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Another solution for bed polution..Make a pallet underneath it
CAN SOME BODY TEACH ME HOW TO POST PIX?
guest bedroom that i actually use to sleep in , never go into the master to "protect" it and have a clean room, bed is 12 feet from door but i had to walk about 20 feet to get to it.
i showed ya mine lets see yours, fair is fair
http://pictures.aol.com/ap/viewShare.do?shareInfo=KnVVBplenS MByEKXhgZmwkFrXg78IoYfkE9i44Kl6eO%2fjFCnkV3ciA%3d%3d [Quote=rayray]i showed ya mine lets see yours, fair is fairI see noosink....noosink...
(can't get the hang of ' ''s yet...sorry)
not proud of it but this is only place i feel i can share ADD woes
I have ppl helping me with remembering things like makeing the bad, eating, doing laundry and cleaning. Before I had them I didn't do any of that, I simply forgot.Oh well, I have always made my bed right before I get into it again, I hate when the sheets aren't smooth :-))
/Kaks
Can't see any pics either
Does anyone make their bed? I never do.
Nope. Almost never
Onluy my brani is mysse
Bepatient
children may forget what you say, but they will never forget how you made them feel.
That's very profound. Did you come up with that or did you see it somewhere?
[QUOTE=Countrygirl] [QUOTE=pumpkin]
Does anyone make their bed? I never do.
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SURE! Or at least straighten it - every night before I get back into it
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At least the side I'm sleeping on! Or when my girlfriend comes over!
Here's my solution for bed polution:Use a sleeping bag.
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I am either very clean & organized (with Adderall) or Everything except common living areas are taken over by multiple mini explosions(car, work area, bedroom, school work etc). Adderall works great but seems to be less effective as time goes on. I get very frustrated and embarassed being so messy and unorganized. Thanks for you honesty RayRay. Helps to know I am not alone. done thatRayray-I've tried in vain and can't get to those elusive pics. (R they REALLY
there?) I'm in aol share but cant find your "stuff". Hurry....I'm losing hope.
Please, Please, PLEASE, let there be someone like me! (Heaven help us, or
Adderal, or WHATEVER!!!!)
planegirl
[QUOTE=planegirl]Rayray-I've tried in vain and can't get to those elusive pics. (R they REALLY
there?) I'm in aol share but cant find your "stuff". Hurry....I'm losing hope.
Please, Please, PLEASE, let there be someone like me! (Heaven help us, or
Adderal, or WHATEVER!!!!)
planegirl [/QUOTE]
I can compete in the lotsa' junk area with the best of you. :)) I have lots and lots of piles everywhere.
People always comment about how clean my house is and how you can eat off my floors. I just laugh and wonder what house they are mistaking for mine. I have just been diagnosed and started treatment for ADD. But I have come to find that I have suffered with it for years. During those years I (like many others have I'm sure) have learned to cope and find tricks to trick others into thinking you have your head on straight.
First trick is to have a dish washer. All dishes go in there until you have a load. Makes the kitchen look less cluttered because there isn't a pile of dishes in the sink. (for dorms they now have small counter top diswashers)
I have put baskets all over the house. Come to find out I was hip on decorating before the trend came about . hehehe.....now you can find cloth lined baskets of all shapes and sizes, I have them in the kitchen, living room, hall, bedrooms, just about everywhere, if you can find ones with lids even better. I cram things in there and then when I leave the room I can take it around room to room and deposit everything where it needs to go.
Swiffer mops are the bomb. Sweep the floor and a quick swipe with the wet swiffer and the floors "look" clean. I certainly wouldn't eat off of them though. Even better is the bissel flip it. One side vacumes and the other mops. If ya'll are anything like me half the battle of cleaning house is getting over the agnozing "getting started" point. Having things like the swiffer, the flip, and such lessens the steps needed with traditional cleaning methods like mop, bucket, fill the bucket, empty the bucket. Can't tell you how many times I've mopped the floor just to leave a bucket full of yucky water sitting by the door for days with the mop still in it. 
I'm hopping now that I have been diagnosed and started treatment that I can find other methods of cleaning house instead of the cram and hide it method. I have that one closet that I always pray no one opens when they come over or my jig is up and I'll be found out. And they wonder where they anxiety comes from.
