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I think it may be worth looking at a month at a glance. If I had only done that, last weekend would not have been so overbooked and incredibly difficult. I knew I had my Family Christmas Party, a mission project at church (lasted 6 hours) and nursery duty, but never put together that it was all in the same week end. Everything worked out, but - I don't wanna to do that again. I never even noticed that was a possiblity to see a month or a week at a glance on my toy. Day to day has it's advantages & disadvantages. Balance is hard to achieve.
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This will make you all mad

When I first posted this topic I wanted to know if it was an ADD thing to have trouble with planning and actually carrying out each item.

Yesturday the person who told me I should have a five year plan ask me how it was going, I told him it wasnt.

His response was to tell me that my exuses were pathetic and childish and that it was time I took responsibility for myself or I would get no where and would only have myself to blame

This person has been my friend for over ten years and does not seem to understand me at all. Much less have any regard for my feelings. Ive printed out all the responses to my post for him to read. No doubt he'll have the same attitude.

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i think it is quite honest of him. i think he was right to point it out to you - at least you know, now. i am aware of the fact that my life is a mess and i am likely not to get anywhere with it, that's fine... and i wouldn't blame anyone but myself anyway. i am LOOKING into ways to be a bit more 'planny' and less untogether but i don't think he was wrong to point that out to you or to give you a hard time about it either.

under enough pressure you MIGHT start to plan. so in that way he was doing his best to help you - as best he saw how.

what good is a friend who just says 'oh you'll be alright' when you might well not be.... that's not really helpful either.

supportive is different from enabling. i reckon your friend has been supportive, he can see that you will be helped by trying to install some planning mechanisms in your life, so he suggested it - he even came back to see whether you had implemented it (pretty nice) and when you hadn't wasn't going to let you off the hook because in the end it will be BETTER for you if you do implement it. but YOU have to do it, you can't expect anyone else to do it for you - which is all that he pointed out. only YOU have responsibility for YOUR life.

i reckon you can count him as a pretty good friend. some little success in a planning situation or similar will be very motivating as well. so try (if you can manage it) to give it a go...
I think what is best, if at all possible for ADHDers, is to find a spouse or partner that is a good planner since we arn't. They might have some issue where you can help balance them out too. What a relief. Like with my bf now; he calms me down and I get him moving. It's the best.

i wish i could plan.

can't count on myself one minute to the next, most days.

i just want to get through today.

how can i set a course with a broken rudder, torn sails, and a sea raging like a jacuzzi with the jets on high?

how can i even chart one? the maps are soaked and illegible. the compass is skewed. every time i blink the sun or stars are in new places.

chaos within, chaos without.

i sometimes envy the 'planners'. it would be nice to be doing life instead of it doing me.

Scheduled thing cause anxiety . . . so a plan causes one of the things I don't
do well with. Spontaneity is my name. I often don't know what I will do in
two hours, let alone one year, or even one month. [QUOTE=Davidornado]

Yeah, right!

Like I can do that.

I can't even sit, much less still!

I still jump on beds. They're bouncy.

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Right? yeah!
That you can do
bounce because you are
sit less
But, that's not
What Sarah said.
[QUOTE=Peita Pan]My little girl and I just broke my bed jumping on it. I havnt laughed so hard in a long time

Amelia kept saying "Oh no, Daddy will be berry mad" She cant say VERY properly.[/QUOTE]

I think that's "berry funny!"

[QUOTE=Countrygirl] [QUOTE=Davidornado]

Yeah, right!

Like I can do that.

I can't even sit, much less still!

I still jump on beds. They're bouncy.

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Right? yeah!
That you can do
bounce because you are
sit less
But, that's not
What Sarah said.
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Jesus

Will watch.

I now know He will.

You know, CGGB, I'm okay with that.

I really am. My life has been full of blessings, and testings.

I'm ready, I guess. I only hope my family has been led to see that for themselves.

And others that have been a part of my life, wherever it took them. I hope they're okay.

I know where I'm going.

And it's a boat with sails in which I'll be flowing.

The Captain has called His crew,

And though there are many, they'll be few.

Sounds like you'll also be setting sail,

As with your faith, how can you really fail?

It's not so much the who's there when you leave,

But it's how you get there, and with Whom, I believe.
No matter how hard one tries, right?

