Though I know as a kid I had some learning issues (I was in a remedial class for part of the day-throughout elementary school), I never got to find out what kind of diagnosis I had as my parents decided to have it wiped off my record when I got into Middle school. My mother doesn't believe in "those" issues. Anyway back to my topic...
I finally took the advise of all my friends and went and got "tested". The testing consisted of him asking me a ton of questions and then within an hour diagnosing me with combined ADHD. It seemed to simple, everything I read about warned me that it would take 6-8 hrs all together to get any kind of diagnosis. I'm worried because I feel as I might have other issues that need to be further researched but he just said that my other "problems" are probably related to the ADHD and to see what the medicine does for me. He even let me decide what medicine to be on- which just seems weird to me. Well, any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
hmm....
what other issues were you wondering about that he says are related to ad/hd?
My other issues are that I am an extreme perfectionist. It either had to be perfect or not at all. That's part of the reason I saught help is because I will start a task with the best intentions but when it can't be just the way I want it I put it asside...I also just get bored and forget to do simple things but that is part of the ADHD. I guess maybe it's more of a personality trait because I'm always right and always follow the rules and get totally upset when everyone around me doesn't just do it the right way too.
I also have writing issues, as I don't understand the concept of paragraphs or what verbs, adverbs, etc. mean. Maybe that's because of my lack of focus in school and that my mom always did my English homework for me. Maybe once this medicine kicks in I can focus enough to "learn" the basics of English.
Welcome aboard GracieIrish. I hope you like it here. Doesn't seem to be as many people on tonight as there usually are. Otherwise you'd be getting a swarm of people responding. I don't know anything about the medication aspect of it. Just wanted to say hello. Hope you get more feedback tonight.Yes, sometimes perfectionism can be related to ad/hd. Some of the different books I have read mention perfectionism as being an issue for some ad/hders.
That thing with putting a task aside when you can't get it exactly right, is it because you're bored and don't feel like trying to figure out a different way to fix it?
Is it maybe that when something in your head doesn't go the way you think it should go, you have a hard time switching gears in your brain to fixate upon a different way to go about the situation?
(hope that made sense)
Yes, lot's of us ad/hders have that. It just plays out in different ways for each individual. Some of us become "perfectioners" as you describe. Others of us become, well...lazy. (me personally.) If I am doing a project, and it is not going the way i thougt it would, i just get bored and distracted and end up leaving it there....sometimes for several months, depending on the project....sometimes this comes off looking like procastination....
As for the "other people have to be perfect and following the rules" thing. Tell me more about that.
Is it that if other people are not following the rules properly that you get distracted by them, thus annoyed?
Is it that, you, having ad/hd, more than likely have to work so hard in following the rules that it irks you when other people don't do the same?
I almost sounds as if maybe you have an "issue" with seeing more than one way to be "right"--i.e., there's only ONE RIGHT WAY. Could this be so?
I am told that I am the same way. (A lot of things I do, I don't even notice, other people have to tell me about it.) To understand that there is another solution to a percieved problem requires you to stop your train of thought and pay attention in order to listen and understand another possibility to solving a problem. Yes, if this is so with you, the this is also an ad/hd trait. We are so fast in our thinking, that it takes great effort to slow down and force ourselves to follow another train of thought.
Usually, we would rather not expend the energy it takes to force ourselves to follow another train of thought, and therefore, we are convinced that our way is the only conceivable way to solve a problem.
Is this so with you?
sonya_h38694.9054398148sorry I was so slow in my responce, I was pecking at the keyboard while nursing a 5 month old....gracie-you just reminded me of something i had totally forgotten!
they wanted to put me in remedial classes too! they thought i had a learning disability and behavioural problems.
i only lucked out b/c the teachers knew i was always smarter than the 'A' students. i always had answers more quickly. i always knew more, and grasped most ideas more readily than others.
but i was a 'd' student. forgot my homework, chose not to do my homework. always had high test scores.
i have almost always tried to be a perfectionist too. was a hothead most of my life b/c i had a drive to be perfect, just not the means to achieve it ever.
my mind can see more than i have the ability, or patience to realise. that made me very angry, and you won't like me when i'm angry!
hulk no like f***ing up!
the ensuing lifelong depression was a natural step. always mad, always failing, always having these visions of perfection in my mind's eye. running running running to keep up, to make it happen, then speeding off the cliff, and hanging suspended mid-air just long enough to hold up a sign that says 'ouch!'
ditto here but without the HD and the anger as well.