hubby coming home after a long year | ADHD Information
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hi everyone,
it has been a while since i have posted holiday blues kids on vacation etc. not real sure how to write what i am thinking and needing help with my mind is all over the place and i know you all can understand that!!
my husband is in the military he has been in iraq for a year and will be home sometime this month, i was diagnosed adhd while he was gone he knows i have been diagnosed and is very supportive well as much as he can be from where he is, i am on adderall xr the dr increased me from 10 to 15 mlg i am doing ok on it so far well i am a bit nervous about my hubby's home comming he has read info on adhd and has told me wow that is you babe
anyway i am a bit nervous since he hasen't been around and i know i am doing better but dont know what he is expecting from all of this and since i have no family around i dont know how i have changed and if it is for the better does any of this make sence 
so does anyone have any segestions or words of wisdom for me am i just being stupid help!!!
saphiremoon
http://www.iraqbodycount.org[QUOTE=Wordwoman]http://www.iraqbodycount.org
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That's pretty tasteless and insulting to someone who's husband had no choice but to go there and do what he was told!
I don't understand Wordwoman?? Why would you post that when this woman is just about to get her husband back but hasn't yet? People die in War. It is awful but it happens. I'm rather surprised and really don't think it was appropriate to post on this forum. I'm dumbfounded and rather disappointed. [QUOTE=barb]Without men and women like you and your husband, the people over there would be consigned to lives of fear, deprivation and tyranny. Thanks to you, they have hope for a better future.
[/QUOTE]I wish saphiremoon and her husband all the best. What in the web site address that I posted would make you think otherwise?
Clearly -- if others (see above) are going to make blatant editorial statements about how swell the war is for Iraq, surely I can post a web site that lists the number of civilian deaths.
I refuse to fall all over myself reassuring everybody first about how much I "support the troops." Don't get sucked into that false dichotomy. It's designed to quash dissent. It won't work on me.
Wordwoman38723.0166435185
i just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your kind words and yes i do think i was getting myself into that over stressing mode we are all to famular with.. this is my husbands second deployment to iraq he was home for 11 months and then called to deploy once again but i did know what i was getting into when i married him not that that makes it any easer and it does his and my heart good to know that there are so many people who may not support why they are there but do support our troops and that makes it a bit easer for all of our soldgers to go.he and i talked on the phone today and we did talk about his role when he gets home and he wanted my input on how he should handle things with the children house etc. the one thing i think we do have is good communation and we have learned from past mistakes and grown so lets hope we don't forget the past and what we have learned thanks again everyone i will take all your words of wisdom to heart
saphire
sapphire-
i'm relieved that you can see the difference between supporting the troops, and supporting the invasion and occupation.
i hope this is common amongst those that serve and their families.
our president, and his underlings keep trying to divide us by saying there is only 'with us' or 'against us', and that dissent with the president's positions is anti-troops.
i'm glad you and your husband are so close, and communicate so well. i'm envious.
again, best wishes for you!
Sapphiremoon, I too want to thank you and your husband both for the sacrifices you have made to your family for our country and Iraq both. Without men and women like you and your husband, the people over there would be consigned to lives of fear, deprivation and tyranny. Thanks to you, they have hope for a better future.
I will pray that you both adjust well to his coming home and that your family and marriage will be stronger than ever.
May you have a joyous reunion and may this be over soon so that not only does he not have to worry about being called back there, but so that all the others can come home also.
yeah sapphire, i just want to echo some of what's being said here.
first, thanks to you and your husband for your service. a lot has been asked of you for what is a highly debatable action.
your husband and his compatriots have been very good at doing what they have been sent to do. they have been dropped into a difficult, and highly stressful situation, and asked to do (well, ordered really) very dangerous and unpopular things.
most of all, for the both of you, i am glad he's coming home. hopefully, he won't be recalled, and you two can get on with your lives.
