Difficulty with decision making | ADHD Information

My whole family has that problem...

When going out to dinner:  Where do you want to go? I don't know, where do you want to go? I dunno.... etc etc... we waste so much gas driving around trying to figure out what we are in the mood to eat!!

As for clothes, well, that is easy!! I wear whatever I can find that's CLEAN!!

dinner? umm well, I actually pay a menu service to plan my meals for me, and I just cook whatever it tells me to

its at www.savingdinner.com

Christmas shopping is a challenge to me in a positive way. Its like going on a scavenger hunt trying to find the best gift for each individual -- If I can't seem him or her using the gift I don't buy it.. Usually I do a good job 90% of the time. But then again I LOVE to SHOP -- so that makes a big difference.

Sherry

decisions are a huge sticky point w/me.

the food one is particularly relevant. i go to the grocery store sometimes daily. have bought parts of 3 different meals, get home can't put one together.

i think of sooo many options. can't keep track of one train of thought, then they get jumbled up.

it all gets worse when tired, or depressed, or hungry.

it's definitely a factor in why buying gifts is so hard for me to do. makes this time of year even harder and more challenging.

don't know if it's adhd. but i suspect it is. too much mental stuff to keep track of, and a history of impulsiveness gone bad.

that, and so many neccessary decisions are so mundane. my brain likes more interesting things to indulge in.

Hi I am exactly the same. Find it hard to decide on anything, especially what to wear, where to eat etc...

I failed my driving test Friday, because I didn't make the right decision whether to wait or to go. I waited held up traffic and failed. Typical. You are not alone, I am very indecisive. What can we do about it though?x

Does anyone else have difficulty making decisions?  No matter how big or small, it seems like  I have to over think everything.  Like the world is going to come to an end if I don't choose the right shirt to wear!  It takes me forever to decide!!!  Thank goodness I normally wear a uniform to work!  I'm that way about everything... I hate making decisions!!!.... and there is so many to make... what to eat... where to eat...or cook?...what to cook...and that happens 3 times a day every day!!!  It's gotten to the point to where I've become more impulsive with my decisions...pulling out in front of other cars (when I can't decide whether to stay or go-I just gun it).

Is this an ADD symptom or is this something else? Thanks.

scatteredabout38689.8857407407Minor decisions are not a problem because I also am IMPULSIVE. I make rash decisions often. Small things are not a problem, I just do em and forget them.

However, I do have some typical ADHD behaviour in larger decisions. I often make a rash, rejection of something that is offered to me then procrastinate until the very last possible momment or until it is too late to gain entry or do the thing and then beg to be admittted late.

Let me put it to you this way, I have been trying to buy a comforter set for the past 2 days.  I have looked at the same three for 2 days.  I have blown them up in photoshop, I have removed the background from these pictures and colored it in with different paint options to see how I'd have to paint my room to match the comforter.  I have zoomed in with super detail and looked from the dust ruffle to the blanket, to the pillow shams, to the sheets, to the dust ruffle, to the.... well, you get the idea.

I have scoured the return policies, I have zoomed in as close as possible to try to determine the thickness of the blanket and have agonized over one syle vs. another if one has a higher sheet count but I like the style more than another.

(OMG, I sound INSANE )

I still I have YET to make a decision even though I have looked at these three approximately an hour at a time.  But I think I'm closing in on it!!!

yeah goober! you do sound insane!

i just wish i wasn't exactly like you in that regard.          ;       

i compare, compare, compare...... check out all the options. sleep on it. go back and double check. recheck the options. go back to the same store 3 times (thank god, or is it al gore?, for internet shopping- you don't get looks from the help-'what is up with that guy!?!').

then i invariably go with my first impulse!

might be an adaptation to lots of impulses gone bad. self-regulating behaviour.

Thank you all for your responses.

Seeker, you really hit home with a lot of points with me there.

Goober, I've been needing a new bedroom ensemble for years... just can make a decision on which one to get!!! I have look at hundreds.. in stores on line and in catalogs!!! That is hilarious to me! Thanks for sharing!

hello,
this is an interesting thing for me too. I've walked through stores going to buy something and then I begin to wonder about the right price or should I get it now or why should I have it! And I realize I've been there for a very long time! And I start to think if the people who are watching people in those windows upstairs or cameras think I'm going to steal something, so I get paranoid.

But I've realized that I think we must learn to trust ourselves to get what we want and if it's wrong, who cares! We made a mistake and we'll try again next time or we can take it back. Trust what we want is important! REGARDS

Decisions are tuff, especially as you get older.  I once had a professor who said "people make decisions on what they think they know".  I never did like him that much, but its the truth.  Hang-in-there.

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might be an adaptation to lots of impulses gone bad. self-regulating behaviour.

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That's what I think too. That's why I think I agonize about it so bad. Bad decisions in the past, what's to say that this decision is any better? Can I trust myself?  But then as BDLB said just a moment ago, if it's a mistake, then we can return it or learn from it. Human is as human does