Is this normal? | ADHD Information

Hi  everyone, I just got home from what had to be the most terrifying experience I ever had to go through! I don't normally follow hurricanes, but last night & today I did. We live in the Tampa Bay area and Charly was on a path right for us! Last night we had a mandatory evactuation, packed up our stuff plus our 22 yr.old Amazon parrot, Tequila, a stayed with my aunt. In the morning it was upgraded to a 3 than went to a 4! I've never even seen my husband this scared before. Than it started to move inland, near Orlando. Disney World closed. Those poor ppl weren't even prepared. I really felt sad for them, but relieved for us.

After we knew we we're safe, we all talked about what would have happend if we we're the ones hit: Tampa, Clearwater & quite a few other areas would no longer exsist. If we did somehow make it out alive, we would have no house( we've only lived in it for 2 yrs. and it was custom built)  We have ins., but here in Florida sometimes it's hard to collect. We would be jobless, no cars and everything we ever had.....GONE! and of course still have have bills to pay, like credit cards, student loans, and don't forget the car & truck payments, ins dosn't cover "mother nature". So now we're in our 40's and starting completely over. To me life is hard enough WITH what we need! and ofcourse I was the first one to voice my opinion: Just let me die in the storm, b/c I don't think life would ever be worth the hassle. Everyones reply, after looking at me like I have 2 heads:We would still be together, even if we had to live in one room, and probably be very poor for the rest of our lives! SH*T! I've struggled all my life to try to make it bareable, and have some nice things. I know alot of ppl must have stuff like this happen, but I don't think I could MENTALLY handle it. Does anyone agree, or do I really have heads?

Sometimes I think death would be a pleasant option also - all that peace and serenity - but there must be a reason for all this living and when I think about the wisdom I have derived from my experiences and my personal strength and fortitude gained from not giving up I have to consider that these "gifts" perhaps are the reasons for our trials.

Life does suck a lot of the time.  But you have to take the momments of happiness.  watching my child giggle or ride their bike for the first time.  None of this costs anything but gives me joy.

Life is not about material items nor is it about honour.  I think it is about our souls becoming enriched by developing and growing an attitude that not only gets us personally through, but can be a light for other people to look at and take some warmth and encouragement from.

When you are an old woman and your grandchild is just starting out in their adult life.  Perhaps they will look at you and what you have done and survived through, and this will give them strength and enrich their lives.

I dont think we see a lot of reward for what hard work we do in this life.  But in some small or sometimes large way it changes the generations that follow - do you want to be remembered for the woman that died helpless in a tornado - or the one that survived beyond adversity and rebuilt from scratch and pulled her family through.

Take courage from your forebears and from those that follow, believe in yourself and what you still have to offer the world.  Forget about what you are owed and believe that it will come to you at the right time, in the right way for you, when you are truly ready.  Believe and have faith - that is what makes all this sh*t worthwhile.

 

Its normal to worry about something like that. No one would like to lose everything and start over. You find your true strength when adversity hits. Most people, you included, don't think they can handle most of what life throws at us but manage to not only survive but thrive.

If I knew at 20 what I would have to go through as an adult, I think I would have died of fear. I didn't know and am so much stronger than I was then. Much of what I have gone through has helped me to help others. Of course I would change some things if I could but many of the things I thought would destroy me, I now wouldn't change if I had the chance. They have helped to make me who I am.

I want you to consider one thing. If your husband was in the house, and the house and all your posessions were totally destroyed, how would you feel? OK Now how would you feel to see the destruction all around you and then notice your husband walking out of the wreckage unharmed? That will assure you of where your priorities are.

Feel better?

Latina,

I think this is a normal fear, whether you have this condition or not. I frequently worry about all the things that could go wrong, whether they could cause financial, health or other problems. I guess we just have to be grateful for what we've got, take one day at a time, and work to improve out lot.

No different to "normal" people in this respect.

Thanks everyone! Y'all really put things in perspective for me and I feel sooo silly when I remember saying this to my family! For a woman that  prays quite often, and has never "blamed" God for any of my problems, Rae, Ideaspring & Barb, you just helped reinforce what I believed all along, but I was side tracked by fear.

To sum it up, I would rather be remembered for pulling my family out of a disaster to rebuild our lives, rather than dying helplessly in the herrican.

I usually do try to take life one day at a time, but i must admit, it's been only the last few years that I could be thankful for what I have, not for what I haven't.

also I do believe you don't know how strong you can be until something tragic happens, material stuff is replaceable, lives arn't. My husband walking out when everything else was lost, when I thought about that Barb, thats when it really hit me as to what was truley important!

Thanks again for taking the time to care. I needed to hear it from ppl who face the same problems in everyday life as I do.

Yes - I nearly lost two daughters in a MVA 2 years ago - my oldest suffered brain injury and was ina  coma for 7 days.

Trust me I would rather a tornado destroy everything I have worked for than loose my loved ones.

It is the most soul destroying experience - to even just come close.  I aged overnight (have a few grey pubes no (ooh that is more than you needed toknow) I just thought it was weird)

We are strong if we believe we are and a firm belief in God goes a long way too - faith and prayer is an amazing healer.

it's "normal" as far as normal goes. i'd wager though that no matter what random thought you have there are enough peopel in the world who think the same way that you could classify it as a "normal" feeling.

death seems a lot easier than living sometimes. i'm sure most everyone feels that way at one point or another, but some more than others and some with more cause.

for me it's not so much what I have to do it's the sheer overwhelmingness of DOING it. DOING life. being alive. getting things done. ending up somewhere. being happy. etc etc etc.

especially being alone a lot it doesn't help when you don't really have anything to live for other than just being alive. and when just being alive is this huge task that seems imbossible to tackle and have it turn out good it's real easy to say "f**k it i wish i was dead".

if i were you though. and I had something to work for. and someone i loved enough to call "husband/wife" then I don't think I'd ever want to give up. mostly i'm a stickler for love though.

anyway. i used to live in alabama near the coast. hurricanes suck. always messing with your summer. i remember being pissed at my mom cuz she turned off the cartoons to watch the weather. haha