Yes, I think she is too young. My daughter is 15 and I wouldn't allow it either. I will say though that are a large portion of girls walking around at school with them. My daughter doesn't like them, thank goodness. It could be because it is a fad or she could do it just to push your buttons. I know my daughter has been known to use fads that she knew I wouldn't approve of just to push my buttons and find limits. Stand your ground.
There is a very large chance of infection with any type of body piercing. Clothing around the naval causes friction and increases that risk.
On the other hand, many girls of that age will sneak and either do a piercing themselves or have a girlfriend do it. That raises the risk also.
My daughter did that and ended up with an infection which she was afraid to tell me about until it was very bad. Fortunately, it was treated and did heal.
I am only telling you this so that you can be aware and watch her for signs that she has done that. If she starts wearing tops or pants that cover her naval, or begins to touch or rub in that area, do whatever you have to do to make sure she hasn't gone that route and gotten infected.
My daughter was what most people would consider a goody two shoes and I never dreamed she was capable of that kind of deceit. No adult who knew her would have believed it, so just please watch your daughter just in case.
If you do decide to reconsider, remember that if it is done properly and you are aware of it, you can make sure she is taking care of it. It is also one of the things which can be dealt with when she is older and no longer wants it simply by removing the jewel or ring and leaving it out.
I've been watching people a lot since controlling my ADHD - and I've come to the conclusion that it's all inborn - the wish for things like tattoos and body piercing. There are kids of parents that are covered like a biker couple and they say no way! - then there are kids of minister families who come off looking like Tommy Lee. There's no rhyme or reason if you just compare family to family.
We do what we can. That's all we can do. With my family my parents taught me that one - that they did the best they can but in the end they loved us and only wanted us to grow up happy and safe. 3 kids - 2 of us came up clean sober and body with the same average number we were born with - another a heavy drinker, bad relationship and lots of tacky tattoos and piercings (do you really need 11 earrings??).
Genes MUST do some part of the work. Then it's who they socialize with, how they were disciplined and what decisions they decide on at the moment. A lot of things go into it.
We do what we can - then just cross our fingers. Or you could do what I was planning when my ex and I broke up and build a dungeon for the kids until 18 - and slip the food and books under the door. Just a thought but I bet it would have worked.
Mother - I think that's a typical problem these days!
The way my mother dealt with "body enhancement" when I was young was to say "it IS your body - but until you pay for your bodies' food, lodging and other needs it is MY concern what is done with it. When you pay for YOUR bodies' upbringing when you are older - then you can do whatever you feel is right". I'm glad - I never got a tattoo, piercing or anything as by the time I paid for things it didn't seem important anymore!
body piercing is a fad - and once the girl is older she might just see that - or maybe not but then it will be her concern what goes through her skin. You can only do what you can do!
If you did that you are asking for problems....Giving a 14 year old full rein to make decisions is way to young. You would only be asking for more troubles in the future. She would throw it up in your face.....Well you let me get my belly button pierced, so why can't I do this....etc....
You should tell her you were planning to do it together when she is a little older, like maybe 17 or 18. Even if you don't do it or do!
I would tell her this.
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