Can’t understand social interactions | ADHD Information
[QUOTE=sn33kers25] Does anyone know what's wrong with me? [/QUOTE]
I KNOW!!! I KNOW!!!
It's called....
ADHD!
I understand everything being said when someone is speaking, and i'm
alittle tense when having to meet new people but I do this even with
people that I'm confortable with. I'm just focused on what is being
said and everything else that the person is doing. It's difficult for
me to concentrate on them and having to make appropriate facial
gestures too.
well forget the facial gestures then and just occasionally say uh-huh so they know you are still listening...
can you hear what they are saying?
in a work situation i would think a blank look is ok as long as you
intersperse it with signs that you have understood what they are
saying. like 'uh-huh' 'mmm' 'yup' and at the
end 'ok, i got you'
or stuff like that.
nod your head occasionally as if you have got the point too....
eg.
YOUR BOSS: i was thinking the bogart film still would be a better cover
for the book than the projector reel (you at this point: uhhuh, in
agreement) because i think we want to attract the casual reader as well
as the film student/expert (you more emphatic agreement at this point,
as in yes you are right with assertive nod of head: mmm)
so would you be able to make a mock-up cover by this afternoon? (you actually speak now, respond immediately:
"yes, absolutely - would you like to keep the Gothic font?")
him: "yes, keep the font." you: "ok, i'll have it done
by five..."
tada ---
or do you not have problems with the hmms and uh-huhs and nodding head parts???
chjones38653.8111689815
http://www.longislandpress.com/index.php?show=article&cp =188&a_id=6284
it just may be an auditory processing disorder.. this means that your
hearing may be fine, but you are not processing what is being heard
adequately..
its common for adhders and autism etc.. but also stands alone as a disorder..
many ppl with apd become excellent lip readers!!
here is another site to look at also..
http://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/voice/auditory.asp
good luck!!
oh yeah, and what brookelea said too!
i think what is wrong is that you had a few bad experiences and now
freeze with panic and are no longer able to be natural, which many
people will notice...
and then think 'what is wrong with this guy, did i say something
terrible, is he thinking of his murdered best friend or what is going
on here - so they will step in with are you alright, did you catch
that????
as you continue to look like a rabbit caught in the headlights.
try to relax a little if possible. practice more with friends who
know you have this problem. so practice being as natural as
possible for YOU and let them give you feedback how it feels for them
and work from there - maybe.
I started a journey of introspection (brought on by
a breakdown and recovery that lasted a year and five months)that has
left me confused about how to socialize with people.
Interactions with people ( in person only) are a constent awkward
experience. I seem to automaticly focus on their facial expressions,
their tone of voice and diction. When they are talking I try to
produce an expression that might be conducive to the conversation. If I
don't do this, people say that I have a blank expression which seems to
cause confusion which leads them to repeat themselves. Since I was a
child, social interactions and situations have always been a perplexing
convention for me.
This is a problem at work. Does anyone know what's wrong with me?
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