there will be plenty of readjustment for both of you, and dx'ed, medicated or not, you both are going to be different. even with the joy inherent in your reunion, there will be tough spots in resynchronising with each other.
having done some growing and changing on your own will, i believe, be a positive. after a year, you would be a little different than what he might expect anyway. at least now, you're on more solid ground, and have a better command of yourself. that will only be good for his readjustment to civilian life here.
he has seen things, and lived things that we can't really ever know. with all the anti-war stuff too, assimilating back into 'regular life' here will probably not be smooth and easy. there will be much under the surface that he struggles with.
you are more present and less scattered, and those are good things for both of you.
instead of worrying about whether you are too different, it might be more positive to focus on being there for him, and restarting your life together.
my best wishes, and thanks to both of you for your sacrifices to our country.
seeker6338722.6124884259relax, he is probably feeling the same way. there will be some changes good and bad. a year is a long time. remember for a year he has been told when to eat sleep and work and most likely has been doing this 24 hours a day 7 days a week. so he too has to deprogram to fit back into civilian life. so don't let your adhd be the in the way let it be. Like glen said your overthinking.
Just relax and welcome home your loved one and the rest will fall into place.
Not sure how long you have been in the military and if you are use to separation or just plain worried about how you have changed with meds.
If this is your first seperation then you are just feeling the normal anxiety every spouse feels in this situation. I do want to warn you that you may find your self a little irritated if your husband starts taking over the things you have been doing for over a year. Just expect you will feel a bit lost until you get back into a routine.
I however, mainly posted because I want to thank you for holding down the home front while your husband was in Iraq. I not only appreciate your husband for protecting our freedom and that of the Iraqi people but I want to thank you. You have sacraficed much and I just wanted you to know I appreciate you as well. I am so happy your husband is coming home safe. I am so proud of our military! God bless you and your family!!!
Auntie38722.4476273148sapphire - you are doing the old ADHD overthinking! You are the same person - only better!
The ADHD is just blowing the usual separation anxieties out of proportion. Try not to ignore the feelings (that makes them worse), rather acknowledge you are nervous and worried and just tell yourself that you can work through them. Remember too that your hubby has also been alone a year and probably worries how you will feel when he is back.
Just remember that this is a common issue with people who have been apart so long. And embrace the joy that comes with reunions.
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Clearly -- if others (see above) are going to make blatant editorial statements about how swell the war is for Iraq, surely I can post a web site that lists the number of civilian deaths.
I refuse to fall all over myself reassuring everybody first about how much I "support the troops." Don't get sucked into that false dichotomy. It's designed to quash dissent. It won't work on me. [unquote]
What I said was not an editorial statement. It was a matter of being supportive of someone. If you don't support what the troops are doing, don't say anything to them. Just say something about how glad you are for her that her husband is coming home.
As far as false dichotomy, how quickly some people forget the torture rooms and the videos of women being tortured to death and the MASS graves, the large numbers of people who died because someone claimed they disagreed with the regime.
i think you can support the troops and not why they are there and i know there are alot of military who may not agree with why bush has sent them there but you have to remember he is there boss and when they put there right hand up they swore to support him and his decissions even if they may not agree with it, i was not going to write anything but i do want people to know how much it means to all our troops to know that we support them even if we dont agree with why they are there i never thought when i posted there would be such a response to the political part if my post i hope it did not get any one to upset but my husband being in iraq is a part of my life right now i sometimes forget what a hot topic it can be i think of the danger everyday hoping and praying that today is not the day when a man in dress uniform comes knocking at my door
so i just have to say again thank you to all of you for your kind words and all the prayers for all our troops lets hope this is all over soon so they can all be home safe with there loved ones and to auntie thanks so much i was a bit hot till i read your posts
Saphiremoon.I want to be included in supporting you and your husband. I want you to know I support our troops and their families. I know that it is very difficult. I have 2 cousins in Iraq right now.
I am happy he is coming home. Just be yourself and give it time. Take care