Am sabotaging myself? | ADHD Information

I didn't mean to be harsh that's why I wrote the letters for you. Sorry I pointed out that by making contact you hadn't finished the project. (but its so much easier to tell others how to get ahead than to actually do my own work.)

BTW i love your pic, have we met?

I am a Massage THerapist and I need to find a place of my own to work out of here in my suburban town. I have on my calendar for this week to call a couple of chiropractors in town (there are only two) and I know who I need to call and what I need to say. But I'm not doing it. Why? Fear of being turned down? Afraid that they already have a MT on staff? And the emotions that go along with that! The self-reproach and the beating myself up.

I'm a procrastinator extrodinaire and this is another one of those things that I'm putting off and putting off. The longer I put it off, the greater the liklihood that my fears will be realized. So why am I doing it?

You are doing this because ... You are ADD! I also do the same thing! I know what it is I should do, but I just can't seem to make myself do it. This trait can be veery debilitating.

CALL RIGHT NOW! YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Let us know how it goes.

ADD I am the same way. I put things off to avoid the uncomfortable of this. I have anxiety disorder so sometimes I will do this to the point of making myself sick. The one thing that rings true every time is that I always feel so much better when I finally suck it up and do it reguardless of the result. On the other hand if I give up and abbandond the task I feel horrible and like a loser even though I avoided the uncomfortable situation.

I know is is easier said than done but just a little perspective to ponder as you avoid doing something that may or may not make you feel real great resulting in you now not feeling really great.

I have to force myself to do things I dislike or here it isn't done. I am just having to live in a Mess nothing new here. I always felt life cheated me. I still do. I can't get a oppurtunity with things cause I am underqualified. College doesn't work cause I don't even get the remedial reading stuff I have to pass before they will let take college classes. I am going to see if I can get my clep instead. This is a exam if you pass is just as good as a degree some places.

I was seriously going to do it today but I woke up feeling like crap (physically) and have felt the same all day long. I'm putting it down to physical illness and the weather. Hey, whatever excuse works right?

Hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow and can make rounds here in the huge town of Maumelle. Wish me luck, motivation and success.

Just take it one thing at a time, you can do it. Don't let failure be an option. And if you can't make the calls give the damn numbers and I will call and make up some massage stuff. [QUOTE=ADD&Proud]

Hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow and can make rounds here in the huge town of Maumelle. Wish me luck, motivation and success.

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Good Luck!!!

When I have something I have to do, I usually schedule it to be done sometime within the week. It takes off the pressure of having to do it today.

Sometimes it helps if you find someone who will hold you accountable. Do you have a friend or family member you can talk to and ask them to sit down with you and make a list of things you need to do, when they should be done and then call you to see if you have done them? In the case of the phone calls, they could come over if you don't do it when you said you would and insist that you do the calls in front of them.

You need a strong, stable relationship with someone to do that so you are motivated to do it, rather than have to admit you didn't do it. Still, there is nothing like the feeling that someone you care about is standing there, looking over your shoulder, feeling disappointed in you, if you don't do something!

Fisher, you're harsh!

Man! You're actually going to hold me accountable?! well as long as you aren't going to give me a deadline!

Good job, you made the calls. Now follow up.

Dear_______,

Thank you, I appreciate your taking the time to meet with me yesterday. I enjoyed your _________.

for #1)Please keep me in mind should your patients require any therapy at a time when your sister is unavailable. I would enjoy having the opportunity to cover her vacations, sick days or overloads.

for #2) Although I have not yet set up an office, I have a portable table and am available to do house calls for any of your patients who may benefit from my services.

Again, thank you for taking the time to meet with me. If there is any way I can assist your patients or your practice I will appreciate the opportunity.

Let us know when you've cut, pasted and sent the letters.

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Okay. I did it. Not necessarily with the results that I wanted. There are 2 chiro clinics in town. One has a therapist on staff (the chiros sister) and the other doesn't have room for a therapist but he would be happy to refer patients to me. I guess that's something.

So it's back to square one.

If it makes you feel any better, I have been putting off finding a shrink for my add for years. literally.

I was supposed to get checked out for postpartum, too.

my babe is almost 7 months old, and i'm just now calling a shrink about it today.

Nope, it's not an actual self-portrait, just a reflection of how I feel most days!

YOu'd be proud of me. I drove around and looked at some commercial real estate today in my town. Maumelle is a growing city and other than therapists that work out of the pushy salon/spa or the one that works out of the chiros office there isn't any. Not a clinic that is just massage therapy.

I don't know. I'm in one of those indecisive states of mind where I have all the pros and cons of the various options bouncing around in my head. Lots of bouncing around and getting no where.

I did actually drive around and look at some of the commercial property in town. I found a couple of places that look promising. My husband thinks that I ought to find 2-3 other young go-getter MTs and rent them space. That way I have a place to see my clients but can still take off and be with the kidlets after school.

Hopefully this makes sense.

Around here there are travelling therapists that go to businesses and do "quickies" for the employees as a morale /productivity booster from the boss. The contact ito make is the head of personell at the corporate office. Think, who's job is so stressful the boss would by him/her a midday head/neck/shoulder massage. Gets you started and builds clientelle without renting space to start.

Find your market before you rent. My MT is in the men's locker room at my downtown YMCA. He's always got 70% of his time booked and fills most of the rest with (naked) walk ins.