Geeze, forgot something else. I can relate to those that micro organize stuff. There are days that it seems I get nothing done, though I've worked all day at trying to pick up. Start in one room, take something to another room and then get distracted picking up there. I never finish one area. Then I'm beat and feel like I have nothing to show for it. Then there are days that I start wipping the kitchen counter and the next thing I know I'm scrubbing the floor boards with a toothbrush and it's three hours later, I've missed a Dr. appt and I have exactly five minutes to make a fifteen minute trip to pick the kids up from school. Then there's the obsesiveness of doing things a certain way. (Which I have come to find out it's not uncommon for those with ADHD to also have a touch of OCD) The dishes have to be loaded in the dishwasher a certain way, to me it makes perfect sense, to the rest in my family I'm nuts. I think that people with ADD often times feel like their life is so out of control that they pick things that they over control so to speak.
And no, I don't make my bed..........hubby makes the bed most mornings and it's like getting a little hug each morning when I go in to gather laundery or something and see that there is one less thing I have to do that day.
[QUOTE=planegirl] [QUOTE=oldtimer] I read add,adhd people just should have the basics
they have to have. Here it like that cause we own to much stuff. Anyone
else like this . Maybe we should have a big sale. [/QUOTE]
You say that we've got "to much stuff"
The things I chose to call it
are "things", "possessions", "my security"
But others just call it "my 5#1+"
I just know I desperately need some major help. I know all the
answers. So why the flip can't I do anything about this problem
that is slowly killing me?[/QUOTE]
Planegirl,
you have so described me pretreatment!! Halloween, I would open the door only part way because I didnt want trick or treaters to see inside my house!! No one would be invited over -- I would just be too darn embarrassed!!.
How did I get out of the mess? The timer on the oven..
Set your timer for 15 minutes a couple times of day.. do not look at the whole mess.. pick one room, ignore everything else. start at the door and clean your way around the room... no fair looking at anything else!!
I have 3 boxes as I cleaned and I would toss them into those boxes. put away box ( I didnt take the item to where it belonged, I threw it in the box.) Throw away box, and give away box.
Throw away box and give away box went straight out the door.. then all I had was the put away box. Later in the day, I would set the timer again and race myself to see how fast I could put items away! If I didnt know where to put something I would place it in a room that I thought made logical sense to me where it belonged..
sometimes the putaway box became the attic box ;) and I like that when it happened!
Sherry
if u havent worn it in a year throw it out/give it away
if you havent seen it in 6 months throw it out
If it's in the floor, throw it out/give it away. I've really regreted doing that. I had to purchase a whole new winter wardrobe because I donated all my clothes to goodwill. That was actually an accident, got the Hefty bags mixed up. RayRay - Ya see what ya started?Planegirl - Say hi to Larry for me. Simon Peter likes to help me type too. [QUOTE=rayray812]
if you havent seen it in 6 months throw it out
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If you haven't seen in in 6 months, how do you throw it out?
Planegirl- When I figure out how to send pics on this and show my back room - You will be like "And I thought I had problems."
Kibbles - I have used that strategy too. Only put the boxes and bags in the back room.
Omygosh this thread is funny. Nice pic! LOL and not you're not alone. You have 10 pages of nosey people wanting to know if your bedroom looks just as bad as theirs! Mine is pretty bad too. In fact, I've post poned a move because I'm soooooo not looking forward in cleaning/organizing this darn mess. It's going to take me days (I'm scared to see what the carpet looks like). It's a good thing I'm single. If I have a date, WE GO OUT! loli wanna see
OKAY! If you'll tell me how to do it.....i. 333333333.will
l..1.231101....MAYBE...sorry. That was Larry. My cat! [QUOTE=oldtimer] I read add,adhd people just should have the basics
they have to have. Here it like that cause we own to much stuff. Anyone
else like this . Maybe we should have a big sale. [/QUOTE]
You say that we've got "to much stuff"
The things I chose to call it
are "things", "possessions", "my security"
But others just call it "my 5#1+"
Soooo...... which room would you like to see?!
You have NO idea...but then maybe you do, how difficult
this is going to be for me. I let NO ONE in. EVER!
I've always done better being accountable TO someone so
maybe I can be accountable to ya'll. The thing is, is I dust
and vacuum. I try to leave "shiny sinks" each night. I'm NOT
filthy...thank goodness for little things, but as you will see
I REALLY DO think there's a little more going on here. I tried to
join the H-C group but its closed to new members. Like I said
in addition to my ADD and bipolar. I'm so flippin lost ya'll. I try to
laugh about it but I screaming on the inside. Sometimes I
feel like my...maybe this is for another forum. I don't know.
I just know I desperately need some major help. I know all the
answers. So why the flip can't I do anything about this problem
that is slowly killing me?
[QUOTE=bigshooter]
Bepatient
children may forget what you say, but they will never forget how you made them feel.
That's very profound. Did you come up with that or did you see it somewhere?[/QUOTE]
I came up with it after being an instructional teaching assistant for 1st - 5th graders for a few years. It was so obvious to me how some of the harsh words spoken to the kids by their teachers, negatively affected their self esteem.
