I've written on this forum before. Although its been awhile, I feel that I am again at a dead end. I am going to write a long story short.
I had seen "behaviors" in my son since he was 3. This included banging his head on the floor when he didn't get his way and I dismissed it just as being a hard head or spoiled. Some things decreased as he turned 4. No problems at daycare or anything. Then enter kindergarten. It was a nightmare. More red flags were going up. These included: rages. How can I describe these rages. Seems totally out of control, will bite, hit, spit making hissing sounds calling people names. Some self injourous behaviors as well, picking up scissors but these were always threats. We went through testing all last year. Even an MRI was done. Finally his DX was bipolar. He is now on Depakote and Tenex. I thought it was wonderful at first. But now he is seven and in first grade, the effects seem to be waring off. We've gotten a new DR. His other doctor was blaming it all on the school which I know is not true. Because he has behaviors like this at home. His school and teachers have taken alot of abuse from him. From his hitting and spitting to calling the teacher a nimpcapoop. His most recent behaviors include talking of death all the time (no deaths in our family) the hissing and spitting, having almost animal like behavior, hitting his 78 year old great grandmother, calling everyone in his site stupid, saying everyone hates him, picking up a sewing needle saying he doesnt care, that he'll just kill himself. He will do things then smile and even laugh about it. When you are getting ready to punish him or have punished him he smiles. The list goes on. On Thursday we saw his Dr. He put him on Foclin on top of the other two I listed. It was all the mentioned above times 3. Itwas totally awful came home from work, he instantly burst into tears shaking. Almost infant like behavior. I don't know what's going on with my little boy. I miss him so much. I'm at a dead end. Anyone with any advice or kind words please reply.
Thanks.
ADT's Mom
adtsmom38762.3878703704I feel for you..My son as a baby up until he was 2 use to bang his head on floor or concrete whatever was available it was horrible. I have not seen such behaivors in him like yours but he is a very angry and sad child. He is ten know and i can't remember the last time he was my "boy". He is very detached emotionally and i don;t know how to get through to him He does very well in school and they tell me that their is nothing "wrong" with him, but as a mother i feel their is. Just wanted to let you know that their is someone out here who understands.Hi my name is Matt, I am 15 years old, and I have been diagnosed with ADHD. I was diagnosed with it when i was about 5 years old. I was climbing up anything, if i could get a grip on it i would climb it. I have been on medicine every since. For awhile i was off of it and then things started getting out of control, when i moved in with my aunt. I started arguing and making her really mad at me. I didn’t understand why i was making her mad and why i was always getting in trouble. I have been running from my problems every since i got off the medicine. The reason i didn’t want to get back on it was because the last medicine i was on, strattera, made me really sick. My doctor said that this was normal for some people because it is a non stimulant. After speaking with him and my aunt about the medicines and learning about them more i agreed to give the medicine another try. I now take a new medicine called Focalin. It seems to help me when i am on it but from what my aunt has said you can tell the difference from when i am on it and when i am off it. I have never really had any problems in school i am just very argumentative and very impulsive. I now know from reading about my disorder that it never goes away. I just have to learn to control it. I am working on controlling it by trying to tell myself to slow down and think but it is truly a battle, a battle inside. it is really hard and no one really understands me and how hard it is to control it. I am slowly understanding myself and how to control it i just think it will take some time. I am hoping by signing up to this board and posting this message that i will find people my age and others with this disorder to talk to. Please feel free to contact me and post on this message.
Thank You,
Matt
I would really like to talk to someone.I understand completely I have been looking since son was 4 months. He only slept if put in fetal position and rocked to sleep. Still sleeps this way. I could do nothing in the home he cryed all the time. I thought he was spoiled. He had earaches alot also. He is almost 10 now. Our son is on depakote also. That is a 12 hr. drug. I am looking into uping our sons. To me our son has never been quote normal. I did have a cousin die while I was pregnant with him. Our son avoided toys when younger. He has always been behind peers. I asummed cause just young end of the spectrum. I knew it had to be more when he qualified for ECI at 1. He is nothing like the kids in his class. The kids annoy him. He has told us and the psychologist both. He has always struggled in all areas. What makes this hard for us is a correct dx. The good thing is today the kids have better and more interventions than in the 70's and 80's. We have seen the therapies help our son along with what we do at home. Discpline is harder today cause work is not what lots of them prefer not to do. Non of the traditional ways work with our son at all. You not alone out there. I get more help here than my spouse gives. RNADTSmom,
My son does the same thing but my son would have breatheholding spells and turn blue if he didn't get his way these started when he was one and lasted till he was 3. last week he didn't get his way and we had to get his little brother he was trying to break the window with his head he calmed down after about 40 minutes. But now my 3 year old is doing all that. And after my son's doctor's appointment I am going to find out if I can get my other to tested for disorders too. I would get another evaluration for your son...just trying to help.