First Impressions vs. Relationships | ADHD Information

I have this problem... when I move to a new place, meet a new person, or interact with someone for the first time, I'm interested in what they have to say, I'm charming, funny, personable, etc...  but after I get to know them or they get to know me, I tend to lose interest, and tune out during conversations.  If I put alot of effort into it I can follow what people are talking about and make a comment from time to time, but the only time I feel legitimately engaged in conversation is when I first meet people, or when we're talking about something really exciting.  Does this sound like an ADD related symptom, has anyone else experienced something similar?

Yep that is me. I hate it., I get so bored with people. At first they are so interesting and I love spending time with them then after a while I get so bored!

I think people can notice this. I can only stay interested in some one if they are a bit quirky or different and continue to teach me and surpurise me!

When my meds are working (90 percent of the time) that tendency to get bored with the people around me isn't there.  I used to be like that big time - people eventually stopped talking to me because they'd see the all too obvious boredom I just couldn't hide.

Now I find most people fascinating!  If they begin repeating themselves I can find myself reminding them they already went over a topic.  That in itself can be a problem  but I fight it and usually smile and nod.

The last thing I want is to drive people off like I used to .  So far so good!

It sounds like me. When I don't know them, everything they have to say is usually interesting. I've never heard it before. Once you have heard it all at least once, what is there left to talk about? That happens to me all the time. I tend to disengage from a relationship either when it gets too chummy or if it gets boring. Kind of self-sabotaging, huh?

 

 This seems like a double edged sword for me.

 My ADD wasn't found until late in my life. First impressions, breif encounters were always easy for me, but long term relationships (dating or just friendship) were impossibilities.

 Now with my meds, I can keep things going longer, actually feel a need for long term relationships, but now don't have a clue how to actually 'do it'.

sat - I know what you mean.  Now that you think straight you go "now what?". 

THERAPY - that's what! I can't emphasize it enough - get into a therapist who knows ADHD in adults.  Take Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) if you can find someone versed in it.  Great help I can tell you.  Teaches why you do it and how not to.  And of course what to replace the old behavior with which our instincts don't tell us at all.

Best of luck sat!