Often times I would be taken back to my own experiences as a child, being so unorganized and forgetful, and the things I remember mostly about my teachers was how they made me feel about myself.
The truth some kids have no boundaries at home or values. Being the leader is the hardest job on Earth. Some will do others won't. You can only teach . It's harder when parents expect nothing. I see kids allowed to quit when they first start stuff they are new at.It takes a while to aquire a new skill. Today it's hard cause there is someone who will complain cause they don't like or how it is being done. Trying to please adults is harder. I see it all the time. I have asst. coached soccer, den leader now,subd school teacher in public education. There is always a unsatisfied adult. We all view family life different. We all expect different things from kids. I noticed our kids attitudes got bad after leaving private preschool. There were no bad manners aloud. We are doing the best we can. I just wish professionals would be more helpful. R Noldtimer38703.5618287037 [QUOTE=Countrygirl]Another solution for bed polution..Make a pallet underneath it
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For what?
To use a forklift to clean it up?
[QUOTE=pumpkin]
Does anyone make their bed? I never do.
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I never do either. It seems like such a waste of time, you are just gonna get into again and mess it up every 24 hours.
One thing that worked for me for a while was a suggestion made by a lady who was teaching others how to organize their houses and such.
She said, follow two rules for cleaning - keep up with your laundry and make your bed. That was it. So I tried it for a while and it worked really well. That was all I worried about each day. It really did stay cleaner for a while. Then I forgot about the rule I guess.
Since I've been doing my exercises from Stopping ADHD, the book I always am talking about, I find that I clean up as I go. I just think about it as I am doing it, and things stay neater. But it's not all there yet. I still have messes all around. It's just that I keep at least one room clean now, and it isn't as hard to get them cleaned up. I know what to do now. I sometimes just do it as I walk through a room, I'll pick things up as I go. But it isn't perfect yet. I've still got months to keep crawling, so we will see.
Use the containers and fill them with things you don't want, and wrap them up pretty!!! j/kI think I need a drink
Wireless in bars - there's no stopping you now.
I have an idea, (after 2 beers) The only think in this little town is a grocery story, .00 store (boo) and a Mcdonalds. SO everybody is getting Mcdonald's gift certificates. Like I said, there's not a lot of choices. I can get candy for the kids at the grocery store too. Ok then, I'll be late to my own party, but, what else is new?
I forgot to invite my brother.
[QUOTE=Davidornado] [QUOTE=Countrygirl]Another solution for bed polution..
Make a pallet underneath it
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For what?
To use a forklift to clean it up?
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good idea, but I had the other kind of pallet in mind. OMG- I'm sitting here on the computer; I have 25 people coming to my house tomorrow. I keep thinking I'm so close, but there is no end! I just remembered that I bought about a dozen containers last year to help me organize. They are sitting in the back room empty. So the plan is... Get those containers out in the morning, fill them up, hide them back in the back room then vacuum, shampoo & dust! vwalah I am getting close. I just have to get it all done before it is time for church. I'm gettin control.
Oh crap! This is my family's Christmas party and I still forgot to buy gifts! What to do, what to do? Not much to choose from in this little town and no time to go anywhere else. Any ideas, ANYBODY!!! Talk about a mess! Wrap yourself up in Christmas colors and ribbon, and make something up a/b giving of yourself to them, b/c they are so valuable as human beings, and, and, and ....
[QUOTE=awmcgillicutty]Use the containers and fill them with things you don't want, and wrap them up pretty!!! j/k[/QUOTE]
For those who've don't deserve what you are, wrap up some coal or doggie doodoo...
[QUOTE=Countrygirl]I think I need a drink
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Wanna have somma minea?
heheheh
No wodka, nora whiskeya.
Justa beeria.
Woo0-hoo0a!!!
Know hwat theyr'e puttingi n bars now?
Wireless!!!
I think I need a drink
[QUOTE=BDLB]I hate crawling in bed and there are crumbs from the kids
eating in it, sometimes they go in there to watch TV at night. Or
popcorn everywhere! They stick to your skin when you lay down! [/QUOTE]Yeah, but it's better that having Auntie's kitty treats on your pillow
RAYRAY,
I tried your cut & paste link and it didn't work. I don't know how to do AOL but you can use this free link to post your pics. I use Imagecave all the time thanks to the suggestion of one of our old members. It seems to work better than any others I tried.
You will have a selection of using the URL, HTML, EZCODE, Thumbnail. The URL should work. Copy that (and paste) after you click on the add image button here. (Above, 2nd button to last on right side (the tree)
Hope that helps.
wAY TO gO! rAY Ray!!!
