I am 31 and just got diagnosed a year ago. This stimulated some extreme changes in my life. Broke up with the love of my life, changed my life towards acheiving new work success (as apposed to life success), sold everything I owned, moved far away and am now miserable.

This type of impulsiveness is profoundly ruining my life. I have no faith in my own decison making. Years ago lost my father and was engaged and married within a year, divorced in 2 more years.

My decisions are ruining my life. I don't know how to control this.

Don't know where to turn.

i understand your impulsive actions/reactions. Yesterday I made an emergency appointment with my therapist. I had decided to quite my teaching position and needed advice on how to do it tactfully, maturely, CALMLY, SLOWLY, ETC. I wanted to quit before being fired. My boss thinks I am a bit 'slow' and very disorganized--she is right about that and has no tolerance. Because of certain events, I have lost total respect for her.

i must get back on track--When i walked out of her office an hour later i was NOT going to quit. Then, last night I had a wonderful class. This was after totally loosing any ability to think the previous two nights. my mind goes blank because i am totally overloading it with an unforgivable urgency to think--of examples of a grammar function. I really made fool of myself. I teach English to speakers of other languages.

i am trying hard to stick with something, anything. develop some kind of consistency in my life. Every other month i have this brand new idea of what I can do to save myself from a life of financial and philosophic emptiness. from trying graduate school to selling European skincare products to write a business proposal for a new bookstore--the owner? me. Every time i get an idea i am total convince that this will be the one, which will save me. i remember how i thought the same things so many times in the past--but this project--this one IT! i know it in my gut! and it IS it for a couple months, couple of weeks, three days.

i recommend therapy and exploring medications. I know the arguments against taking meds. For me, they are helpful about 65 to 70% of the time. My therapist is my fifth one in the five years; I have been living where I live. After so many ridiculous encounters with therapists, i thought i would never meet anyone. I feel fortunate that I have. (i have never lived in one place for more than eight years, even as a child.)

HANG IN THERE. IT WILL GET GETTER. YOU SOUND AS IF YOU ARE IN GREAT PAIN. I  BELIEVE THAT IT TAKES THAT EXTREME PAIN, THAT DEEP DISCONTENT TO MOVE US TO WANT TO CHANGE TAKE THIS FIRST STEP. i AM SO SICK OF MY PROCRASTINATION AMONG MANY OTHER THINGS THAT ARE OPPRESSING me. -- hang in there. are there any support groups where you live? I would love to join one but I have not found one yet. There is one more place I need to check.

Do you like to write?

If so, write to the message board. you never know who will answer you, support you, and understand you. i believe i understand you. i have adhd.

I am composing a post for another message board on this site. I will probably post it tomorrow night. I think there might be some relevance to you. i might post it here.

back on track--are you in therapy? taking medication? both of these are helping me slowly see how ADHD had debilitated me. prevented me from growing up, taking responsibility--(i am 49 1/2) my WHOLE LIFE. With this insight and extreme care of my therapist, i am slowly trying to lead a more stable life.

i was divorced in August. we still love each other much but our lack of understanding and control over our psychological problems made us miserable together. Now he is in his home country in therapy and on meds and i am here doing the same. I have been meds for quite some time.

I hope at a little of this makes sense to you. i write because i have to get this stuff out of me. my friends--it takes me forever to make friends ---for the first 4 years of living here, i only made one friend. Now via therapy i am trying to learn how to feel comfortable with people. then a second to lose them--they know i have ADHD. however, they don't have a clue what this means. I am thankful for the message boards.

Be well,
Anne