I’m new here and have questions
There are several tests adults can take. But the only way you'll know for sure is if you go to a doctor. Why? Because what you're feeling on one particular day can affect the online test and give you a false negative/positive. You can't really diagnose yourself, especially when it's neurological.
Cheekydeeky
You look after yourself, which is the right thing to do, then
maybe your husband will see with his own eyes the progress
you make. We ADHD people sometimes have to see things
with our own eyes before we give it a try. I think it might be
something to do with starting so many things and not finishing
them, we just don't want to start yet another thing and find out
that it was, as predicted and yet again, another wrong move.
The book for you is fantastic (it won't all aply to you so take
what you need from it). If you could find a little booklet of ADHD
for boys (taking the pressure off you husband) and leave it on
the coffee table or kitchen work space (looks like you were
reading it) then he might pick it up in his own time. Mens pride
is massive but takes a huge knock to think that they are less
than perfect or not capable of being a whole man, bless :)
Understandable though, joking aside.
You have to look after number one which is yourself, then you
will be strong enough to be there when the other two monsters
need you. Find a quiet time, make a drink of whatever you
fancy and read whith no interuptions. Your Husband will notice
a difference as you understand yourself more by understanding
the ADHD, but remember you have to read in context of
yourself then go back and read in context of your husband then
son. Good luck.....
I got the name of another site (from someone else on this site)
that helps to get organised in day to day life which is called
www.flylady.net/
This has helped me a lot already and might help you. It's so
simple to follow the email reminders and takes the confusion
out of chores etc.
Hi Everyone:
Thanks for all the advice. I really appreciate it. I hear what your all saying about being tested by a doctor. At this point I don't have any insurance but would like to do that some time in the future. For the time being, where would I find an on-line test designed for adults? Does anyone out there with ADHD have children with ADHD? I was wondering because I read that parents with ADHD respond in certain ways to their children and I want to help my son not hurt him emotionally. Does anyone know what I could do for myself to help him?
Thanks,
Island Gypsy
Try www.addvance.com (for women). www.addiss.co.uk/factsheets.htm (general) Dr Patricia Quinne M.D is excellent
and works with Kathleen Nadeau Ph.D.. Though they are more
to do with females and ADHD. - www.ncgiadd.org/ - they may
offer links for boys and men, and if they are recommending
anything it is worth listening to. They have collaborated with a
few other spaecialists and wrote a book called - 'Understanding
Women with ADHD' which is fantastic to say the least.
If you don't find ADHD for boys and Men then you can email the
site and ask them to recommend anything that you need.
When I found out about my ADHD, I had to go through layers of
acceptance. Thought it was great to finally put a name to what I
was going through, it was also difficult to accept that I had what
I called a defect at the time so it is difficult to know how your
husband will take it. But there is nothing that can equal the
truth, because that is when we can finally guage our own
progress and take it at our own pace. Like a mile-stone. He
can't fight the truth, and you can let him know you are telling
him NOT to trying to make him feel small. He will already feel
inadequate (sorry about spelling) so your job would be to not
make him feel patronised. Men seem to understand the body
when it is related to the machanics of a car. If you talk to men in
their own language then it is more comforting and less
invasive. I hope this helps
Hi Utinker:
Thanks for the advice. I made the mistake of having replies go to my email and he read them and was unhappy that I was talking about him. My response was I was talking about both of us and thought we both had ADHD. I've been trying to get him to read about ADHD so he could understand his son better and what he was going through but haven't gotten him to do it yet. I keep reminding him but haven't been successful. I'm going to check out all the info about myself to try to take responsibility for me and try not to push him as frustrating as it is I need to let go of what I can't controll. It's not part of my personality so it will be hard to listen to my own advice. In the mean time I'm going to check out the info you suggested. I'll let you know what I thought about it. Thank you so much!
Island Gypsy
island gypsy,
The link below is a pretty good online questionaire that give detailed results. Of couse you still should be tested by a physician but this will give you a starting place.
http://www.brainplace.com/bp/checklist/default.asp
-Gettingagrip-
Hi Everyone,
I have a 13 yr. old son that was just diagnosed with ADHD last month. In filling out all the questions to see if he had it I could see parts of myself and my husband. I had a lot of the symptoms as a child and young adult. Not so much now as I'm 52 and mellowed in my old age. My husband on the other hand still has alot of the signs. In reading about parenting a child with ADHD I came across info on how parents with ADHD parent. Both my husband and myself fit the bill. I'm not sure how to approach my husband about it. I have a feeling he will get upset and I won't get anywhere. Any suggestions out there?
Thanks,
Island Gypsy
island gypsy,
Maybe you could suggest your husband also do some research on ADHD in the guise of learning more about your sons condition and how it will affect him personally and your family as a whole. Give him some of the materials you read that turned on that light bulb for you. He might just come to the conclusion on his own.
-Gettingagrip-
It's always a good idea to get tested if you believe it runs in the family (in my opinion). Honestly, though I think that only can your husband be helped if he wants the help. ADHD no longer (for the most part, I'm sure all of us here are working on it!) has the stigma it used to. If your husband realizes that finding out if he is ADHD doesn't mean he's crazy, criminal or stupid he may be much more willing to get tested.
Cheekydeeky
Hi Everyone:
I'm having a hard time figuring out how to use this site and responding to messages. Hope this get's out there. I want to thank everyone for all their insight.
I was wondering if their was a quiz for adults to take?
Thanks,
Island Gypsy
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