Trying to plan where you'll be in a year is fruitless if you don't plan where you'll be tomorrow.

"Every long journey starts with a single step."

[QUOTE=Countrygirl]

Sounds like you found your song and your Friend.

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Oh! So that's a song?

A matter of Perspective, I thought.

And as for my friend, I'm not all that sure I ever lost Him.

He certainly never lost me.

I've lost others, though.

How sADD...

So many friends lost, glad there is one Friend that will always be there for us.

"He will never leave you nor forsake you."

Every journey continues with a single step...

Sounds like you found your song and your Friend.

If only we could have seen into the future,

Could have known then what we know now

We would have sung through the heartbreaking times

Knowing they teach a different kind of song

The ability to envision the summer’s harvest in the middle of winter is truly a gift from God.
Winter seems desperately long, but waiting seems longest just before spring.
Learning to recognize the seasons of God’s dealing and to understand the need for each.

Well I like it

I'll have to write it down or I'll forget it by tonight

Forget what?

Forget HER, David, lol

keep swimming, just keep swimming...
Don't forget Me David'O. I have abandonment issues

Fryed.

Oh.

So

What

do

I

do

then

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Sure filled up a lot of pages over a "Five Year Life Plan".

Ex-father-in-law hit me with that very same question, "Where do you plan to be five years from now?" He held a major position in the Merrill Lynch stockbroker business....put his whole life into it.....Had mega bucks to his name, but lost his family and quite possibly is planning to buy his ticket into heaven.

Live your days one at a time...I agree.

Live with the ability to answer to God, not man.

I reallt gotta earn how to do that quote thing!!

Two posts back, Fryed's post, I love that. Is that a quote or are you very clever?

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I reallt gotta earn how to do that quote thing!!

Two posts back, Fryed's post, I love that. Is that a quote or are you very clever?

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Clever is as clever does.

ADD = Automatically Diabolically Dynamic!

Sorry to admit it, but it's mine...life learned

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Live your days one at a time...I agree.

Live with the ability to answer to God, not man.

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Right on, Fryed. "We ought to obey God, rather than man." Focus on the eternal, rather than the temporal.

My little girl and I just broke my bed jumping on it. I havnt laughed so hard in a long time

Amelia kept saying "Oh no, Daddy will be berry mad" She cant say VERY properly.[QUOTE=Countrygirl]
Right? yeah!
That you can do
bounce because you are
sit less
But, that's not
What Sarah said.

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I love that, "sit less" Most of us aare sit less sit less sit less LMAO!

5 year plan??

more like a five DAY plan.. if I can get through the week without looking stupid or putting my foot in my mouth.. I ve met my plan!! LOL

Sherry

I think from now on my plan is to be really forgetful, self-absorbed, and do things that cause people to say "wow you really are a blonde." I can't lose!

I have some symblance of plans. But making them happen is kind of hard. I usually don't have a plan of action, just some sense of what I want to have happen.

One good thing though about my plan making: I've kept a list of major/long term "things to do" over the past few years-- lose 50 lbs, buy whatever piece of furniture, pay off this credit card, etc. Other than the losing weight thing, I have accomplished quite a few of the items. I don't necessarily have a plan to accomplish them, and some things take multiple years to accomplish, but it seems that I do get around to them eventually, sometimes without making a concentrated effort. For example, I've wanted a new computer for years. I wanted to save up for it, but my savings account is like a low-hilled roller coaster. On impulse, I bought one at Best Buy a couple months ago on credit. So, check that item off! Of course, now I have to add a new item, "pay off Best Buy account."

But my losing weight item seems to increase another 10 lbs every year !!

Edited because I don't know the difference between "since" and "sense"!]

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Hmm. Yea, I too would like to pay off my credit card.

Other than that, a five year plan seams like a unrealistic and boring concept to me.

Five year plans aren't for everyone I guess. I wouldn't consider not having one a fault.

Who needs a plan? Let's all just post in blue. Is that a plan? A dem fine plan son!I have never in my life had a plan. I draw a complete blank trying to even thing of one. But you know what, who needs a plan? Life is going to happen and mess up the plan anyway. I think my plan is to not have a plan ever.

