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Since you are very firm with your child, that may be the reason he doesn't show it at home. That means he has some control over it, but give him a chance and it comes out. My Mother was a little more than very firm so I guess she scared me bad enough the behavior was finally subdued. LOL But I don't how he could hide all the other stuff from you. Makes me wonder if he really has it.

By other stuff, I mean not being able to pay attention, staying on track without constant reminders, not hearing everything you say, mind wandering off. I just don't see how that is possible he could control that.

Now that my granddaughter has a little more control over herself she apologizes a lot and does appear to have remorse for it. Before she always blamed someone else. I guess she can see the difference in herself and realizes it more now.

Don't know if this helps, but I don't see how Mom could miss all of it. How did they diagnose this without your input. I don't get it.

Edited to add: Coming down with something like a cold or flu can trigger all the symptoms.

Edited again: I think this is something you should talk to the dr. about. Reinterate that he doesn't do this at all at home. My understanding of it is it shows up everywhere. I was always in trouble at home, just was able to control it as far as being as bad as what you read about on this site.
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I am sorry, perhaps I didnt elaborate. Yes you are right about the not being able to stay on track if given a task. I have to constantly tell him over and over, because not everything I say doesnt register, and a definate on the mind wondering off. I thought that was how most kids are. Perhaps I am wrong. but that is where it confuses me, because in shcool his behaviour is horrible, with the constant talking and pushing and cutting the line, because he has to be first. but his school work is so so. At home he does much better.

I now wonder if Dr. Jekel and Mr. Hyde had ADHD.Lol.

triche - Well he definately sounds like ADD. Does he do anything at home like swing his legs, twiddle around or anything like that? I still can't keep myself still all the time. I got in a lot of trouble in church for not sitting still, but had to learn how to control myself -- but it was almost unbearable. It took all of my concentration all of the time to finally do it. It was not so hard around my Dad as he would let us draw. But when it was only my mother it was horrible. So, there would need to be some signs of this, I think, if this is a real adHd.

He does sound like ADHD at school. Having to be first -- LOL --- they can't seem to give it a break. Not me I was too shy to act out the way I wanted too. But I did fidget. It's good you have taught him to control himself better at home.

I think some behavior modification tricks for school might get him in hand. If you can only get the teacher to work with you and let you know on a daily basis if he has acted up. It took my granddaughter one day of losing computer time at home to get her to cut down on the stuff she was doing at school (getting up from her chair, going over to other kids and distracting them from their work, getting a little defiant with the teacher). Some of them at least can control some of it.

Just a thought.

Can certian environments, or settings trigger an ADHD attacK ( for lack of word )

My 8 year old son, seems to be fine at home, shopping with me, visiting friends and family,etc. However the kid they describe in school doesnt seem like someone I know. Is it because they ( the school ) can only disipline him but so far?

This is going to sound crazy... but do ADHD kids feel any remorse at the bad behavoir?

It sounds like you have clearly defined rules and expectations that he is very familiar with. School is regulated but there is still a lot going on and a lot of change, switching subjects, etc frequently. That may be why they see it more than you do.

Stress almost always makes me worse and I have noticed the same with my son.

I thank my lucky stars everyday, that I joined this message board. It is such a great support for me. I only wish I had done it sooner. It helps me to grow and learn everyday. Just understanding that it takes my son all his concentration( which I now understand it is not easy ) Makes all the difference in the world. Instead of saying to him why cant you just try harder, I wil focus on the strenght that he is probably giving it his all. In school, I dont know what to say.

I also do understand that he should be commended on good behavior and finishing tasks in shcool, however more often then not, that is the case. What do I do to build up his esteem, when he even knows he did not do well that day?

Thanks, like him, I too will keep trying.I said something like "You'll get another chance tomorrow and you'll probably do better. I know you can because you are a wonderful child". Then a hug. Barb could probably give you several good suggestions. At other times I have said "I know it's tough and I appreciate your trying". Basically just be sure to give praise on the things he does well with at home even when it's been a rough one at school.

I know it's tough on you as well because you really want him to do well and not have to have the consequences. You are a good mother and I think you have done well with him considering what you are up against. He'll be so proud of himself when he is able to have a good day. It will come.
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Sorry I didn't read the other reply posts so forgive me if I'm repeating myself. I think the reason why your son is having more difficulties at school rather than anywhere else because there's a higher expectation at school - more demands. Always look at the message behind the behaviour. If he's having a hard time there, I'm guessing school work has been hard for him. If he's doing well academically, maybe it's a sensory thing.

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My son was diagnosed with ADHD 3yrs ago. I hope I dont sound as if I am in denial, but I do also understand that is also overdiagnosed.

But it is so funny that your daughter says the same thing as my 8yr old son. He told me a few weeks ago that he feels different. I tried to get him to elaborate, and he could only say, that he felt small. I was alittle fustrated that he could not give me more info. He too also says that he is not like the other kids. Him knowing that he has adhd, I wonder if he uses that as excuse to get away with stuff. Is your daughter on meds?

My son is not on meds at this time, I am going throught the process if having him re-evaluated so that he can get the meds, and have special services in school.If If I was skeptical about giving him meds before, I take it back. He recently had this City wide test (New York) and I was so concerned that he would not focus or do well, that I gave him two of his meds that I had saved from when he was taking meds and his teacher said that he had a fabulous day and could not believe what had gotten into him. Even his handwriting improved that day. I found that interesting. So now I am a firm believer that he does need the meds more than I thought.

Triche

Yes my daughter has been on 10mg. of Stratterra for about a month. We are still trying to find the right med. She was on Adderall first but after a month on it she got violent.

I do worry about my daughter being one of the overdiagnosed. I think she might be something other then ADHD or have other thing along with ADHD. I am trying to find a neurophysiatrist to re-evaluate her. I am having a hard time finding one here were we live.

I can not tell a diffrence yet. I think the dc might need to up the dose. Only side effects is appetite and she is waking up in the middle of the night agian. She is so pick already the meds just make it worse.

How is the Stratterra workin out for her? My son was on Adderall 10mg 3years ago. The only side effect I saw was loss of appetite and insomnia.

Have you had him evaluated for ADHD? I think as a mother we sometimes ignore what we don’t want to see. I know I did for almost 6 years. My daughter was always a handful but for years I blamed myself. I wasn’t strict enough or it was the environment we lived in ect. I am new to all this myself. My daughter who 7yr was dx with ADHD in October this year. I was very confused at first. I think a lot time’s we stereo time people with ADHD. I always thought kids with ADHD did badly in school, and my daughter is very bright she has no problems with school work and she is very creative. So there was no way she could have ADHD.

All the signs were there but it took two things for me to realize something was wrong. One being my daughter telling me she was different. The last few months when she would get in trouble I would say why did you do that or something like that and she would tell me she can’t help it that she is not like other kids or she would say I am not a normal kid. That made me realize something more was going on. The second thing was when she got an F on her spelling test. This was not normal for her. I asked what happened at first she just said she didn’t fill right. Later that day I found out she got in trouble in class a few minutes before the test. This making it hard for her to concentrate on anything (she was still crying she is over sensitive).

Once we had her dx she has been alot happier now that she knows why she is not like other kids. Your not alone good luck.