Psychologist thinks I should only come to the forum on Mon, Wed, & Thur. Leaving me to take care of my home on Tue & Thur. I even paid him for this advice. I tried this yesterday, didn't work.
I think I pay all these doctors enough to come to my house and help clean once or twice a week. don't you?
Did the psychologist give you any tips or strategies on how not to come to the forum?
Can you pay for them to clean my house, too?
Hey, I wonder how many of those pshrynques come visit us as spies?
Maybe they're studying us.
They are out there.
I don't remember.
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Can you pay for them to clean my house, too?
Hey, I wonder how many of those pshrynques come visit us as spies?
Maybe they're studying us.
They are out there.
Probably already have and sent his kids to college too.
My goodness...fire the fool, and see someone else (unless he does a spiffy job of housecleaning for you.)
When I move house I actually am going to hire a house cleaner cos at thirty I've decided if I can't keep my house in order by now I never will!!!!!
How much are private cleaners in America anyway?
They charge by the hour, up to $12 in some places, usually around 7 or 8.
Welcome to the forums. So you're an ozzie, too? Tell Brookelea to stop being pissy at me. Thanks!
D'0
I thankyou for your gracious welcome
I havnt had the pleasure of Brookelea writings yet, but when I do I will mention it for you!!!
That's pretty cheap for a house cleaner, i think the rate is higher in in Oz.
Seriously, has any one ever found any sort of therapist-type person who really helps? Just talking about things doesn't change them.Never found therapy helpful. I've come to the conclusion that therapy can only help certain kinds of people. This doesn't make them good or bad people just makes them the kind of people that therapy will make a difference for.
When it come to dealing with problems there are two types of people thinkers and talkers. Obviously talkers need to get things off their chests whether by confiding in a friend or talking to a therapist. They like to bounce ideas off others before making a decision. Some talkers need to be told they are doing the right thing before they will act. While others are just looking for feedback but will ultimately make the decision on there own.
Thinkers obviously don't do this. They do all their problem solving internally so discussing the problem with others is of no help. Whether others agree with their decision or not is not important. Some assume no one is dealing with the same things they are so couldn't help while others realise their situation is not unique but that they are the best judge of what will work or not for them.
I'm definately a thinker when it comes to problems and I have to say talkers drive us thinkers crazy when we're trying to deal with something. They bombard you with concern offering unwelcomed suggestions and explaining what helps them. You explain what helps them doesn't help you and that you just need time to think. Of course this usually leads to arguments. LOL talkers like talking and refusing to talk does not make them happy.
Hi
I appreciate your
post about the effectiveness or ineffectiveness 
of therapy.
I am a talker in therapy and you 
are right, as least about me.
I think therapy helped me only because she gave me ideas of things I could DO to help myself instead of sitting around talking about all the crap over and over. So it was more like, if you're feeling anxiety, you can DO this or that to help yourself. I really liked that instead of talking about it...
I like the thinkers and talkers comments though, I am definitely a thinker and I like to figure out things on my own in my own way. I think you also have to find the therapist whose personality just "clicks" with yours...not always easy to find that.
Can you pay for them to clean my house, too?
Hey, I wonder how many of those pshrynques come visit us as spies?
Maybe they're studying us.
They are out there.
Hmm, well let's see..........you can take the advice of my therapist.........ring a sleigh bell every time you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed and believe that there is a Santa. Maybe he will come and clean your house. I can only imagine what half a dozen elves hopped up on hot cocoa can get accomplished. 
[QUOTE=Taul]Seriously, has any one ever found any sort of therapist-type person who really helps? Just talking about things doesn't change them.
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yes, I have a fabulous a trio of therapists who "keep me in line" so to speak. A massuese, an accupuncturist and a chiropractor. They all talk to me while they work.
I think therapy can only help also, if your willing to DO
what the therapist suggests. If you walk out of there
thinking , 'he/'she is full of it and that was a stupid
idea, and they don't really know how my
spouse/who/whatever is', well of course it will be a
waste of time & $.
Therapy has helped me emensly [sp], 'cause I was
stuck inside my 'brain-versations' . . . I still have a
long way to go . . . but with Med's & therapy , this
double edged Sword has cut thru a lot of chains that
had keeped me paralyzed . . .Pilgrim--i agree with you.
I had a friend in my last church group, and she cleaned houses. She told me that she doesn't even take on new clients if they are unorganized. If they are unorganized, look-like-a-tornado-hit-thier-house sort of person, she wouldn't even consider them! She has been doing this for years and she is one of the best in our area. She charges more - $15.00 an hour, I think.
I kinda felt bad about it because I knew if she took one look at my house that she would turn me down!
ouch!
She would turn me down too.
[QUOTE=Taul]Seriously, has any one ever found any sort of therapist-type person who really helps? Just talking about things doesn't change them.
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I was in therapy for a long time. I was diagnosed with depression at the time. It did wonders for my ability to deal with my emotions. My first therapist had to teach me what emotions were - that was the kind of place I was in. Therapy helped with the depression and helped me understand relationships quite a bit.
But therapy never really helped my ADHD. The only thing that helps that is medications and plain old coping strategies out of books and off the boards.
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