Thanks, and i have thought of switching teachers, the thing is if i do, she may not be his home room teacher, but she would still have him almost as much as ever as she is the 6th grade english teacher and some other class as well, so then i think, she "may" be even worse to Jake if i switch him u know? I dunno, maybe i am thinking childishly, but yeh, she has no clue what it is like and i came so so close to telling her i was just diagnosed with the same thing "hello does that explain alot!!", but i figured it is none of her business and i am not going to tell her anything about me, we will see how things go, she emailed me already today thanking me for haveing Jake buy a planner, who knows, but thanks for the kind words and most importantly thew understanding.
Now more then anything i know that my childrens behavior is not my fault or due to bad parenting, when are people going to learn we are not making this up? Sometimes i ask myself is my diagnosis of ADD/Inattentive is just an excuse for my laziness or that i am just not a very smart person, but coming here and reading up on it, talking to my doc and the kids doc, has shown me this is real. Teachers especially should be equipped with tons and tons of knowledge on this so they can handle our kids the appropriate way, and not label them as trouble makers, any way that was my preach for the day!!
chris r
chris r
You have a right to be upset.
Your son has an ADHD dx and his teacher is refusing to acknowledge it. You have discussed it with her personally, had a meeting with her and the school nurse and she still refuses. Its time you went to the school principal and request via e-mail that your son be switched to another teacher. Explain the steps you have taken and that she has ignored them all.
A good teacher can make all the difference. My son has been refused a 504 or IEP and still had problems. He had the same teacher for 2 yrs in a row and I haven't agreed with all her methods, but I credit her with him doing as well as he has. She poured herself into helping the kids who need help.
I have ADHD also and it makes it really difficult to help our kids be organized and self disciplined when we have problems ourselves in those areas and forget things easily. Its hard, very hard, but our kids are worth it.
You came to the right place to vent. We all understand why you need to.
Glad you got it all out. I know how you feel. Losing homework or not finishing work in school has been an issue here too. That teacher has a lot of nerve.Just needing to babble, have no where else to go. I had my first "experience" since being diagnosed with ADD last night with a person who has no clue, My sons teacher, (My 11 yr old has ADHD) and he is having issues, the regular problems with an ADHD kid and she basically had told me for the second time via email that i need to teach him responability and that i need to provide him with the tools to do so, i was so mad, how dare she???? He has ADHD and yeh,i teach him daily as in a have battles wiht him daily teaching him to make right choices etc. and to be responsable ( he has issues with bringing school work home and then turning it in so he is failing), i am sorry i cant go to school with him, he gets disaplined etc for when he screws up repeadedly, but it is a way of life with an ADHD kid, and she tells ME i am not provinding him with the right tools, not meaning literally as in school supplies, but this woman has no clue, none, even so much that the school nurse joined me in our conference a couple months ago so she could explain to this teacher what problems an ADHD kid has and the nurse has ADULT ADHD as well, so she was really giving this so called teacher info, anyway it just really pissed me off to be blunt, but then i thoguht about it, and the teacher did tell me my son needed to purchase a new planner at the school office, and she has told me about the different things, so, it just proves the point of MY ADD/Inattentive, forgetfullness etc. so, i calmed down, and let it go. Sent my son to school with $ to get the planner, and wrote notes so i could reference them later as to what the teacher needs him to do at home etc. ooh boy, then and this was all yesterday, i had a "busy" day, my hubby is out of town working and he HATES when i email him for no reason, just a long babbeling email , sorta like this one, so i normally type it and then i delete it and i feel "better" having gotten what ever it was out, insignificant as it may be, well last night i emailed it, and most people wouldnt care, but this has been an issue for us becasue i have no clue as to how to communicate with him verbally, i do it in emails, so i can go over it and make sure it sounds like what i want it to, anyway, i am doing it again, babbeling, well anyways anyone who is in the same boat i woudl love to hear it!!
chris r