardest time following other peoples conversation. ITs like they start talking and soon after my brain freezes and I cant follow anymore. I also tend to try to dominate conversations and HATE silence. Any pause in a conversation I have to fill with some useless information or unrelated conversation.

I also have a hard time remembering what I was thinking just 2 seconds ago. I was in the kitchen before I came in here and totally forgot within the time I walked to the computer what I was going to check. I know that happens to most people but it happens to me ALL the time. Anyway, so now I came here since I cant remember where I was supposed to go.

Thanks for listening... I have an appointment with my psychiatrist in a couple weeks. He was the one who origionally prescribed me antidepressants. I hope he doesnt think I'm just "drug hungry"

Anne

i'm like that- a pause in the conversation, or something triggers other thoughts, and i come back with something out there. non-sequitir is my middle name.

and ragurl- ask your b/f when he does that,

"why do you ask me how i'm feeling, and then answer the question b4 you let me? what is supposed to be the topic?" then go back to what you were doing.

just cause we're add doesn't mean we can't learn when we're being contrived, self-involved, or rude.

I call it the "Bouncing Ball" syndrome.

It seems that all these thoughts, ideas, emotions, lists, needs etc and bouncing around and I'm going from one to another.

Meds have helped a lot, but sometimes at night, I can't 'turn it off' to sleep.

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I call it the "Bouncing Ball" syndrome. [/QUOTE]

I know some who call it Schizophrenia.

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[QUOTE=ANNIESIMS] Ok, I dont hear voices or anything, other than my own holding a conversation in my head. [/QUOTE]

I know whats wrong with you....

Youre just jealous, thats all.

Thats right... YOURE JEALOUS!!!!!

Youre jealous because the voices talk to ME.

I also tend to try to dominate conversations and HATE silence. Any pause in a conversation I have to fill with some useless information or unrelated conversation.

I 100% relate to thsi statement!! my mom used to always ask me why I couldnt enjoy the music in the car or a comfortable silence. And as for the useless information and unrelated bits that I get too. my mind races from one topic to the next so fast I can't even stop myself. Its as if im a car just driving and not watching out for road signs or something.

I hope you begin to feel better.