You guys have given me some great advice, and it's really nice to know i'm not alone and there are people out there that will support me. I know i need to keep the lines of communication open, but my family has never really been very good at that, and sometimes i just don't know how to start talking to them about anything, but hopefully ill figure it out, i just have to try. you're all awesome for listening and trying to help me!
Hey dude i am 15 and a sophmore but i kind of had the oppostie my parents said i had it and i denied it for a whileThis is my story
Hi my name is Matt, I am 15 years old, and I have been diagnosed with ADHD. I was diagnosed with it when i was about 5 years old. I was climbing up anything, if i could get a grip on it i would climb it. I have been on medicine every since. For awhile i was off of it and then things started getting out of control, when i moved in with my aunt. I started arguing and making her really mad at me. I didn’t understand why i was making her mad and why i was always getting in trouble. I have been running from my problems every since i got off the medicine. The reason i didn’t want to get back on it was because the last medicine i was on, strattera, made me really sick. My doctor said that this was normal for some people because it is a non stimulant. After speaking with him and my aunt about the medicines and learning about them more i agreed to give the medicine another try. I now take a new medicine called Focalin. It seems to help me when i am on it but from what my aunt has said you can tell the difference from when i am on it and when i am off it. I have never really had any problems in school i am just very argumentative and very impulsive. I now know from reading about my disorder that it never goes away. I just have to learn to control it. I am working on controlling it by trying to tell myself to slow down and think but it is truly a battle, a battle inside. it is really hard and no one really understands me and how hard it is to control it. I am slowly understanding myself and how to control it i just think it will take some time. I am hoping by signing up to this board and posting this message that i will find people my age and others with this disorder to talk to. Please feel free to contact me and post on this message.
Thank You,
Matt
Don't worry Matt, you're not the only one here that constantly has a battle raging inside you. you sound like you're really making an effort to control it though, so i'm sure you will be able to eventually, just keep working at it.
Hey Tyler,
I know it can be VERY tough talking to your parents but when your mom or dad are kinda just sitting around not doing anything and aren't in a bad mood. Just sit down by them and look them in the eyes and say " I really need to talk with you" It is so hard to say that first sentence. Atleast for me. Once you get going though don't stop. Get all of your feelings out. It feels as though someone has taken bricks off of my shoulders after i get something off my chest. I still have problems sometimes with opening up. My family is open but, not a ton. My husband's family isn't at all and when I need to talk with someone in his family I wait until we are alone and just say I need to talk with you. It sounds like your biggest thing right now is opening up to your family. I wish you luck! I hope you can get through this and I hope it's with your parents by your side!
:) Gina
That would probably be a good idea, but it's so hard to do, i've never been very good at being that open with people, and when I get into that kinda situation I end up not having the words i want to say...I want to try, but I'm just not sure how it would go over, I guess you're right and I should just do it and get it all out. thanks GinaTyler88,
Once your doctor and you talk about it and your doc agrees with you, how about asking your doc if he would be willing to talk to one of your parents on the next visit. Just a thought.
Hi, my name is Tyler, I'm 17, a senior in high school, and I think I have ADD. I've thought this for a long time and people make fun of me for it a lot, which I don't think is fair since I havn't been diagnosed with it or anything, it's really annoying, and kind of hurts. But yea...I've tried to talk to both of my parents about this separately(they're divorced) and my dad seemed mad and like why would I ever think about that and acted like it was some terrible disease and my mom just said something to the effect of "I don't think you're add, you're probably just busy." I'm going to try to talk to my doctor about in a couple weeks when i have to get a physical for track, but I just don't know how i'm supposed to talk to my parents about it, without them getting mad or without me just backing down and agreeing that i dont have it and i'll be ok on my own...
thanks for anyone that can help, or just give me support!
Thanks Auntie, that sounds like a good idea. Hopefully my doc will go for that, it would definitely be a lot easier than trying to face the parental wrath myself.When I was a kid... ok who am I kidding... My parents thought that as long as my school work was good, everything was fine. Now, as long as I keep a job, everything is fine. They have some issues.
The bottom line is, you live your life. You are the only one who can truly know what goes on inside your head. Hopefully your parents are not like mine, and they will come around. Even if they don't and you have to back down, you will be 18 soon. I will be time to take care of yourself, and make your own doctor's appointments.
This forum is very supportive, you aren't alone. Best wishes, let us know how it goes!
Hey Tyler,
I know how it is. Honestly I do and some doctors I have seen haven't taken me seriously. I was diagnosed with ADHD a little over a year ago and my 3 year old daughter has it as well. We also think our 20 month old has it. My mom kinda blew it off when I told her why I was going to see a doctor because she has it and my grandma has it and they never used meds for it and she thought I shouldn't either. She already knew I had ADHD and she knew when I was only 1yr old. I felt like my feelings were wrong and I wasn't strong enough. I went to the doctor anyway and I feel A TON better than I did 2 years ago! Anyways, I wanted to say that you should see a Psychiatrist. They are great! I am finally getting good care. Also maybe try taking a ADHD evaluation online, printing it out and showing your mom. Mom's are usually more understanding and if it's effecting your life let her know and be completly open about how you are feeling. Good communication is essential and I think your mom would really love to know how you are feeling. Sorry it's so long. I just can totally feel for you. I've been there. Other places to get information are www.adderalxr.com This one has infor mation on what may happen if ADHD goes untreated. They also have an online evaluater. I can't find the other site link I had but, you can EMail me if you want it. It's a great Psychiatry info site. Also, there is a great book you can read and maybe have your parents read it's called Driven by Distraction. I hope this helps. It's just my advice.
Gina
Tyler,
Hey Tyler
Have you talked with your mom and dad yet? Just wondering how it's going. I hope you're making some progress. Just throw it out on the table. Or you can write a letter to your mom and sit there while she reads it. That worked for me when I had a hard time talking with my mom.
~Gina
I havn't yet, but I did talk to my doctor and he said he was going to call me about it because we didn't have time at my last appointment or something, so I think I'm going to see what he has to say first. I'll be sure to let you know how it goes when I get around to talking to them though!
thanks Gina!