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rayray - yes I did. I am a well-rounded human being and don't disagree to be difficult but rather only when my idea differs yours! That's the way things should be!

And right you are - GAD and other anxiety disorders are what makes ADHD so nasty and incidious. Therefore - I say!

When will we agree again? Maybe solar eclipse, when bush says something smart who knows?

Get in to see a psychiatrist. There are both medications and councilling to aid in making GAD and other anxiety disorders less impactive on your life. I now look people in the eye - talk to strangers even!!

Good advice, pitty im so dam stuborn, unfortunatly meds are definatly out of the question, i stoped taking ritalin after 11 years because i hated the doped up feeling, and i needed to prove that i could live without them, caffene is also out of the question, i have al allergy to decongestionts and caffene, it triggers a hears problem SVT attack and can be fatal, nearly died from it a few years back, and all from tacking a lem-sip (dident know i was allergis at that stage.

i will however look in to a P/doc, i cant live like this forever.

i did however give a lecture to student at my college, see my other topic, GREAT oppertunity for all the details

did glenw just agree w/ me?

i suffer greatly from the anxiety. it gets worse with depression.

people avoidance is one of my adaptations. it does hurt sometimes.

not being medicated, i have gone to caffeine as a self-medication. for me, lots of caffeine=less anxiety and depression.

it's funny tho- no caffeine for 6 or 7 hrs. now, and i am feeling more hyper than i did right after the pot of coffee i drank this morning!

manging intensity is a huge issue for me too!

i used to smoke lots of weed to help with that. but that was expensive, and had drawbacks of it's own. i still love it, but i'm done being sedated all the time.

kamikaze-you're not lost- you now are found!

capt. trips your advice is a great comfort to me. these are adaptations i have made, and they have helped. i just have never codified them like your post does. thanks for the words!

[QUOTE=rayray812]did glenw just agree w/ me?[/QUOTE]

OMG! RayRay, He did, I read it with my own eyes!

good advice glen, pitty im so stuborn, baisicly i was on meds for 11 years, from the the age of 4 to the age of 15, i came off of it to prove to myself that i could manage without it so the idea of medication kinda makes the hair on the back of my neck stand on edge, i might try a phsyacyatrist though, a just hate being like this, i get home and cry cause it hurts not to be able to talk to people.

oh well, will have to plod on.

i did actualy manage to give a lecture at college, on adhd see my other post, GREAT oppertunity

kamakazi - that's exactly what rayray said - General Anxiety Disorder. It's what they call a co-morbid (goes with another problem) disorder. Many (very many) ADHDers have it. It's got to be genetic - my sisters both don't express ADHD but have the GAD as I have. And it's crippling sometimes.

It's a good life once you get the fear out of the way - really!!

I don’t know if this will help but I have made a few rules for myself to live by in relation to my ADD, conversations, and friends.

First and foremost….I believe in myself and my self-worth.
Why….
-If I don’t, Who will.
-It is a deliberate act that gives me the ability to be my own best friend.

Second…..When I have something to say about a subject I limit myself to three minutes of talk time for that conversation.
Why….
-I like to talk, think, debate, and stimulate….I found it turns others off.
-If someone wants more from me they can ask me for more. Most don’t ask for more.
-People are selfish and don’t want to get involved or listen. That’s our social norm today.

Third……It’s better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
Why……
-People are selfish and don’t want the truth, nor will they offer the truth. Especially if they think it will create conflict, or require effort from them, or place a responsibility on them.
-Plus it gives me the ability to be quite and observe others. It’s amazing what I see in people during an exchange of words. (Ego, selfishness, BS, fear, honesty, lies, conviction, mischief, ECT…it’s very entertaining and informative.)

Fourth…..Don’t expect too much from friends & acquaintances.
Why……
-Most friends are temporary in life, with a very few exceptions. (Be your own best friend)
-People are too consumed by their own lives and egos to concern themselves with others.

These rules don’t stop me from making friends. What it has done is make it easier for me to recognize a real friend through the observations I make.
In the past I would be surprised when someone I considered my friend let me down.
Now I look to be surprised by someone stepping up and showing themselves as a friend where there was not one before.
When someone wants to be your friend they will seek you out, but beware of the selfish ones who are only in it for themselves. That’s where silent observation comes in.
If you feel uneasy sometimes try moving to another group for five minutes, or ask if anyone wants a drink. Just get yourself a little time to regroup, or a new conversation to start that you can enjoy a little more. Don’t sweat the small stuff you’ll have lots of opportunity to improve your situation in life. I think life is cyclical, it will improve in time.

I also took up golf, it has many rewards for ADDer’s, but I cover that another time.

See my quotes below my signature, they inspire me.
Best wishes and remember to always be true to yourself first.
The first step is to calm down. I am sure that the other people in the group are not obsessing about these thoughts as much as you are. Because you (me, and other ADHD'rs) are always having rapid thoughts, we tend to obsess way too much over the little things. We tend to have about 10 thoughts in the amount of time that others are still working on thier first one. I would suggest that when you are with this group to play it cool, listen, and ad imput when you are ready to do so. Don't force yourself into it. You may find out by taking it slow and listening, that you can determine whether you want to be talking to these people in the first place. Let me know if this helps.....

hi all

i started college in september and met a group of friends, all was great for a while but suddinly i just cant seem to talk to them, i cant figure out how to enter a conversation, im terrafied of being rejected again but they are my friends, i dont know what is wrong with me i feel so lost and alone, but no matter how hard i try i just cant do it, i feel as if i have taken 10 steps backwards, i've always had social problems but that was usauly when i first met someone and was not sure how they would react to me or if they could be trusted, once that fase was over i would become my bright and bubbely self again, this time it's getting worse, 2 weeks ago we were great, a group of friends now im absoultly terafied, i hate it please please help me,i dont know what to do

GOOD OLD SOCIAL ANXIETY

keep me trapped in my dorm when i was a kid

bottom line is dont worry about it

NOBODY THINKS ABOUT AS MUCH AS YOURSELF,

Thanks for the advice, i will try and calm down, i know what you meen about thoughts though, by the time the "normal" person has finished comprahending the situation i have already found around 20 conclutions, most of them the worst posible conclutions and 9.5 times out of 10 the actual outcome is nowhere near as bad as i have been obsesing about.

capt. trips, i will be sure to try your advice,

-I like to talk, think, debate, and stimulate….I found it turns others off.
-If someone wants more from me they can ask me for more. Most don’t ask for more.
-People are selfish and don’t want to get involved or listen. That’s our social norm today.

i have noticed this and think it may be one of my problems, if a subject comes up that i feel passinate about i tend to enter in to a full debate, i love to gain knowledge that way and people do seem to switch off, as if they cant handle the intensity. i just feel lost, i have hardly no self-confidanse but people dont see that side of me.

thank you for replying