Or, I draw a complete blank trying to even THINK of one. I hate it when I make typos! I made all these plans in the last couple years

just to get back to square one. frustrating to say the leastNo plan.I never make plans that far ahead. It's hard enough to deal with what's going on minute by minute. Live one day at a time it what I say!

I stopped making plans beyond today a loooong time ago. It's so depressing to dig up a list of things to plan from 10 years ago - and see not only did you not do them - but you backslid. Bummer.

Some can do it. Maybe if I'd gotten meds 10 years ago. I live for today now. That's good enough for me thank you very much!

I was asked the other day what my five year plan was, to which I just stared at the person with a rather stupid expression on my face. I don't even have a plan for tomorrow let alone in five years time.

So, I thought I would attempt to do myself a One Year Plan. I couldn't do it, well I could but I don't believe I will do any of the things listed on my plan!!

How do others plan their lives out? I couldnt see myself getting married until it had happened and I couldn't see my life with a child in it until she came home with me.

Do any of you have a PLAN that you live by??

if i did i wouldnt have add

A one year plan? Isn't that a New Year's Revolution? Okay, I'll live by the Revoluationary Plan.
BTW, what is that?

Yeah, we get asked that every year at work. Like I'm really going to tell them "My 5 year plan is to be anywhere but here!"

I thought I was being funny last year when I told my boss "I don't have a 1 year plan. I have a 1 day plan and that is to get through the day without choking anybody."

He wasn't amused, but he is also one of those boring non-ADDers, so I just feel sorry for him.

I quit feeling sorry for no-KnADDs.
They don't know what they're missing.
And I don't have time to 'splain...
I missed the plan and took the boat.

How exciting!!!! So you do have some plan then

I enjoyed planning my wedding, but I never really expected it to eventuate, of course it did.

I'm glad to hear it, at least Im not alone.

What the hell do these people think setting up a five year plan will get them??

Do they really work for nonADDer's???

They must have heat on the brain.

They need to CHILL!!!

Pretty much day to day.. well usually...

All I know is my divorce will be final in may and I'm getting married in June and I'm moving to CA in June and I'm gonna keep going to school and be with the best man in the world who is my soul mate who I shouda married 15 years ago, who never got married cause "I set too high a standard". (that what he said)

Sorry, got carried away, gotta go night night.

[QUOTE=Davidornado] What if you never had a song?

Does that mean you never had a friend?

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The song is there. Just sit very quiet and listen for it.

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Who knows? we could be dead the next day.[/QUOTE]

Uh, I'm not planning on it.
What plan? Just roll with the punches. I mean sure, I have an idea of what
I want to acheive in the future, but I can't limit that as to an amount in
years. I just know to deal with what I'm given now and make better of the
current situation. Not every goal in life takes a well-defined plan to get
there.

I don't understand why people need to define themselves within a plan
neverless a 5 yr one. Life is something to be appreciated, not planned.
Who knows? we could be dead the next day. [QUOTE=Countrygirl] [QUOTE=Davidornado] What if you never had a song?

Does that mean you never had a friend?[/QUOTE]
The song is there. Just sit very quiet and listen for it.
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Yeah, right!

Like I can do that.

I can't even sit, much less still!

I still jump on beds. They're bouncy.
Ā [QUOTE=BDLB] A friend is supposed to be caring and supportive! [/QUOTE]

Caring and supportive, Yeah, a friend is someone who knows your song and sings it back to you when you forget the words. Forget where I heard that but, that's a friend.
What if you never had a song?

Does that mean you never had a friend?That's pretty much what I told him. We agreed to disagree and leave it at that. Im still pissed at him though.

This will make you all mad

When I first posted this topic I wanted to know if it was an ADD thing to have trouble with planning and actually carrying out each item.

Yesturday the person who told me I should have a five year plan ask me how it was going, I told him it wasnt.

His response was to tell me that my exuses were pathetic and childish and that it was time I took responsibility for myself or I would get no where and would only have myself to blame

This person has been my friend for over ten years and does not seem to understand me at all. Much less have any regard for my feelings. Ive printed out all the responses to my post for him to read. No doubt he'll have the same attitude.

People are allowed to have their own opinions. As for me, I don't give two craps about others ideas about what I should do. Who does this person think they are? A friend, hmm, I'd think real hard about that one! A friend is supposed to be caring and supportive!