related to the anxiety thread.. | ADHD Information

Social Anxiety.  Don't have that one.  I like crowds and lots of people, just don't get me anywhere I feel "locked up" or I'll panic - there seems to be a multitude of anxiety disorders and they all make you feel like "less" of a person somehow.  Ya want to be in control, but, know your not.  Nice to have a support group here. 

How 'bout phobias?  I have too many, just curious - what are yours?

Mine or seekers? Or  both??

Well, I don't really have any bad phobias. The only one I can think of is fear of heights.. However, I can ride roller coasters no problem! Go figure on that one! Related to that is that I can not stand near a railing in even a second floor place.. I keep having these fantasys of them breaking and there I go plummeting to my death

As far as the social anxiety, that one is wierd too. I have been told that I have a good singing voice.. The first time I did it, the microphone shook so badly that I had to hold it with both hands.. now, I just get normal nervousness before singing. but,Parties or social functions where I feel I need to talk to others, make small talk -- that gets to me.. 

I have no problem going to crowded places, or even to other social functions as long as I have a friend that is kind of a crutch.. but then that friend goes off ( understandabley)  to talk to someone else for a bit and here comes the discomfort.. aahhhh...

I don't go to baby showers or retirement parties at work, I don't want to be antisocial... I really do want to change this. thus the question - ADD or anxiety? Looks like I have at least one vote for anxiety.

Well, it went from phobias back to my origional post,, sorry about that! Thanks for the support seeker.. I know I'm not alone but it certainly helps to hear, or in this case, see it Oh yep, I'm not a grown up yet either -- I"m only 40

sherry

I thought this deserved a new topic.. but related to the definitions of General Anxiety, I was wondering something..

I don't go to social functions if there are a lot of people there or if I cant sit near people I know really well.  I am very uncomforable, I don't know how to stand, I cant think of what to say.. I feel crowded, and socially inept.  In the past, I have just attributed it to shyness.. but i'm really not that shy... I can talk peoples heads off if you let me!

so then I was thinking it was more ADD related because, since I zone so badly, it takes such a concerted effort to not just go off into la la land when at a party or whatever.  I cant stand just sitting there, not knowing who to talk to or what to say.. its like chinese water torture!

But then again, theres this general anxiety disorder... yep, according to psychologist I have  a mild form of that... SO, would the discomfort in social functions be more related to ADD? or to Anxiety?  Thoughts? Opinions?

you have described me exactly! group things, parties, have always made me feel uncomfortable.

see my novella sized post on country girl's anxiety thread.

actually, i can't say always. but the more aware i've become through the years, the more self-conscious really, the more true it is. i'm much more afraid of embarrassing myself.

you know, looking like i'm not an adult yet. (which i'm not really, only 42!)