[QUOTE=Countrygirl][QUOTE=BDLB]I hate crawling in bed and there are crumbs from the kids eating in it, sometimes they go in there to watch TV at night. Or popcorn everywhere! They stick to your skin when you lay down! [/QUOTE]
Yeah, but it's better that having Auntie's kitty treats on your pillow
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You would have to bring that up over here.
My room is a dump!! It's embarrassing. It's not as bad as last week I tidyed it but it is already getting bad again!
well lets see it
[QUOTE=sassee][QUOTE=BDLB]I hate a messy bedroom..... it bothers me to no end .[/QUOTE]
I'm with you... but I am on the other end of the spectrum and am obsessed with cleaning up. If we have a party I can't sit and enjoy the company because I keep thinking about cleaning up. Once I took a plate out of my friend's hand to clean it up but she wasn't even done eating yet. Everyone laughed at me except my DH who is too used to it to find it funny. I can't sit still at my work desk because I keep thinking of things I need to clean up or reorganize. I'm not judging people who have messy rooms though, I think my need to clean and organize helps me to cope with my messy brain. Is anybody else like me? Maybe I have OCD too. Oh well, one diagnosis at a time is all I can handle.
My wife can be overly zealous in cleaning. One dish in the sink and she's cryn' bloody murder!
I hate crawling in bed and there are crumbs from the kids eating in it, sometimes they go in there to watch TV at night. Or popcorn everywhere! They stick to your skin when you lay down! http://pictures.aol.com/ap/viewShare.do?shareInfo=KnVVBplenS MByEKXhgZmwkFrXg78IoYfkE9i44Kl6eO%2fjFCnkV3ciA%3d%3d
cut & paste above, banished(pic) myself to my own guest room, only go in bedroom on weekends actually lock myself out so i dont trash it
I am sooo messy. When I had roomates in my other house I always kept the common areas clean and never had any of my stuff laying around but as soon as you hit my bedroom you'd better watch out. Now that I live on my own I find that my entire house is a mess. I can't afford a housekeeper so the next best thing is to take on a roomate so that I guess I will go back to only having a messy bedroom...but I like living on my own! Oh, what to do! How is it that I can keep it clean when others are around but not do it when it's just me? I always feel so good when I finally get it clean.
By the way, gotta go clean as my brother comes into town on Sat. boy is it going to take me forever to get this place clean.
[QUOTE=bepatient] [QUOTE=rayray812]im tempted to post a pic of how messy my bedroom has gottn at my worst..
but hell im embarassed to even show to u guys... any challengers?
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I'm right there with ya rayray. I had final projects due every day last week and final exams this week. My freaking whole house is at "my worst". You wouldn't believe the PILES!
[/QUOTE]OMG!...I've never had them.
What are they like?
(PILES)
when i post it even a nutball like u is gonna call me a pigParts Inherited Like Everyone's S*it!I thought bedrooms were suppose to look like that. You clean the rest of the house, throw everything into the bedroom and shut the door. The bedroom has always been a challenge for me, but I got so tired of tripping over things in the dark that I actually just finished cleaning my bedroom (well, not exactly finished, but oh, so close!) Took 3 days (so far) and I have 5 trash bags full of crap going to goodwill. - the easiest way to clean, grab a bag and start filling it up.
My room is a dump!! It's embarrassing. It's not as bad as last week I tidyed it but it is already getting bad again!
It consists of mouldy cups, clothes everywhere, sweet wrapper, old drinks, dust, old bed sheets, yuck...I can't tell you any more even I am embarrassed.
I take pride in my personal appearance though! Clean twice a day, wash hair every day nearly, wear lovely clothes. Why is my room such a dump?
im tempted to post a pic of how messy my bedroom has gottn at my worst..
but hell im embarassed to even show to u guys... any challengers?
Ready?
DRAW!
k i took a pic b4 i got DX to bring to doc , ill fig out how to post it
i look at it now & say what a nut case...
ill get it on over next day or so..
actually dave lets extend challenge to all addder show ur worst add mess/chaos pit
[QUOTE=rayray812]im tempted to post a pic of how messy my bedroom has gottn at my worst..
but hell im embarassed to even show to u guys... any challengers?
[/QUOTE]
I'm right there with ya rayray. I had final projects due every day last week and final exams this week. My freaking whole house is at "my worst". You wouldn't believe the PILES!
I am trying to "clean up" my act (no pun intended). My place can seem like - well like Dr. Hallowell says "a bag ladies' place". Stuff everywhere - I start things and never finish.
