parents just dont understand | ADHD Information

lunytunes88, how old r you please? we perents dont know what its like, we get just as confused & frustrated as you, its hard for us too because us adults are expected to understand.they dont! unless they have add too, they dont understand wat its like to not pay attention n other stuff like that! my parents are trynna help me with lists, repeating things, grounding me, reminding me, alarm clocks--it doesnt work!!! its not as easy as they think it is. i dont pay attention to things cuz I DONT CARE. i'll only pay attention to something if im interested, and unfortanetly i dont give a crap bout the periodic table or how many points i score in speedball during gym. let alone any other classes in school. some parents dont get it!!! u have to have add to understand wat its really like. 

Boy you sound like my son.  I understand where you're coming from.  I was just like that in high school, not that I've  been diagnosed as ADHD, or anything.  On my report cards though I frequently had comments like:  I have to stay 2 steps ahead of her at all times, doesn't apply herself, goofs off, talks in class, disruptive, avoids work etc.  I don't get on my 15 year old too bad, because I think he can do just as well in college rather than university.  I live in canada.  In the states, my sister and neices live there, everyone is so focused on how well they do in school, so they can get in the best college.  It must be alot of pressure on kids.  My sons attitude is that he does well enough, in other words he passes his class'.  He is capable of doing very well, but he is not that interested in working hard enough to get a great mark, just a passing mark.  His name on X
Box live is Lazy kid.  I don't call him lazy, he calls himself lazy.  I figure at 15 he's going to have to take the rap for bad school marks later in life, like I did, but you can still be successful with a college education.

Any1 seen 'kevin & perry' well, my too boys are them kevin is mikey & mikey is 8yrs old, somtimes i feel like throttl him & sometimes i cant help but to laugh, then i have to go out the room any-way!

lunytunes - I too would really like to understand, one of the reasons why I'm here.  I have a teen daughter who screams at me grounding does no good, but what am I to do?  She can't make up her own rules as she goes along!  I do understand to a point but that still doesn't make it okay that she forgot, the rules, to do her chores, the project she had two weeks to work on and is now doing the night before etc.  Whats a parent to do? 

I tell my daughter that it's because I love her, not that I enjoy arguing with her and not that I'm trying to be mean because I'm really not.  Most times it hurts me just as much as it hurts her, but I'm trying to help her make good choices and be all that she can be!  I'm sure that's how your parents feel too!  Its only because we care and worry and want the very best for our kids.

To a lot of you I suggest makeing your kids sit down and working out a plan. Having ADD is not easy at all and having someone running around behind you stressing you out with non-helpful suggestions and prouding... Ugh!

I'm seventeen and have finally actually talked to my mom about all this different stuff instead of getting pissed at her. Luny, talking on here isn't going to get your parents off your back and your life on track. Talk to them, I mean REALLY talk to them. Tell them what works for you and what doesn't. Tell them what you want out of your life. You'd be surprised to find out that they really just want the best for you and are trying to help.