I am the same. My boss is very quick and switched on and expects me to know something immediately. After they have explained to me a task, I realise I havent listened or I dont quite get it so I have to ask again. I feel so thick, keep asking! What annoys me is I am intelligent, but I just cannot focus on what people say. I would much rather read instructions or see them visually. I dont hear things, my head is in the clouds. Isn't it so frustrating? I feel like I am going to struggle too. I think maybe you will be best to find a skill that you can train at and that you can become good at. e.g. photographer, plumber, hairdresser.
These require skill but you do not need constant explanations. I am considering learning a trade!
I would love to be able to engage in conversation without my mind wandering all the time. That's painfully evident with my employer. I hold two part time jobs to make ends meet and my second employer says I can never get a full time job because I need things repeated to me often, ask other people for advice instead of making decisions on my own, and am quiet, shy and not a people person. If I can't catch on to instructions when being told them once and remember them and make more of my own decisions and make the right ones, I will always be the struggling loser that I've been. Any advice?What an insensitive jerk you have for an employer! Many of us have that problem. We have jobs where we need to be told things more than once before we catch on. We also have to ask questions, especially in a new job.
I know that as the boss, I never expected anyone to catch on to everything immediately. Anyone who does is being very unrealistic.
I looked for people who cared enough to ask questions and to persevere. Many of my favorite employees took a long time to catch on but that showed me they cared enough to struggle to learn, rather than walking off. I knew I could rely on them to do the job well as they wanted to do it right and most of the time, that perfectionism was a big factor in their taking so long to learn. Once they had it nailed, their speed picked up.
If you are in a job where you are constantly having to learn new things and there is a lot of frequent change, I would agree that it isn't a good match. If it is a matter of learning something and then using it repeatedly, you can and will learn and become confident with time and repetition.
As you become more comfortable with the job, try to think things through and do them, rather than to always ask. Think about how important something is and start with the minor things so it won't affect the big picture. As you realize that you can do those, your confidence in your ability will pick up.
One suggestion I have is that when you do ask for help, don't ask how to do it, rather ask "is this the way I am supposed to do it" or "is this how it goes?". Once you see that you do know, it will help and it will show the people you ask that you don't intend to make a career out of asking them to do your job.
If I were in your shoes, I would look for another job. That employer is not a good match for you and will continue to undermine your confidence in yourself. You need a boss who is encouraging rather than quick to complain.
I can't work for a critical person, but I thrive in an atmosphere where I am told that I can do it, just to believe in myself, that the world won't end or the business fall apart every time I make a simple mistake. There are many personality types in management positions, just as there are everywhere in life. Its as important to find the right environment to work in as it is to have confidence in yourself.
You are capable of having a full time job. You just need to get away from the critical atmosphere you are in now. Ask around and try to find a place where the workers are happy with their direct superiors. Chances are that they have an encourager for a boss and that you will be happy there also.
Look at Capd cause this might fit you also. Then call Tomais listening and ask how you can get their Cd's frm a trained therapist to have you do.
If that remark was made this is a discrimination comment which is unlawful.No one should ever choose not to hire based on a disabilty issue. I would call that person and report to BBB and employment servioces and disability rights people. Unless we stand up to others Usa education will never change.
R Nelson