I work with another person who has add. It is so much easier to see how I have appeared to others when I see someone else doing certain things, and it has made me want to find solutions both so I am not so annoying, and to work around this person.
I sometimes cover work for this person at their desk, and when I do - I find the desk cluttered with no space for me to put even one piece of paper. Obviously, it makes it very difficult.
The person comes in minutes before I have to present information to a group - with half hazard notes for me to use, pieces missing, etc. The result is that I don't have enough time to go over the material so that I feel comfortable. And, it makes me look unprepared.
The person says how they feel to work groups and others, and complains, often repeating themselves that day and on different days. However, they also become very upset when others "waste" their time.
The person sometimes rages and seems to think that this should be something others should put up with.
The person almost sounds like a teenager with a bad attitude at times - and this is an adult. Then, this person doesn't undersand why others are annoyed.
The person also sometimes completely misinterpret situations and insist on "sticking to their guns" anyway. Even when they realize that they were wrong, this person doesn't apologize or admit the error.
When they make mistakes, rather than rearrange their circumstance so they do it less, they think everyone should just say it's ok - over and over and over again, even though it's causing trouble for others.
The person needs a lot of explanation about certain things they find difficult to understand. Then, the person also becomes upset with others for being "slow."
All of that, and I do actually really like this person. I also understand add somewhat since I've been diagnosed myself for more than a decade. Even so, I find it really annoying.
It's been a kind of gift though because, by working with this person, I can understand more about some of my own tendencies and how they appear to others. Of course, it's given me more of a desire to develop coping strategies so that I don't do these things.