[QUOTE=asianaries]i mean..is it just me???...or maybe it's another disabilty that people haven't thought of...how come all the people in this board seems to be able to keep a job..i am taking medication (just started generic adderall) and it doesn't really improve me that much.[/QUOTE]
It's NOT just you. Most of us have trouble holding onto jobs for a long time. I can count on the fact that after 6 months to 2 years max, I'm probably going to get fired if I don't quit first. I've concluded that, in my case, it's because I've been trying, as a square peg, to fit into a round hole. So, I plan to change fields and keep my fingers crossed I'll do better in the new one. If not, I just turned 60, so don't have that long before I have to retire, anyway.
In your case, you haven't finished your degree yet, which should help you get types of jobs with less of a chance of boring you. I was out of work for a year and had people jump on my butt about accepting ANY job. I knew I couldn't--that I'd get fired almost imeediately--but couldn't explain why that was true. That was because I hadn't yet been diagnosed with ADD. I recognized the pattern, but couldn't explain it; now I can. I can't even make it to 6 months if I'm bored.
My point to you is that there's hope for you. Assuming your degree is in a field that really does interest you, you will be better equipped to find a job that does too.
sachetm38746.6830208333 Because you never plan to keep it.I know this sounds funny, but I love to paint - I truly do, but to sit for the hours it took to paint would almost undo me. I would have to have 5 paintings going on at a time to even keep going. Or I would have to get up and get doing something else for a while. I know that it was not boredom. I have a passion for painting. For me it was something else altogether. I found out that a reflex in my body that was never matured as an infant (I never crawled very much due to casts on my legs) was still bothering me. I have done exercises that have really helped me.
Maybe they could help you too. If you think you might be more like uncomfortable, this reflex could be bothering you. Check out the crawlers unite thread on the alternative board and you can get more information about it. The book I found that helped me is called Stopping ADHD.
I hope you find the job that will work for you.
I figured out at age 41, after a company wide layoff, that I had held a job at 32 different places. Most of those were by the time I was 27. Talk about a identity crisis! I think multiple jobs (over 10 places by the time you're 25 is pretty much par for ADD people).
Don't worry about it too much. Realize that yes, stability counts, but when you are easily bored, and you realize your current job isn't a life choice or a career it's about paying the rent.
Someday you will find your passion and that is where you should be regardless of the money.
Hey, I was just about to post the same thing and I saw your post! I am 19, nearly 20. This is my 5th job in a year and a half. I get terribly bored! I get to the point where I just want to leave!
I am currently in a boring job, dealing with numbers but in a Fashion office. Its so boring and my boss doesn't really understand me. It's always like "Oh Sarah's in control, it's all going to go wrong!" I think that is rude, I am very intelligent but I don't listen and make careless mistakes, this makes me look stupid! So I have considering going to college to train in a skill. I love writing, photography. Anything creative. I did think about becoming a teacher. I think what Reisa said was true, if you are good in your field then bosses require your expertise more than your attendence, organisation etc.. As long as you do a good job.
What are we going to do? I feel trapped and very down because of this. xx
thanks for the replies everyone ...but honestly..even the job that i like i get bored...i always tell myself that maybe i am in the wrong job and that's why i am the way that i am...if only i can work wit kids that i will be find...WELL...WRONG!!
i enjoy working wit kids thats the only thing i was ever passionate about..i figure if i get a job working with them..i will change my ways..i had the opportunity to work with over 100 kids last summer and it was the best job of my life and still is!! i STILL got bored though cuz i was workin 5 hrs shift and i wasn't diagnose with ADHD yet at this time..so wat made it worse was that i had gotten written up for something i had no control over...the BOSS said i wasn't paying attention to her and wasn't listening to her directions so she had written me up...BOY THAT MADE ME FURIOUS because i was so good with the kids there and everyone knows i was one of the best teachers there!! but no matter how mad i am...she was right..i really didn't follow her one direction that she had given me...can i say OOOPS i forgot!!
that's wat really is worrying me...a job that i love and enjoy and i still get bored...but it's not as bad as the other 15 jobs that i've been through otherwise i will quit by now.
i'm tryin to get my bachelor in teaching and i can't really see myself doing anything else...i'm still working with kids now and my problem is not with them at all..it's more with myself! each and everyday before i go 2 work..i have to prepare myself mentally and emotionally because eventhough it's only 3 hrs a day...i'm drained by the time i leave
asianaries38745.3057175926
The truth is that even when I find myself in a field that I find interesting, I still get bored sometimes, and there are still some aspects that i don't like.