But - I am getting better (I think). I am moving to a bigger place soon and I'm throwing away things I'd normally packrat along with me. And auctioning off a lot on ebay. Who knows - my goal is to have a couple of suitcases and some furniture. One can dream.
I think because when you finally get there...the bed is the immediate destination.....forget all else. What you do once you're in it is optional.
My wifes youngest son plays with small cars, takes them apart and there are lil pieces all over the place. I wind up stepping on it or someone else does....ooOOUCH!! 
I hate a messy bedroom..... it bothers me to no end .[QUOTE=Countrygirl] [QUOTE=pumpkin]
Does anyone make their bed? I never do.
[/QUOTE]
SURE! Or at least straighten it - every night before I get back into it
[/QUOTE]
I never make my bed.. well only when I put clean sheets on it or if I'm having people over because it seems that most people expect beds to be made when your not in them.
I guess it does look better.. just not a priority ya know? Gotta get goin when I wake up, making my bed is the least of my concerns.
Oh, darn. My posting boards are so messy I lost my posts. Did I already post in here? Can anywone remember what I said? Look around for the profoundly sarcastic oprhan around here, and send him home, okay?thanks....
I was just thinking about my beautiful new bedspread I bought myself for Christmas... it has been on my bed once.
I don't make my bed.. I thought if I had something pretty to put on it that I would.. but nope.. it didnt work
My bedroom stays pretty clean, except for the pile of clothes that end up on the floor from the weeks wearing.. I'm embarrassed to say, they are all mine, but at least they all get picked up once a week on laundry day!
Sherry
Where are the pictures?[QUOTE=BDLB]I hate a messy bedroom..... it bothers me to no end .[/QUOTE]
I'm with you... but I am on the other end of the spectrum and am obsessed with cleaning up. If we have a party I can't sit and enjoy the company because I keep thinking about cleaning up. Once I took a plate out of my friend's hand to clean it up but she wasn't even done eating yet. Everyone laughed at me except my DH who is too used to it to find it funny. I can't sit still at my work desk because I keep thinking of things I need to clean up or reorganize. I'm not judging people who have messy rooms though, I think my need to clean and organize helps me to cope with my messy brain. Is anybody else like me? Maybe I have OCD too. Oh well, one diagnosis at a time is all I can handle.
Hee Hee, My stuff is everywhere. My son's books and Power Rangers are all over my bedroom floor, and really hurt to step on! Drives my husband crazy.
I feel bad when my husband points out that none of the mess is his stuff, but when I look around, I can see his point.
Does anyone make their bed? I never do.
I wouldn't be able to function if I didn't make my bed. Not that I function too well right now.
my mistake. I havent slept on my bed in months...NOW do you want
to compare pics? I don't know how it all got away from me. I mean, I've
always been messy...My house IS clean....it's just noone can come
in...literally. It's a nightmare every minute of every day! And this is just in
addition to all ???'s asked about...Do you...Have you ever....Does anyone
else ever...???
YES!! YES!!! YES!!! I'm just wondering if ya'll will take me in? Now if I could
just hover under someones wing for awhile...
So how DO you deal with it? There has to be a way out from under all this
shrap! I'm like a dog chasing its tail. I don't know where to start..When I
do...hey does anyone start micro-doing whatever?
Organizing...cleaning...when ALL I want to do is move the stuff to one
cornor of the room or put everything in just ONE room! I start doing little
mini stuff thats way more fun than moving things.
I know I'm rambling and it's becoming clear I'm not saying what I feel
right now...and thats TOTAL frustration that I just can't get it. How to
move past these obstacles that are totally making me miserable. If any oe
all of you have any tips, suggestions, behavior mod. WHATEVER...I'm
reading..,and thanks for being here...I've been looking for you...reading
about you for months and well now got the guts to post 'cause HEAVEN
KNOWS I ain't got any glory....yet.xxx
xxxxxxME GREEN] [QUOTE=pumpkin]
Does anyone make their bed? I never do.
[/QUOTE]
SURE! Or at least straighten it - every night before I get back into it
[QUOTE=planegirl]I thought the bed was for "piles" of whatever. my mistake. I havent slept on my bed in months...So how DO you deal with it? There has to be a way out from under all this
shrap! I'm like a dog chasing its tail. I don't know where to start..When I
do...hey does anyone start micro-doing whatever?
Organizing...cleaning...when ALL I want to do is move the stuff to one
cornor of the room or put everything in just ONE room! I start doing little
mini stuff thats way more fun than moving things.
[/QUOTE]
I totally get what you are saying because I'm the same way. I've got boxes of recycling (I keep forgetting to put it out-- like, 6 months worth of recycling boxes and bags), clothes all over the place, boxes of miscellaneous crap stashed in closets for those times I've need to clean in a hurry. So, instead of dealing with any of this crap, I'll clean out a drawer or reorganize coupons or something. Nothing ever, ever gets done.
