New friends...bored with the usual? | ADHD Information
I totally agree. I have a lot of friends like that. I have tried to explain that it is the way I am but they still moan. They moan cos I made them wait ten mins outside where ever it is we are meeting!
They moan when I haven't called for a while, because I have forgotton or been busy. Even my family moan if I am late round for something, I get moaned at then everyone stresses out! It's so silly. I am the one who ends up feeling bad.
People do talk about so much rubbish over and over. I like to learn new things and have decent, interesting conversation. Not boring crap that we spoke about last week. I agree with those above. x
Yes,
I get bored with the typical, the usual. What I really can't stand are friends that expect you to always be on time. I call if I'm going to be more than say, 15 min. late. I just don't get what the big deal is about being on time to social events. Can't we all just relax?
I also can't stand freinds that keep score. Like who called who last or it's "your turn" to have them over. And the horror of forgetting a birthday and sending a card or gift late!
Those kind of frinds don't last long for me. Who needs those kind of friends? In fact, that kind of behavior isn't what I call true friendship behavior.
Yes-
What is it with people that they have to tell you the same story over and over and over? It is typically boring the first time but then after the 100 billionth it is numbing! Perhaps it's not ADD--It's that they have said the same D**N thing so many times I no longer give a S**T!
Do you find you get bored with your friends? Obviously there are a couple who are true friends but I do find that I get bored with the ones I socialise with. I get bored with the same conversation and enjoy meeting new people!!
Well I know it's not much but,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Thanks Pieta.
You know, I've been up all friggin' night! Literally! I think I had too much caffiene yesterday along with my Adderall. I'm not going to be any good to anyone today.
Wait a sec.....
I'm usually not any good to anyone anyway!
I get so sick of either not being good enough for people, or being too much. I'm not pretty enough, not thin enough, not hip enough, not entertaining enough..
I'm too intellectual, I'm too deep, i'm too asthetic, too dorky, too generous, too friendly, too loud, too quiet, too everything except what people want me to be!
Dabonbon
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
U shouldn't be so hard on yourself. Love you for who you are and so will everyone else. If they don't forget them! One day someone will be so besotted by you, for who you are. You sound lovely to me. I get that a lot, people say 'Oh Sarah you're so loud.' The next minute 'Oh Sarah stop being unsocialable'Cant win!!
I have such a difficult time making and keeping friends. If I am not intellectually stimulated by an aquaintance, I get bored fast and I generally start sabotaging the relationship through neglect.
I can't seem to find any friends who enjoy the same things I do (literature, poetry, music, theater, film as an art form, art). It seems everyone is so shallow and dumbed down from all their over-exposure to sitcoms and soap operas. I don't give a rat's a** about the latest Louis Vuitton purse my co-worker got, and I couldn't give a flying fart in the wind about "The Amazing Race."
It's a lonely existence.
I recently made friends with my tattoo artist (or so I thought), as he is interested in all the same things I am. Trouble is, he's one of the "beautiful people" of my small community, and I'm an overweight, 41 year old dork who is on the bottom of the social totem pole. He's nice to me but sometimes I wonder if he's just being polite. My heart is a little broken because he said he would meet me for a drink for my birthday tonight, and he didn't show up. I emailed him later and he said "happy birthday" but didn't apologize for bailing on me.
It sucks. I've been crying off and on all night, feeling sorry for myself.
Dabonbon
[QUOTE=bepatient]I'm sorry that happened Dabonbon. That was really rude of this guy. Do you think he maybe forgot? But then again he emailed "happy B-day" without an apology. 
I wouldn't make plans with him again unless he sincerely tells you he's sorry.
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Thanks for the sympathy bepatient. I'm really trying to be understanding with this guy as he is working on his master's project, and he gets hyperfocused. I have to wonder if he has ADD.
Dabonbon
I'm sorry that happened Dabonbon. That was really rude of this guy. Do you think he maybe forgot? But then again he emailed "happy B-day" without an apology.
I wouldn't make plans with him again unless he sincerely tells you he's sorry.
i've been lucky with the few friends i have.
they-
don't expect me to be on time.
don't expect me to remembers birthdays, parties, phone numbers, plans.
don't expect me to even show up.
don't expect me to have them over.
don't keep score.
don't ask me to be different than i am.
don't expect gifts from me.
don't hold it against me that i can't follow social conventions.
i'm their 'interesting friend'. good for a laugh, good for unexpected insight, good for making them feel competent in life. good for new words and stories to tell their other friends.
good to be good for something to somebody!
I hope that you guys can relate to this qoute, I know I can:
"I am NOT INNATENTIVE, your just BORING!" I feel that with my freinds, and in some social situations, I repeat this in my head.
By the way, this is the first time I have been on an ADHD/ADD forum, I feel that I have been dealing with b*%$ my whole life by myself. It feels good so far.
When I was in elementry school, I could not believe that when I finished a grade, everyone else would ALSO move up with me. I wanted to be the only one. I have always been on the prowl for making new freinds, and everyone else seems to be so concerned with just working at and keeping the ones they have. I was also a military brat, so I wonder if the constant moving, and making of new freinds may have played a roll in all of this. I now find myself stuck. I don't want to be without anyone to talk to, so I put in the boring long hours of keeping my current freinds. (I guess like everyone else)
Hi 0005. Good you found the forum! I feel like that too,even though I am new to ADD it is so good to talk to those who are just like me. It's a shame we can't all live on one little Island haah. How old are you. Whats your name? Don't want to keep calling you by a number.
I relate to that quote too. I often feel like that. x