I also still have a boss who sometimes annoys me, and some catty co-workers who sometimes annoy me. Also, there are some things about the job I don't like. However, at the moment, it's the best option that I have. (And, it is a pretty good fit.)
I think it's important to look at your alternatives and make good judgements about what you want ahead of the uncomfortable moments at work. Certainly, you can get closer to a better fit for you - but also you are right, those moments will be there in every job you'll ever have throughout your life.
I think it makes sense to lower expectations about what a job or a boss is going to give to you. An interesting job with a good boss (most of the time) is a great thing, but it is more than most people can realistically expect from a job. A job is something you are being paid money to do because you are working for someone else to do something they want you to do (their way) - not necessarily for you to do what you want to do.
I've also been in jobs that were really bad. I wish that I had used them as a stepping stone.
What is your best alternative right now - both to meet your current needs and your future needs. Don't fool yourself - your boss isn't going to look out for you the way a parent would. Regardless of what they say, you need to give them something so that they'll want you there - and future employers may not hire you if your resume is too scattered.
Dog is right, even if a job is not what you want to do forever, you need some stability in your resume. If it is possible do the job and keep it without getting fired, it is a good idea to stay there until you actually find a job you like better. If you think you are about to be fired, start looking for another job. I have only actually been fired once. I learned to read the writing on the wall and get myself out voluntarily.
For me, the people I work with are more important than the job I am doing (within reason of course). I have jobs that should have been interesting but stank because I had an idiot/insensitive/incompetent supervisor. This was a constant major source of stress and anger. I have mellowed a bit with experience, so that recently I have been able to tolerate poor supervisor - I spent a lot of time and energy "managing" my supervisor so that I was eventually left in peace to do my job.
I recently got transfered to another section - doing the same job. I now have the best supervisor in the universe! This is the first time in my life that I have actually felt good about my job. Up until now, the best work experience I had was at best tolerable with intermittent "clench my teeth and let it go." I wouldn't give up searching for an environment where you can feel relaxed and successful. But realize that it may be a long range plan to find it, be sure to keep your options open while you are looking.
i've been to so many jobs in my life and i'm only 22. i went to like 7 jobs minimum this one year..and i think i have gone thru over 15 jobs in my lifetime. wat's my problem?? well..1st and foremost ..i tend to get BORED VERY EASILY!!! and i will tell people this and they just think that i'm lazy and i'm just making excuses. i LOVE to work ..but it just seems that i cant even get thru a 3 HOURS JOB!! that's right!! i said..3 hrs!! even the job that i love...i wil still quit...sometimes i don't even think it's ADHD..i just think it might be something else. i mean ..i know i have ADD for sure ...but how come some people with ADHD can work liek 60 hrs a week jobs ..like my ex boyfriend and my little sister who both have adhd and I cant even survive a 15 hrs a week job??
i mean..is it just me???...or maybe it's another disabilty that people haven't thought of...how come all the people in this board seems to be able to keep a job..i am taking medication (just started generic adderall) and it doesn't really improve me that much.
GOD i would really love to work 40 hrs a week and not feel emotionally drained ....i'm goin 2 school so i can get a degree a make a living for myself but wats the point sometimes..because i cant handle working those hours than wat's the point in goin 2 school sometimes..
wat do u working adhd people do...how come ALL u can keep ure jobs and not be bored or SEVERELY BORED so u won't quit...i know everyone gets bored..but i get so bored to the point where i will just run ....
asianaries38744.4750462963lisa -
it only seems that way on the surface. Check out old postings and you'll see many of us with ADHD have had trouble keeping jobs (especially the kind where it's just for money not love). I too have had that trouble until I got help.
I have been (just a sample) a janitor, front desk clerk, firefighter, traffic controller, painter, maintenance, computer tech, teacher, store owner, drywall fitter, miner - it goes on a while. Most before 25.
Once you know life is screwed up that's a start. Now you have to decide what to do? Are you more comfortable with being the way you are than changing? That's a serious question as ADHD is all about avoiding stress and anxiety.
If the school has councilling available TAKE IT. Take whatever help is offered. Get a diagnosis properly for ADHD and run with it!
It gets better. I've been at my present job almost 4 straight years and going strong. And it's not interesting believe me.
Glad you are here!
Because you choosing the wrong jobs for you?