Make bed? NEVER!
[QUOTE=taritac]So, instead of dealing with any of this crap, I'll clean out a drawer or reorganize coupons or something. Nothing ever, ever gets done.
Make bed? NEVER!
[/QUOTE]I always start cleaning house by emptying my closet, which makes a bigger mess.
That is probably why I resort to putting everything into trash bags and tossing it in the garbage or taking it to the goodwill store. I have thrown away lots of things that I have regretted later- but, hey, I live in the moment
Planegirl - The only way I can get anywhere with a big mess is to pick one small section to focus on and that's it for the day, kind of like if I clean up this one small thing I will have achieved a goal, and then I can move on to the next thing...if I look at a big pile of stuff that I have to do I get really overwhelmed... I have learned to force myself into breaking it down into very small projects that don't all have to get done right away...then eventually it gets done. I hope maybe this will help?
I grew up in a house that was a mess and just crazy crazy, when I got married I had no idea even how to do laundry, it was bad. My hubby is Mr. Clean so many years and arguments later I kinda figured out how to keep the house up but now when I go to my mom's the mess just makes me feel like I am choking... So anyway what was I talking about?
Hey rayray....YOU posted 'em.
But I'm like the people who feel like they have to
clean up BEFORE the "domestic engineer" arrives
to clean. SOOO....I'm stuffin', stackin', and pushin'.
THEN I'll snap a pic....Drat! I've always wanted to be
the best at something HOWEVER THIS WAS NOT ON MY
LIST OF GOALS!!!!
Later....
lol im not a peeping tom just want to see that im not alone,,
btw pre-treatment pix, i found the floor oh yeah & sheets,
well thats a lie i bought new sheets
YOU LOOKED AT MINE NOW LETS SEE 'EM!!!
[QUOTE=oldtimer]I read add,adhd people just should have the basics they have to have. Here it like that cause we own to much stuff. Anyone else like this . Maybe we should have a big sale. [/QUOTE]
I am like Glen- even if I did sell the extra stuff at a yard sale, I would spend the proceeds at another yard sale down the street. Also, yard sales are way too much trouble. I have a hard enough time keeping things at home organized. When I get in the right frame of mind, which is once in a blue moon, I do better throwing stuff into huge hefty bags, and quickly throwing them away before I have time to change my mind.
I do better throwing stuff into huge hefty bags, and quickly throwing them away before I have time to change my mind.
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That's my strategy.
How to you get your spouse to understand if it is not getting used get rid of it. This to me is the leading cause in big messy rooms. If you have less it's less to put up. RNI used to sell my stuff by yard sale every summer oldtimer. But the trouble was that with the cash I'd gotten I'd typically go down the street and see another yard sale with some kitchy thing that I simply HAD to have - then it starts again!! It was actually easier with the wicked bitch of the west - she'd kick me out and pawn my stuff from time to time - saving me the trouble! LOL!!I'm a pack rat.. I admit it.. the best thing in the world I ever did was move.. I had so many trashbags out on the curb, I was embarrassed and actually brought them out a few at a time from my overflowing garage!
That was 2 years ago.. slowly, things became chaotic at my home again.. except the mess was more spread out! LOL
I almost feel guilty for sharing this but I thought that maybe if I did you would all know that there is hope for us "messies'
I clean once a week, I don't get it all done, its not perfect and the closet does remind me of something from the old Fibber Mcgee radio show. BUT, the tables are clean, the floor gets vacuumed and I don't step over stuff.. Ray, my bedroom at my old house looked like yours -- I promise! it doesnt now. I'm crediting this turn around with my ADD treatment -- medical AND behavioral.
The best Christmas present I ever got was this year was when my parents came to stay with me unexpectedly from Florida. I actually asked my mom if she thought I was doing a better job with my home.. her reply was " oh my gosh! 1,000 percent better!"
She then asked me if I thought she had ADD cause she has never been able to keep house as good as I can!! LOL Oh my gosh!!!
All this to say.. keep swimming , keep running, keep trying... you can do it too!!
It took me 40 years of my life to get to this point.
