My daughters friends are being horrible | ADHD Information
My daughters friends keep doing stuff and not inviting her...they won't tell her why and when she inquires as to why they tell her nothing is wrong....this is horrible...I asked my daughter why she thought and she burst out into tears..and told me that she is weird..and they just now figured it out...that she has always been weird and this group of friends did not see it until now....
I asked her what she meant by weird (as if I did not already know exactuly how she felt)...and my daughter replied ...Mom not normal....I am not normal Mom...and started bawling again....
She who has ADHD and anxiety issues the same as me...is the typical..irratable ..tell it like it is ADHDer....It is so sad that there is not a fix for this...this social alienation for ADHDers is yet going to affect another generation...why doesn't some Doctor realize this and start addressing it....I can first hand speak ..it makes for a very lonely life.
Teenager + girl + ADHD = Is there any way we could all fast forward past it?
The only thing I can say about my teenage years:
Yay. Art and drama clubs!
Boo! Groups of girls.
Yay! Really smart dorks.
Boo! Girls who are "normal."
Yay! Wierd girls that are interesting.
When girls become teenagers, their heads start to spin around. ALL of them are wierd. The ones that run in packs are the mean-wierd. The ones that don't are not-so-mean-wierd.
The one that lies to your face is the one that will end up as a really fat dance major in college. True! I saw it happen! :P
Reisa
C.C that's just awful, I'm sitting here in tears. Being a teenager is hard enough, but being a teenager with ADHD can be even worse.
I always used mine to my advantage and my friends always knew I was a little different but I was fortunate enough to radiate towards people that were kind of like me anyway.
When at times it did get bad, like when my Dad got posted and I had to start all over again at a new school, I took to writing stories as no-one in my family understood me properly. This worked out too as I'm quite a good writer as a result of this.
Tell your daughter to be proud of herslf not embarrased, we have so much to offer the RIGHT friends that come along. I just put myself out there. The rejections killed me but I always found at least one true friend which is better than a group of superficial bitches.
My daughter is in High school ...unfortunately it is a private high school that does not offer much as far as variety as friends...but education-wise opens up doors for ADHDers ...so it is a good place for her for learning...I thought the private school environment would protect her from the general mean world...and now that plan has failed...she is not a "mean girl" she is very compassionate and loving....for whatever reason this is not a popular trait...and when I say she is a "tell it like it is" person..when she does not want to talk about someone ...she tells the group I am not commenting about bla bla bla's dress because I think it is cute......basically she goes against the grain when she is not comfortable with the level of gossip...this gets her the weird label...or when she did attend public school...it got her beat up...hmm.. sounds more to me that her alienation is more because of her good character and compassionate nature rather than ADD. Teens can be so darn mean...
I remember when I moved from here to Florida in Jr. High. I met some really friendly kids at the bus stop the first day, they showed me around, talked about classes etc..
But then the next day another girl starts walking up and they start yelliing names at her and throwing rocks... OMG! I was so surprised to see these nice new freinds treating someone else that way! I wouldnt do it. I ended up going and talking to her, they got mad at me. Now the really wierd part is, that the 3rd day - I was walking up to the bus stop, and all of them were throwing rocks and calling names at ME! Guess who was right there with them throwing rocks???
You got it. The same girl who I defended the day before... I will never understand the reasoning behind that one.
NOpe, your daughter is not wierd. Its the rest of those goofballs
Sherry
Seeker- you think you spent too much time with your comics? My ADHD kid's middle name is Logan... 
cc- i was never a teenage girl, but somehow i just know how that feels. 
both of ya keep your chins up. it's a new world, and connecting with mutants like ourselves is getting easier all the time.
who'd have thunk we would have a place like this, for instance?
i was watching those 'x-men' movies last week. it struck me how much it's like that. we're different, we're special. we have gifts we don't recognise, and we're frequently rejected by normal humans. our gifts are sometimes painful to us.
some of us use our powers for revenge, or we just don't know how to harness them for good. others have learned to master and use their mutations to help even the ungifted humans.
i'm starting to think i spent too much time reading comic books as a kid! 
I was a teenage girl with severe eczema and ADHD. I did have my share of being teased and bullied by a select few. Then my Dad taught me how to hold my own(Much to my mum's disgust). I dont condone fighting but it did wonders for my confidence knowing I could stick up for myself if the time came, which it only did once.
MAYBE SHE IS WEIRD,, MAYBE SHES VERY SENSITIVE & ON HIGH GAURD.. SOUNDS TOUGH .. IF SHES BEING BUSTED ON SHE WILL PROB BE QUITE AS NOT TO GIVE KIDS MORE MATERIAL , THEN IN TURN BEING THE HIGH STRUNG EASY TARGET.
THOSE PEERS SOUND LIKE DICKHEADS ANYWAY,, THOUGHT THEY WILL KEEP POUNDING ON YOURDAUGHTER AS A MEANS OF AFFIRMING THEIR OWN IDENTITY AS A GROUP HENCE, AND TAKING THEMSELVES OFF THE POTENTUAL TARGET LIST..
Sounds like an average day for an ADHD teen. I was also ostracized for not being able to defend myself from the barbs of the other chickens in the coop. There is certainly a pecking order and when a child of lesser rank can pick on and win against an unevenly armed child such as yours they automatically move up. It's painful and stupid but never changes.
You can't truly fight it - to do so is to put more pressure on your child as the interference will be seen as "ratting" and that is a further offence to them. You can't do anything truly but be there if needed. As long as your child is willing to return to the environment just be supportive.
My parents were in the same boat. There was a lot of tears and hand wringing. I would screw up at home and get into trouble but when away they were as protective as could be. I can't imagine how bad it was for them.
Just let your child know that no matter what your love is theirs. If they know you are going to be there when times are tough it really helps more than you know.
If there is extreme abuse then you must act. Until then you must allow the chance that she will fight the battle herself and hope for the best. Hard? Yes. Necessary? Absolutely.