It is so awesome to be able to talk to people who totally understand what I am going through. All my life I just thought it was normal, but noone seemed to relate until I got older and read up on it. When I did that, I was so surprised at how everything explained me! I am going to try adderal and see how that works. Thank you for responding!
Deeply distracted
JenipherMaybe you should make an appointment with your doctor to see if you can get an ADHD screening test. He/she may be able to prescribe some meds to help control your symptoms and make your life less hectic. Maybe you can also have some talk therapy with a psychiatrist, which I think helps a lot. Also, realize right here and right now that you are not alone. Go to this message board: http://www.adhdnews.com/forum/forum_topics.asp?FID=2 . You'll read a lot of stories similar to yours. Good luck and remember to keep your head up!
donny
being organised at home or anywhere is a talent that comes with age and learning and sometimes for somepeople it never does, but only because they give up. I used to feel like you and now I have found a way to cope.
I have thrown out everything that I do not use regularly. I have a place for everything. There are boxes for photos, letters (personal), filing cabinets, in-trays (at home too), tax receipt boxes, basket for undies, socks, medications, hair products, creams, medications, dirty basket for dirty clothes for each family member, I put the towels up high so I am only using the one and not getting a new one each shower. BOXES & baskets are my best friends.
When using something -MAKE YOURSELF (IGNORNING THAT GUT SICKNESS) to put it back where it came from. This takes a lot of practice but after some time it gets easier. And if you ever do feel like cleaning up - there is a place for everything.
But do have a big clean out - room by room and dont put something aside thinking that you will give it to so and so - if you cant put it in your boot and take it there now - stick it to the recycling or bin. This is hard - but with our messy minds neccessary. YOU CAN DO IT - I DID AND I AM BORN CHAOS.
Wow! I could have written your post!
Have you been diagnosed with ADHD?
My house was ALWAYS a mess, I could never have anyone over. I never picked up after myself ( I always meant to, but then there were better things to do LOL), I work from home and my office is a total disaster and I was trying so hard to keep myself organized and I just couldn't. You know when your online calendar and your post it notes are a complete and total disaster that something isn't right LOL
Basically about 3 weeks ago, I realized I was up against a wall so to speak. My house was a wreck, my kids (who are 2 and 3 months) were being affected by my behaviour, and my business/job was suffering (and I am the sole income earner - my hubby stays home with the kids). So that is when I started doing a little more research and started reading about ADHD and a lightbulb went off in my head. It was one of those "A-HA!" moments for me, and the next day I was at my doctors to talk about it. They did a series of blood tests to rule out anything else that can mimic ADHD and once those came back normal, I was officially diagnosed. It was one of the happiest days in my life to be honest (of course next to having my kids and getting married). I finally realized that I am not lazy, unmotivated, lacking any common sense etc.
Now that I am on meds, the difference is unbelievable. I can actually clean my house, and not at all be distracted to something else while I am doing one task. I wish I was diagnosed back in high school when I started seeing doctors and psychiatrists for depression. I knew my depression was always related to something, I could just never pin point what it was until now.
For me, I always felt totally cluttered in my head, I knew stuff had to be done but I never knew where to start so I just put it of and put it off until I was forced to do it. I was actually very busy during the day, I had a lot of things going on, I just never finished anything (ie laundry, dishes, business stuff etc etc etc etc). Before my ADHD diagnoses and my meds, I would look around my house (the cluttered mess that it was) and everything would kinda blend together, I couldn't break down in my head really what needed to be done. Now that I am on my meds, I can look in my kitchen for example and see everything that needs to be done, and create a plan in my mind on where to start and where to go next and so on.
That is my story, well a little bit of it anyways. I can just totally relate to what you are going through. I encourage you, please make an appointment with your doctor you will be so happy you did.
Also a really good book to read is Driven to Distraction. I am reading it right now and I am going to make my husband read it as well. The doctors who wrote it, seem to have written it so us ADHD'ers can actually read the book without getting sidetracked ;o) But it is a fantastic book so far, and I want my husband to read it too so he has some insight as to what goes on in my head :o)
Keep us posted on how you are doing and what the doctor says. Remember, we "get it" here and we are always here to lean on. I've only been on this board for less than a week and already I don't know what I would do without these guys :o)
I have adult adhd and I am having soooo much trouble at home and at work. I saw one time that people write down things that they have to do to keep up with themselves, and i don't know how to get started, or what to write. My home is a wreck, and i will do stupid things like not pick up after myself, and my husband is ready to kill me. I need help keeping my house in order, and my job in place. Does anyone have any plans or ideas to help me out? My husband says i have no common sense when it comes to anything, and it really hurts. How do i get common sense? i know i have it, but alot of the time it isn't important to me....
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jenipher