SHerry
I read add,adhd people just should have the basics they have to have. Here it like that cause we own to much stuff. Anyone else like this . Maybe we should have a big sale. himy reaction to the messy messy
part of add and adhd is a tendency to hit a critical mass with stuff
this discribes the cycle a few of you were talking about
im in a pit right now, i really have tried to break the habit of getting
so mad at my self that i cant move foward. sometimes apease myself
with "its a better low point than i used to hit"
when i used to hit these low points, living in my own filth
my family would come and help me (not always invited but i was
young) my mother implemented the fridge/lightswitch/
remotecontroll labeling for the rest of the add family members as we
were growing up. Since i left home 10 years ago, every once and a
while she comes and labels boxes and bins..... cleans with me
constantly reminding me to stay on task. yes this is demeaning at
times. but she is continuing to inforce tools and stratagies as a
parent/educator for her child even though i am an adult. i even sent
her pictures of projects started and finished.
now im at a critical point, my living space is worse than its been. i
dont want her to have to come and save me. so i did the adult thing
to do. the adult add thing to do. i called her up and told her. mom
its worse than its been since you last helped. i told her i wanted to
do it on my own. i wanted to do it with out sending pictures(i didnt
like that part and ended that solution early)
first of all telling her, the person who has seen it at its worst, has put
so much work into my space and making me/helping me deal with
it.
helped immensly, she was not as mad at me as i was, she said ok,
take out the garbage and do your books tonoght... all of them, then
go to bed. she also said if i need her shell come. and if i dont get it
together she'll come anyway.
when you need help, ask for it. it helps if this person knows you and
wont coddle you or try to fix the problem
it ok to say, doh, my stuff it out of hand... can you help.
part of add is being embarassed of your space, its not all about the
piles.
ok i just wrote this instead of finishing my giant mail pile.
im gonna do my giant mail pile, find the box labeled mail, put it
back in the right place. then go to bed.
-thanks for sharing and listening
-ratty
ps. paper plates and forks are really a huge help, and for us slobby
slobs, much healthierI finally saw rayray's picture
It looks as though it's ME that's sicker
Losing cats and money too
When I clean up I'll send 'em to you!
the pics that is.
while ratty says...
"while she comes and labels boxes and bins..... cleans with me
constantly reminding me to stay on task. yes this is demeaning at
times. but she is continuing to enforce tools and strategies as a
parent/educator for her child even though i am an adult"
How wonderful to have that support from your Mom. I was diag. at age
41.
My Mom has offered to come "help in any way I can" MANY times and
would be here in a NY min HOWEVER the "repercussions" of accepting that
offer really do offset ANY progress we may make. "They" just think I'm
not trying hard enough. And then the talking to all sibs....I don't know
what's wrong with...she wasn't raised like that...when in fact, growing up
there was ALWAYS chaos (how could there not be with 5 kids) but there
was never any order to things. Nothing had a place. And while my parents
house always "seems" to be in order, the chaos is still there. I KNOW
where it is. But I'm not here to take anyone else's inventory. I just wish I
could have that support without judgement. I'm hard enough on myself !
My older brother has been trying in vein to help me "get it", and while
EVERYTHING he says makes sense, I don't...can't...won't...but God love
him, he is the only one who has stuck with me. because HE KNOWS how I
feel. Overwhelmed all the time, like a complete failure... worthless... less
than... 'cause we're the same. And it's so weird. He lives out of state and
when we talk, I would swear he's outside my window watching every move
I make. Because he UNDERSTANDS! And he has offered several times, and
been here on 2 or 3 different occasions, giving of himself....but I can't
stand for anyone to help...to touch my stuff...to just make me put things
in boxes and label them. Oh gosh...what if I needed THAT whatever.....
I'm just rambling now. I needed to talk and he's not home. And I think I'm
just, ONCE AGAIN, delaying the inevitable. I've got to DO something
around here. I'm just making myself sick. My space really is important. It's
my sanity. Now I must go make some.
Thanks for indulging me. It's so nice to KNOW I'm not alone. I'm not
unique, or different, or lazy. I just need to learn new ways to deal with my
ADD. To embrace it's differences by todays "standard of normalcy" and
realize how special and talented I TRULY AM!!!
Soooo.....I'm goin' in! I know this one only too well. If my ironing pile get any higher it'll be officially a health and safety hazard.
And I'm dreading going to my parents for Christmas. They look organised but, as some else said before, I know where all the chaos hides! Ahg... the stress.
My mentor at work suggested I try to fit some extra prep in my spare time in the evenings. He simply didn't take my response of 'what free time?!' seriously.
Ray, that is awesome.
Sheets in the dryer rayray? I do that all the time. Parents got here on Sunday my father put the sheets on my sons bed on Mon. found them on my bedroom floor in the clean pile. I cleaned the guest bathroom this morning 2 days after guests arrived. Oh well life goes on!
good point, smartass
alright all you peeping toms post em!
I understand completly. I have a room throw everything in when I have company. I start to clean it then more people come over and it looks worce then it did before I started. Its a never ending cycle. It drives me nuts.
