Lowest Day Ever

I think she was being protective of her younger brother. My son will come home and tell me he wants to kill someone and then 5 minutes later, they are best friends again. I always call him on it, but when you consider all the shows and games they are exposed to that have killing and threats in them, its a typical kid thing to pop off like that verbally.

Unfortunately, we can't keep all that stuff away from our kids no matter how we try. We can and should use it as a springboard to discuss with our kids why saying that was wrong, and what other response would have been more appropriate.

I was looking up stuff about bullies and they said that they would blame the victim and deny... but she didn't she only told me about the arguemnet between the two boys after I prodded her for details of the story.  She also seemed to fell really bad when I made her think about the fact that that the boy might be actually scared that she meant what she said.  That if he took her literally- that would be a really frightening thing for a kid.  She hadn't really considerred that at all but was remorseful.  So I hope that I am right about her not being a bully- but I don't want to be in denial either.  I would be pretty mad if somebody said that to my kid.  I would think- "What rotten little bully."

Her punishment is no TV/phone until the weekend and she is missing a fun evening that she was supposed to go to this weekend-- dinner at Medievil Times. 

Hi guys- I feel so low.  Today a little boy called me to tell me that my daughter threatened to kill him.  This was on the bus.

I talked to her about it- she admitted it and apologized.  I had her call the boy and apologize and assure him that she would never hurt him and used those words becasue she was angry. 

I asked her why she said that.  She said that the boy was getting in my son's face about bumping into him.  And she said - 'Talk to my brother like that again  and I'll kill you.'  But when I asked my son about it- he said yes- he bumped into the kid and the kid yelled at him but it was no big deal.  I'm wondering if I have a bully here or what.  Just as a side note- these kids are all within a year of each other- my son is the youngest just turned 9, the kid on the bus is 9.5 and my daughter turned 10 2 months ago.

I called and talked to the kid's dad who was really laid back about the whole thing.  I wanted to make sure that the kid didn't feel frightened or scared because of the incident and he said no he is pretty sure the kid is fine.

I feel sick to my stomach about this. 

BTW- I don't really think this has anything directly to do with her ADHD- maybe indirectly something to do with her low self-esteem.  But I always come here for support- you guys are great.