Lisa
Can't believe it is all over. I did it. I am wonder woman. And I am sooo tired. I am now going to unmake my bed and go to sleep. Nite
Hey! Company comin so I made my bed this morning and guess what I found...
1. lost earring
2. stack of magazines under a pile of pillows
3. a flashlight
4. a couple of unread books
5. that I had 2 bottom sheets on my bed??????
Hi I'm new here. My wife and I both have ADD, so you can imagine how our house looks. Sometimes I get the urge to clean and go on a rampage so the cats don't get lost in the piles of stuff in the house. Also thank God for automatic withdrawl payments for bills...
Welcome, Seamus, and your wife.
To these forums, which may change your life.
It's okay to live messily,
Work on relationships or live dizzily.
NICE!!!Glad my bedroom is 400 square feet! Gives a little for mloor to wakl[][][. You got me beat in my bedroom , but I have to more bedrooms in the back that you would never believe.l.llSoly typing craizyk my had is daizy
, DDang //rayrat. I swant to challenge you wee hoo you up for a chalkend ''Dang'sojebody needs to come type for me. RAYRAY YOU OWJJ/ tHIS IS A PERSONAL CHALLENGE.,E THHHHHEN SAHH YES.
dON'T LOOK, BUT THAT MAN IN TH AVATAR HAS NO EYES. He cat seeus. shhhh snf thered= is magic in his mustackhr. zlikr cat whiskers.they sence a mysterey extrasensory perceptions, aIf he ever cuts then off, he will grow weak as a kitten ISAY there is magic in that mustache, no eyed man. Sorry Ray - I mixed up my meds last night. Gonna have to move some to a different place so that doesn't happen again. I'm not really challenging you to see who has the messiest room. I was just messed up at the moment. Hey, but, your room looks like Martha Stewart's compared to either of my back rooms! [QUOTE=rayray812]
Hey, that's pretty good, RayRay! Finally saw it!
Meow
Question:
What am I sensing now?
And you're right. I can no longer see.
I take showers in the dark, and close my eyes when I shave.
Why? B/c I saw myself in a mirror once.
*ack!
Gawd Dave, I don't even remember typing that, but it is funny.
What I typed to RayRay sounded rude. Sorry, Ray.
Just keep dreamin'......just keep dreamin'......lol
[QUOTE=Auntie] [QUOTE=The Resistance!]Spotlessly clean homes are the
sign of a sick mind.[QUOTE=blondiee75]
I understand completly. I have a room throw everything in when I have
company. I start to clean it then more people come over and it looks worce
then it did before I started. Its a never ending cycle. It drives me nuts.
Lisa
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I have a sick, sick mind.
You may have a sick mind auntie but I bet you have REAL people to talk to.
You know, the ones you can have into your "home".
All I have is a house with 5#i+ in it and that's what makes ME "sick".
I guess we've all got our own problems huh?
[QUOTE=Fryed2aCrisp]Just keep dreamin'......just keep dreamin'......lol [/QUOTE]
So do you know my financial situation???
I think I can. I think I can. I think I can.
[QUOTE=blondiee75]
I understand completly. I have a room throw everything in when I have company. I start to clean it then more people come over and it looks worce then it did before I started. Its a never ending cycle. It drives me nuts.
Lisa
[/QUOTE][/QUOTE]
I have a sick, sick mind.
blondie
lets see the room u dont have guts to show anybody else....
ray
So guys..how DO YOU post pics?HAPPY HALIDAYS TO ALL,
AND TO ALL, A GOODNIGHT![COLOR=GREEN][/
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post em on ur server or image hoster & give the link in posts
yahoo
imagecave
whatever
Spotlessly clean homes are the sign of a sick mind.[QUOTE=blondiee75]
I understand completly. I have a room throw everything in when I have company. I start to clean it then more people come over and it looks worce then it did before I started. Its a never ending cycle. It drives me nuts.
Lisa
[QUOTE=oldtimer]I just never cared about a spotless home. I do like it clean though not nasty. Here it's cause my hubby gets rid of nothing ever. He says I will regreat haveing no stuff from the kids. I guess it's a memorie issue with him. To me memories are what things you have done with them not things. RN[/QUOTE]
But when your kids grow into adulthood they will love looking at those things they did/made when they were little. You have to save "some" but not "everything". Origianlly, I had one big box for each of my step-sons with their things. I sorted out what I wanted to keep so when I get all emotional about how they are grown and what they were like when they were little I have things to look at and the rest I put into 2 scrapebooks (for each) for them to have and they loved it! I tried to save a few things for each year.
guess your just a bunch of peeping toms or u cant even find ur cameras5#i+ < what doesn that mean?